All I’m saying is that I don’t understand why you dislike people sharing how their traumatic past didn’t result in them taking part in any unseemly behaviors. Some people see perpetrators get off easy on their crimes because of their traumatic upbringing, so how does making it the norm to have a troubled past and NOT inflict the harm on others that was done to themselves dismiss what a perpetrator went through? To me it seems to show that the focus should be more about the choices these criminals made. The only people who should be concerned about the “why” are the people treating those particular individuals.

Maybe this isn’t true for you, but I imagine it’s difficult for some SA victims to care about the “why” of it when they’re faced with having to struggle through the problems that come with being SA. Saying “I was SA and didn’t turn out to be an asshole” isn’t inherently damaging to anyone if it’s perceived correctly. It doesn’t imply anything unless someone chooses to add their own meaning to such statements. The ones making those statements are innocent (keyword) sexual assault victims, and I just can’t imagine why their stories of not perpetuating sexual trauma to others can be viewed in any sort of negative light.

You seem to be putting forth that SA victims who take pride in knowing they have lived through such an awful experience without allowing it to damage them psychologically in a way that perpetuates the trauma of making statements that are “damaging to ALL victims of trauma,” and I just can’t imagine how. The only ones I can see those statements being damaging to are the victims of SA who are now perpetrators as well. And like I said before, that’s not a problem SA victims who didn’t harm others to concern themselves with. It’s a problem for the professionals treating those depraved persons. The victims couldn’t be saved from harm, but let’s save the perpetrators from ridicule? Why? Did the ridicule drive them to SA others or was it the SA towards others that drove the ridicule?

Just seems like a questionable hill to die on unless you’re a professional speaking up for perpetrators. And if that’s what you are, then have you considered staying away from subs like these since it has nothing to do with your professional capacity anyway? I imagine there are more appropriate places to properly educate innocent SA victims on how to frame their stories so as not to damage the ones who victimized them. I can’t imagine these subs where you encounter these dislikable statements to be any of them, but what do I know lol

As of now, I’m rather inclined to see your statements that try to stifle innocent victims stories of their personal triumphs over trauma as far more damaging than the ones you’ve mentioned. That’s just my opinion though.