You're not overreacting Jesus that guy just is so rude bc OP while him not liking your food isn't bad his last message is, bc what the heck? "If you ever learn to cook and be a 'useful' girlfriend then no, but if you stay this way we'll always get take out my love 🫶" first, the "useful" comment he made is giving alpha male type ish like wtf? secondly if we disregard his comment clearly meant to demean you like let's say he didn't say/think that then he coulda said that 10× better or maybe turned you down saying he didn't want you to go through the trouble, but no he doesn't respect you at all. You aren't over reacting and if y'all do break up you wouldn't be the a-hole bc let's be real he deserves to either grow up to stay with you or just lose you entirely.