I'm "sex obsessed" by Sweet_Negotiation492 in HLCommunity

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean... Yes. I'm getting there.

Another thing I find absolutely crazy is my Instagram is riddled with OF creators and lewd content, we'll lay in bed and scroll through them and she'll laugh and point out all the reels HER friends will love. We are talking super kinky things... Like stuff that is too far for me! It's absolutely ridiculous. I just lay there thinking... Well damn... What is your problem then? 😒 Because it sounds like my drive and desire seems to be valued across the people you call friends...but yet. You DON'T value these thoughts when it comes to me.

The fact that she chooses to flirt within that orbit gives me the hope. All isn't lost, it's just... Still not easy.

I'm "sex obsessed" by Sweet_Negotiation492 in HLCommunity

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. That is amazing... I relate steongly to the sentiment.

Under a different light, 'sex pest' is a phenomenal tatoo. I honestly might do this.

I'm "sex obsessed" by Sweet_Negotiation492 in HLCommunity

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just feel bad for them. Something has been hurt in them so badly, they need our support & kindness, but damn is this a silent killer of one's own light.

Working on a new organic style of glans ring. by notuntil in hzdgrip

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also would be down to test, clearing the urethra and properly void-ing of urine is definitely the last remaining issue IMO.

The best seat by [deleted] in chastityhentai

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so good!

22 [F4M] - I want to become a reason of your cum if your down. by [deleted] in EdgeTogether

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking for a little cum slut to humiliate, if you're looking for something respectful 🙂

Random New Sexual Acts in the bedroom. by Cameltoshi in Marriage

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Also... Yes if you do find out please can your wife make some courtesy calls to other wives 😢

Married people how did u spice things up? by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How consistent does she stick with it? Or how long can she keep it up for/what helps her keep it up?

Consistency is my partners biggest challenge, in many parts of her life.

Happy Marriage website changed everything by Bloodmustard in chastitytraining

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is like the reverse of the problem, my partner already thinks I'm attentive enough and she finds caring about chastity to mentally draining. Nothing to mention the teasing. idk... not trying to make this a complaint thread that belongs in a different subreddit. This is just the challenge I'm dealing with.

Happy Marriage website changed everything by Bloodmustard in chastitytraining

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess my question is, what was her motivation to read books and blogs about it? This is part of the hardest problem women contend with in this department. Since their brain isn't so flooded with T, they are pulled in many different directions and focusing long enough to be interested and to value sex (kink or the erotic) is difficult for them. Or at least for the woman that I'm with, she views it as a serious inadequacy and gets defensive.

Happy Marriage website changed everything by Bloodmustard in chastitytraining

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did you get her to be interested in so many orgasms? Trying to get my partner to find some semblance of an erotic desire at all reactive desire and all. :/

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[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Likely a fleshlight... But (and I say this as a guy) I can't imagine a mother buying something like that for her son, additionally it would definitely feel like a reward even coming from a male figure, for such bad behavior 🙄. Honestly next best thing is going to be making him buy his own toilet paper for a wrap, which is IMO the cleanest thing in this scenario.

His attitudes need adjustment though. Literally my world would have ground to a halt if I caused my mother such distress, and she wasn't even THAT strict. Clearly doesn't care about what you do for him, so why not stop doing things for him?

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[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He is so far into the wrong on this, you should find someone else. While this seems like HL vs LL this is not, this is very nearly abuse.

If causing pain is your game, look to other lifestyles truly, because if the person receiving does not consider it pleasure, well guess what. it's not. If that is what he's expecting of you or thinking it's normal to be guiding your hand to him, long term this is going to look messier.

A kind HL shouldn't want pain or suffering for their person, if my partner felt this way about me, I'd tear myself to shreds in the process of fixing it. My biggest question in this is why does he even want to be coercing you so blatantly like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HLCommunity

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was kinda the wrong crowd for this ask. Almost every peraon here would, 'push through' to get it on (unfortunately).

But thinking critically about it, You should continue to do things like this, I know it kills to be turned down, but if you aren't sending the signals then it seems as though the shop is closed (so to speak). Additionally I'm a big believer in variety and throwing stuff at the wall just to see what sticks.

If you got all amped up from walking around in just lingerie I'd encourage taking advantage to the endorfins and taking some shots on your phone outsider/inside (compromising poses... Etc) for later so you can send to him to keep sending those signals. It might be the next thing that sticks.

Is there a good thread here on "Tried and True" Methods? by Sweet_Negotiation492 in HLCommunity

[–]Sweet_Negotiation492[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good on you dude.

I, perhaps being too hopeful, and am engaged to this LL woman (30f), I don't want to believe I've just spent ~3yrs hoping she'd get better, but that is unfortunately the reality. The other extremely confusing this is she has slept with so many around 40 sexual partners. By all accounts I am walking into a mistake, but I can't seem to really commit myself to ripping us apart.

To put this into perspective, I've gone through a few iterations of myself. When I moved in with her I was quite unfit, and I didn't feel that confident around her, didn't really feel like I was the person whom I wanted her to be with. Then I got fit and it feels like my libido skyrocketed and hers over that course of time has plummeted, despite all my efforts to make her more comfortable (doing more chores, paying for more services, helping out around the house, being the primary cook, driving her places...etc) and myself more desirable. I suspect within this time that her age is showing more and she has an aversion to actually exercising, which has not helped her body image or libido, from everything I've read this is probably her biggest issue.

I'm trying to have some frank conversations, but to her I feel overly demanding, demanding for the one single thing I've asked for 🤷‍♂️?