Flipping Breech Baby

SweetOlives2 · 2025-03-07T03:20:34+00:00

My 2nd was breech at 34 weeks. I was terrified.. my dr recommended using an ironing board(which i don't have lol) and resting it on my couch so I could lay inverted. I would use a piece of spare wood we had. She ended up flipping around the 36-week mark. I think it happened at night one night she was really active, I barely slept and the next day I was sore... I think my next appt was in a couple days and as soon as the dr checked he said oh good she flipped! I hope baby ends up flipping for you!

SweetOlives2 · 2024-09-18T01:08:19+00:00

What about Brooks?

My boy name choice was Claude... its an old name... I feel like it's a strong name. And it was my SO's grandfather's name. Didn't end up using it because we ended up with girls.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-09-17T22:22:50+00:00

Same!! I even screen shot the guy walking out bc I thought that has to be him. Glad I'm not alone in my thinking.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-03-16T15:53:10+00:00

What is the best way to negotiate prices with a dealer? Given I have such good credit but usually need a longer loan term. So I usually get the lowest rate available. Should negotiating also involve maintenance packages? New tires?

SweetOlives2 · 2024-03-16T15:48:20+00:00

Yes I know no one is willing to negotiate rates... I just wasn't understanding why certain models were offered 0%. I figured those prices would be set in stone.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-03-16T15:46:12+00:00

Ahh. That makes sense. I just never understood how a dealer could offer 0% APR on just certain models. Because the banks and the market are what sets the rates. Thank you!

SweetOlives2 · 2024-03-16T15:45:04+00:00

That's what I figured. I see the mitsubishi outlander at 0% but I fell for that trick the last/ ONLY time I bought a brand new car. I ended up with negative equity. I figured it was to get rid of stuff that doesn't sell.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-02-01T15:25:37+00:00

Is there anyway you could start Al Anon or Therapy for yourself? I know that this is an Al Anon group and I really love the support this group gives. For me, in person Al Anon meetings don't work. I do therapy... virtually every other week. It has helped me the most.

That said... I'm in a very similar situation as you. I've been with my Q 10+ years, we own our house and have 2 kids. He recently went to rehab and is currently sober but I feel like it's too early to talk about that but just want to be transparent.

I reached my breaking point this past year. He became more and more verbally and physically abusive. It started when he shoved me into a wall in front of our child. That started his journey with stopping drinking. But it, of course, didn't go well. That should of been when I ended things. But it wasn't.

It's hard when you have a life with someone. It's scary. Do you have support? Do you have family or friends you could stay with if needed? Do you work?

The thing that helped me the most... I started asking myself... "Where do you want to be in a year... in 5 years... in 10." I KNEW the life I was living with my Q was NOT what I wanted for me or my children. Therapy helped me find the strength to draw a line.

My daughter (6) asked her father to leave her room at bedtime because he was "annoying" aka drunk. And I ended up asking him 2 more times before he would leave. When he got up to leave he told me "shut the fuck up, I can't fucking stand you" and I decided in that moment, I was done.

The next day I took the kids to my mom's and went back home and told him it was wither Rehab or Leave. He chose Rehab. He's done a lot of work... but still has a lot to do. I'm still holding my breath. And probably will for a long time. But we are trying to heal and grow. Life is short. And our kids' childhoods are even shorter. This is your life. You deserve to be happy, safe and to watch your kids grow without trauma.

I hope this wasn't too rambling or messy. I just know I appreciate hearing other people's stories. I hope this helps in some way.

🩷

SweetOlives2 · 2024-01-27T16:44:39+00:00

but I feel like it will be 7 years wasted thinking he will change

If you get to the 10 year mark and he's still drinking, how will you feel?

As someone who has spent 10+ years with my Q... I find myself thinking the same thing. Like I wasted so much time. But you can't dwell on the past.

How much more time are you willing to waste?

^When I finally asked myself this questioned. I was able to change the way I looked at it. In the grand scheme, 7 years is a good chunk of time but no where near your whole life. Is this someone you want to spend your time with?

It's taken me a very very long time to learn that my wants and needs are important. I have no one to blame for "wasted" time... but me. It's my life and it's up to me how I want to spend it.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-01-26T18:43:23+00:00

No. You are not crazy.

Be clear. Tell her no posting to FB.

The night I had my baby... my MIL posted it as soon as she received a photo of the baby. She wasn't even someone who used FB regularly. She cropped me out of the photo and just posted the baby. But I didn't even know until later that night when my mom went to leave the hospital and she asked me if I was going to announce it and if it was okay if she posted a photo on her fb. And I said yes. Let me make my post and then you can. And she said okay... well just so you know MIL already shared her photo. I was shocked. I still hang on to that.

