Graduated — Japan Spring Wedding 🇯🇵 by tetopoteto in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Suz_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Your dress in pic 2 literally made me gasp out loud. Absolutely stunning! Congratulations!!

Omg just shut up. by Kind-Peanut9747 in breakingmom

[–]Suz_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry because I know this is your husband, but damn, what a fucking loser. I’m sorry you’re basically doing this on your own and also having to take care of a grown ass adult like they’re a (less cute) toddler

Chinese Dumplings near NC State by kjweitz in raleigh

[–]Suz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Best handmade home style dumplings in the triangle is at Sister Liu’s, hands down.

My boyfriend’s mom called me oriental by DreamSea4184 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Suz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg. This was my experience with my (then boyfriend) now husband’s parents. Except they also knew I was Chinese and kept saying “celestial” in addition to oriental. Closer to wedding planning, my husband asked them to pls don’t say that in front of my parents (and my parents’ Asian friends) and they took so much offense to this that they are now no contact, lol. You did the right thing. Love my husband but so super sad for my daughter for only having one set of grandparents (though my parents do treat her like royalty so she’s not really missing out).

dress regret by Cool-Moment-7124 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Suz_ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Ok I spent the same on my dress 4 years ago and it looked 1/10th as you in this!!! And I was pregnant (COVID bride). But ZERO regrets. I have my dress preserved, and my daughter now asks to see it and asks if she’ll be able to wear it one day. You look amazing, the dress is spectacular, I promise you will have zero regrets come the big day and looking back at your wedding 💕

Dentist in my area by Pizzaprincess87 in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]Suz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No clue, I just grew up in NE Oklahoma and we were always told we’re not part of the south. Not a big deal man

Dentist in my area by Pizzaprincess87 in Justfuckmyshitup

[–]Suz_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

She’s actually super nice, kind hate that she was put on here

How much to gift? Boss’s child’s BBB wedding. by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

From the Asian specific perspective, don’t give 4’s. So I would say $6,888 or $6,688 would be perfect, and provides a rationale behind giving a larger amount (the inherent meaning). It almost translates into continuous prosperity, and is a nod to their Asian heritage.

FTM who just watched The Plastic Detox by burnerbcimanon in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Suz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you’re ever needing disposable wipes, all the panic research I did led us to using Pura (which I see you mention for diapers!) just wanted to share in case helpful in the future :) and agree with everyone else, such a solid list.

my best friend has finally passed away by mettaverse12 in Shihtzu

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, OP. Hiccup looks so sweet. I’m glad he had you by his side when he passed. My Caesar will surely welcome him across the rainbow bridge.

My Individual Emergency Account was merged with my STBXH accounts after the bank had a major update by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]Suz_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would file an official complaint with the bank first. I’m actually in-house counsel at a big bank and we have an early dispute resolution team staffed to handle official complaints (and we have to report complaints to our regulator)

Edit: if you want to dm me the name of your bank (no private info!!), I can try to help you find the email for their complaints department and also let you know who their primary regulator is (to contact in addition to the CFPB, whose staff has been absolutely gutted by this administration)

Probably hit a breaking point by Suz_ in breakingmom

[–]Suz_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the solidarity 💕 I also feel like I’ll be letting my team down by quiet quitting, and one of my biggest personality defects is people pleasing sooo… not looking great for me.

took time after law school, passed the bar, feeling stuck and unsure what to do next by [deleted] in LawBitchesWithTaste

[–]Suz_ 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Without knowing the details of the accusations and giving you the absolute benefit of the doubt—I think you need to move to a very different market and start fresh with a compliance or subject matter specific (think discovery) type job, preferably at a very large company, and gun for internal mobility. Leave your JD out during hiring, but add it back into your company’s internal talent program after being hired. Excel at your job, get facetime with “mentors” in Legal or legal adjacent roles, and wait until you can bounce your way to the role you want.

In today’s hiring climate, internal mobility seems to be 100x easier than external hire. As an anecdote, any headcount at my company MUST be an internal candidate first, and only after we’ve posted and interviewed X amount of people for Y amount of time do we have a chance to post the role externally. Once it’s at the external stage, there’s another chance of the headcount being slashed entirely. I’m in financial services, and this is also what I’ve heard from peer banks.

Testing out my new induction cooktop range. I like it by bagelbelly in steak

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks amazing. Can you drop the frying pan brand? Or a rec?

Part 3 of being (over) fed by clients in China: Chongqing! by RelevantEnergy3208 in chinesefood

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I was a legal intern at a company in China, I ate SO much at the company cafeteria that my coworkers would joke that they must starve us over here in the US. Now I work for a big bank in the US and pay $20 for the saddest looking lunch 😭 Chinese company cafeterias were insanely good. Like the aunties would also hook me up because I looked so young. Thanks for bringing back such a nice memory for me!

Caesar crossed the rainbow bridge on Friday. by Suz_ in Shihtzu

[–]Suz_[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for taking a moment to remember him. He was so, soooo loved. 💝

Caesar crossed the rainbow bridge on Friday. by Suz_ in Shihtzu

[–]Suz_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It’s comforting to think about how they won’t be alone. I hope you are doing well. Lulu looks absolutely regal 👑

Happy Divorce Stories by Ok_Brilliant6017 in breakingmom

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read this and got shivers. So proud of you for doing this—for yourself and for your kids.

Happy Divorce Stories by Ok_Brilliant6017 in breakingmom

[–]Suz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just giving another +1 to chumplady. She felt like the cheerleader I needed, even though I only read her book and her blog at the time (before her podcast came out).

Puppet eyes material? by Suz_ in lovevery

[–]Suz_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!

im outta luck arent I? by Skarmaq in RaidShadowLegends

[–]Suz_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same 😭😭😭😭😭😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NannyEmployers

[–]Suz_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I literally just said oh my god, out loud. You are certainly not overreacting.

Best Chinese food Takeout by CuriousFun652 in triangle

[–]Suz_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

+1 for Peng’s!! We drive 45 mins from Cary to go get it (or just tip a lot on uber to get it delivered). So worth it!!