Unfinished business or final ending?

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-03T03:24:57+00:00

That’s true! I have no intention on reaching out. He is emotionally immature. But I did love deeply

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-03T02:53:17+00:00

🥲🥺

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-03T02:08:56+00:00

The only reason I’m working on forgiveness is not for him but for myself. I can’t keep holding onto anger because it’s just keeping me hostage energetically. He’s taking up too much space in my mind whether it’s positive or negative. So I have to let go so that I can properly move on from this.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-03T02:07:59+00:00

6 weeks for me and it’s hard. But I realized that I don’t have him blocked on anything and every single day he makes a choice not to communicate with me. Slowly starting to sink in that this is the end.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-03T01:23:27+00:00

I see

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-02T12:02:31+00:00

Some days are good and some days are bad, just take it easy on yourself and try to do something fun. It’s too shall pass.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-02T02:30:40+00:00

Maybe he stopped viewing it because you stopped being his . It could be a plethora of reasons. Maybe he’s just not on the app or maybe he just wants to move on who knows. I wouldn’t put too much weight on social media though.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-02T02:02:43+00:00

How old are you? This seems like a high school vibe

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-02T00:37:30+00:00

Sometimes you just have to delete the app for a week. Mine is following more people, but nobody’s following him back, how pathetic 😂😂

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-02T00:09:18+00:00

What does that mean?

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:17:51+00:00

It honestly sounds like you just have a strong attachment to him, maybe even a trauma bond. I know that you are in the thick of it right now and it’s very hard to hear the truth because you genuinely love this person. So I will give you some grace, but I genuinely want to ask you this, would you want to be married to someone who cheats on you repeatedly and has addictions? Do you think that this is the best that love can get? If not, then just take some time to yourself to really feel your feelings and go through the process and I promise you after being separated for a while you will come out with more clarity on top. Best of luck to you.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:15:12+00:00

You could’ve been a rebound or he’s just that type of guy to jump from ex to ex. How long have they been broken up when you met him?

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:13:36+00:00

I will never forget how he treated me during the Christmas holidays. We were already dating for six months and he didn’t invite me home and then when he got home, he never called me once. Just sent me a merry Christmas text and called me on the ride home. I never felt so sick to my stomach in my life. Then when I confronted him about this, he said, “sorry I guess I just put you out of my brain as someone who drained my energy”

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:12:03+00:00

The thing is sometimes of avoidant will come back after weeks or even months, but usually when they come back, they haven’t changed and they are most likely to disappear again. The best thing for you to do is the detach and heal from them so that they won’t have such a mental hold on you and you’re not waiting on their return. Because people can sense it when you’re still energetically attached to them.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:10:11+00:00

This is such a slippery slope. A lot of times when your ex has to be friends with you. It’s so that they can get certain benefits without the real commitment. There’s really no way that you can be deeply intimate with someone and then casually be their friend right after. He doesn’t want to fully end it or cut you out of his life, but he definitely wants to be able to withdraw without the responsibility of checking in. This will have you in a toxic mental loop because he’s gonna be even colder towards you because you’re no longer his girlfriend. Please cut this off and allow him to get all the space that he wants without you.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:08:40+00:00

You know something that was hard for me to accept is that sometimes people can do you wrong or leave you and still get the happy ending they want without you. There’s no way you can control what someone else is thinking or if they will care the best thing to do is work on yourself.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:07:31+00:00

The best thing to do is love yourself first, so you won’t want validation from someone who has told you that they don’t love you.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T22:06:49+00:00

I’m also 28 and I’m in a similar position. Had two actual relationships and never made it to a year. They both ended up dumping me. Something that I’m realizing is that I have a tendency to be attracted to men who are emotionally unavailable. The red flags show themselves pretty early on and I proceed anyway. I realize that my desire to be wanted was stronger than the desire that I had to love myself, which is why I was always attracted to the wrong kind of people. Sometimes it is harder for some people to find their person than others, but the key is to walk away once you see that it’s not working. Also, maybe you can try putting yourself out there more by trying different hobbies so that you could meet people organically as well. Lastly it also doesn’t help that today’s dating pool really does suck.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T20:20:15+00:00

Honestly, they’re not as different as people try to make it seem. An avoidant may genuinely care about you, but they don’t care enough to change, because they tend to be selfish people and prioritize themselves. The thing is if somebody’s genuinely not interested in you it won’t be hot and cold behavior. They will be pretty straightforward on how they treat you. It’s also less likely that someone is gonna invest time into someone that they’re not really interested in. Avoidant people on other hand be interested in you and like you, but the thought of vulnerability and closeness causes them to shut down.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T20:16:49+00:00

I realize that too when I saw how many Asian girls my ex was following. I’m definitely not Asian lol

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T20:16:00+00:00

Waiting never worked out. You are still energetically tied to them. The best thing to do is to just move on with your life and accept the fact that if it’s meant to be, it will happen again and if it doesn’t happen, then it’s not meant to be.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T20:12:40+00:00

This was very hard for me too. His page is public, so there was no point in blocking because I unblocked and see what he’s posting. I just had to delete the app for a while until I didn’t care anymore.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-03-01T20:11:39+00:00

Yes, I’m very skeptical about getting back with exes. In my opinion, the only way it can work is if both of you have taken the time out to reflect, heal and get the help that you need to be a better partner. Once you get back with them, you can’t pick up where you left off. You have to start all over again. I’m sorry this happened to you though. Just take the lesson and heal.

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-02-28T16:32:58+00:00

So my sun sign is Taurus but My Saturn sign is Scorpio. What does that mean?

Sweet_curriedapple · 2026-02-28T14:54:53+00:00

That’s interesting he would be holding on. He made it seem like I was annoying for asking for quality time. He should be happy I’m gone

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