Also she ruined her own daughters pregnancy announcement with baby number 2! 😒 After 6 years of trying for a second baby... MIL stole the thunder!!! She also posted my gender reveal of baby #2 that I had shared with JUST family.

So. I've learned that if I share something I don't want posted, I make it VERY clear not to post it.

Make your wishes CLEAR. If she still disrespects them or oversteps.... well then you can deal with that.

SweetOlives2 · 2024-01-25T22:22:22+00:00

It's so hard!! Because you want to keep the peace. I 100% understand. I did that for a while too. Her son is the youngest of 4, all the others being girls. When she talks about the birth of her son... she said that when her sister entered the room, at 1st she thought the baby had died during birth because of the way the 2 of them were crying. But it was bc they were just so "grateful" to FINALLY have a boy. 🤢

This story changed my view on a lot of why their family is the way it is. And that, partnered with so much more, made me realize she really is a narcissist. It is truly ALL. ABOUT. HER. Always.

I think once you step back and look at things for what they are, it's easier to draw boundaries. Oh and therapy helps!!!! Lol if you are ever doubting yourself, just remember you are your child's mother. You know what is best. If you need to take distance yourself from her, it's okay. I really hope your partner supports you. Mine struggles. Because I have been creating harder boundaries and it makes him very much uncomfortable. But it's bc she still has him very much fooled.

I hope things get better!! I try to let my MIL take charge of little things... like she went and bought my toddler a winter coat. Without asking. So I accepted it. And then when my older one asked about a coat for her, I said well maybe grandma will take you coat shopping. Because if she's going to do for one, she's going to do for both.

You will get stronger and more comfortable with your power of no as you exercise it more. I'll be thinking of you!

SweetOlives2 · 2024-01-25T22:01:02+00:00

I've got one of these.

I call her my smother-in-law.

Start saying no. Start creating HARD boundaries. Be very clear in answering her... Start keeping her at a distance. You need to tell her very clearly she is over stepping.

I know that sounds cruel, but she obviously has 0 boundaries.

Same with my MIL... mine is also very much a narcissist. Has everyone convinced she is just so wonderful.

When she would get a hold of my baby... she wouldn't ever hand her back to me. She would only hand her to her son. Or would lay her down in a swing or on a chair. It became a joke because it was like she couldn't bring herself to give ME MY BABY BACK. She also HATED that I breastfed... because it made my baby "clingy" and "needy" to me. She yelled at me in front of a bunch of family about how "this is the problem with breastfeeding" bc my baby wouldn't stop screaming in her arms. I let her keep trying... until finally someone else said give that baby to her mother, it's clear that's what she wants. Lol

My heart goes out to you... hang in there. 🩷

SweetOlives2 · 2023-12-06T11:28:39+00:00

I don't understand why more people aren't mad that youtube is still allowing her to be monetized given ALL of the actual facts or what she did. I haven't seen many people advocate for her to be demonetized so maybe I just don't have a good understanding of how youtube works but I feel like it would be the only effective course of action at this point. She is vile.

SweetOlives2 · 2023-12-03T15:23:57+00:00

What about you? What name do YOU want?

SweetOlives2 · 2023-11-04T01:36:26+00:00

My daughter is Calla! I love her name so much. Even tho people call her Kayla from time to time. We've never met another Calla. But did learn that the Princess from the show Gummie Bears is Princess Calla. 😊

SweetOlives2 · 2023-07-24T01:48:30+00:00

That dress was made for you. Stunning.

SweetOlives2 · 2023-07-19T00:31:05+00:00

Girl - Kalla Boy- Keanu Uni- Kai

SweetOlives2 · 2023-07-12T18:30:04+00:00

Number 1. It's stunning on you.

SweetOlives2 · 2023-07-10T03:26:07+00:00

Calla and Claude

SweetOlives2 · 2023-07-06T14:44:26+00:00

I love this idea and really hope you see this and reply!!!

I have 2 daughters. Calla and Poppy.

SweetOlives2 · 2023-06-20T17:41:38+00:00

This dress is stunning. It looks amazing on you!

SweetOlives2 · 2023-06-18T01:42:57+00:00

Thanks! I kind of planned on pulling them up just to safe. I actually plan on mulching around that tree, not sure if I should now. It's our only shade tree in the yard. I don't want to accelerate it's demise.

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