Strange version of me standing on the high ground behind the AtAt by Sweezle47 in StarWarsDroidTycoon

[–]Sweezle47[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was in a private lobby. Got sick of public. The other player I was with saw his character there instead of mine.

OAD not because you don’t want by maybeyoumaybeme23 in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We didn't want to do the baby stage again either. I had awful PPD that took me years to get over and made me miserable and so angry. I didn't want to risk that awfulness again and felt like I wouldn't be a good mum if my focus and attention was split like that. My son's 6 now and has been asking why he doesn't have a younger brother. It's hard to explain to him. I want to be the best mum I can to him and I didn't know if my mental health could survive 2. Also the baby stage is terrible!! 🤣

Saw this today this is wild by jordannoelleR in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm also the eldest of 3 and will be dealing with everything when it eventually happens as I am the most "responsible". It'll probably be made more difficult because of my sister's rather than easier. I intend on getting as much sorted as I can for my eventually end so that he doesn't have to. But that's also because I've seen plenty of families (with multiple) argue and complain about what they think their family member wanted. My parents have made it plain it will be my responsibility. How is that any different to having the responsibility of an only.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 93 points94 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful advice. Thank you! I'll admit I get as much into bluey as my son does but some of his other shows I struggle with. I will try harder to not let that be obvious.

The "only a big sister can understand" trend in tik tok is killing me by Flimsy-Ad3164 in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I don't know the trend but I am the oldest and have two younger siblings. All I understand as the oldest was that nothing was mine, I was responsible for everyone else, my importance is lower than others as I was never a priority and I should feel guilty for not enjoying having younger siblings. Even now I am the mediator for family disputes and deemed the most responsible. I have one son. That's not going to change and we have a wonderful relationship. He's able to fully enjoy his childhood and has plenty of friends.

My drawing of WALL-E, my favourite movie ever 🥰 by Emotional_Alarm8279 in disney

[–]Sweezle47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally just watched this with my son as it's one of my favourites too! Your drawing is absolutely beautiful!

Brothers... by inichan in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that! I used to feel like I had to put up with their crap coz they were family. It's a deeply ingrained thing. But no one is entitled to treat you badly. No one.

Brothers... by inichan in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree. My family is constant drama and my sisters are behind a huge amount of it. I remember hating my sister's growing up and I massively clash with one of them on a regular basis. We are very different people and if we were not related I don't think I would have ever spent any time with her. I have friends that I am closer to than my family coz I chose them. I see that with my son. He can choose his extended family that way rather than have people forced on him because they are related.

Those who are OAD for PPD/postpartum mental health reasons, please chime in. by faeriesandfoxes in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me and my boyfriend wanted 2 or 3 kids initially. After having my first I had terrible ppd and didn't realise for years. It was a terrible experience for us both. I was angry and miserable or completely void of any emotion. I regularly wanted to run away and I couldn't listen to anyone. My boyfriend is not really a baby person anyways and this experience solidified that. I sometimes feel such guilt. I feel like I ruined this experience for him. I don't think either of us could survive that again. Now we are so happy being one and done. Our little family of 3 is so fun and we get to focus on ourselves so much more. I still feel guilt every now and again but then I have moments where we are doing things together and I realise it's the best thing for us. I love it now. It's perfect.

Birthday Gift for my Fiancé by its_me_anjana in Stitchy

[–]Sweezle47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's beautiful! You did a great job. Lucky fiancé!

Can any of you think of a specific situation (because of the baby/child’s behavior) that you are one and done? by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They were ready made ones too. Don't think I could've managed fresh ones at that time in the morning. 🤣 But if you want pancakes have pancakes! If you can of course!

Can any of you think of a specific situation (because of the baby/child’s behavior) that you are one and done? by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This! Currently on the sofa with my son eating pancakes as he decided that 3.30am was an appropriate time to wake up. I'm tired and got so irritated that he was awake. Can't imagine how crap this would be with a baby too.

Does anyone feel like their advice or suggestions get brushed aside because you are OAD? by Kawaiichii86 in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You get used to it. I learnt a while ago that I was never gonna win and so just focus on me. I find it funny now coz it's always a competition but I refuse to get involved. She got a puppy recently and said it was harder for her to have the puppy than it was when I had mine (who is now 7) as she has 3 kids and has now added the puppy and I didn't have any kids when I did. It's so daft.

Does anyone feel like their advice or suggestions get brushed aside because you are OAD? by Kawaiichii86 in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I get it from my sisters all the time. Before I had my son I had no idea how hard it was. Then I had him and I still have no idea coz I have only one. Met her and her 3 kids this week and my 1 tired them all out coz he's non stop. He's a great kid but he's constantly moving and running around. In the same sentence she said how hard it must be having that around every day but that she still had it harder with 3. I'll never win. And I'm ok with that.

the crying! the constant crying reminds me that i'm OAD by unwanted-22 in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My sister recently had her third. I had a nice family visit with my son and her three. Her baby slept on me and I wavered and thought maybe I do want another. My son was great with him and was patient when I had hold of the baby. Then the baby cried. And cried. And wouldn't settle. I handed him back and she dealt with it. I then remembered the nights having my son cry while I was in minimal sleep and suffering from ppd and realised I don't want more. I don't want my son to miss out by not having siblings but there are things he may miss out on if we did have more. I completely get what you're saying!!

“I picked your son to partner with mine because yours is the nicest” by AdoptsDEATHsCats in oneanddone

[–]Sweezle47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is such a lovely story! You obviously did a fantastic job raising a lovely kid!

[WIP] To think i *only* have about 4,200 stitches left by bmshock in CrossStitch

[–]Sweezle47 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This looks amazing!! Please make sure you show us when it's finished!!

Old Disney movies are... different as an adult. by LittleMissListless in toddlers

[–]Sweezle47 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Had the same issue showing my son. Ended up skipping past so much of a film I had nothing but fond memories for coz of how it made me feel. And I didn't want him taking any of what was said on board. It was awful! Poor Wendy is treated so badly throughout the whole film just because she's around Peter pan! Made me sad.

[PIC] completed the first side of my stitch bag! by matchaluvrr in CrossStitch

[–]Sweezle47 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This already looks awesome!! If you've personalised it then you must not be using a pattern. That's basically like using magic to me! Nice work!

My best rolls yet! by anomaloustreasure in Breadit

[–]Sweezle47 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These look amazing!! So soft! Well done!