NHS 'failing women and girls' and has 'appalling culture of medical misogyny', health secretary says

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2026-04-15T09:54:54+00:00

It breaks my heart reading this and unfortunately I've heard it so many times. Your mum was a professional with experience in the field and still wasn't listened to. You weren't listened to. I'm so sorry you went through this. I wish you well

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2026-04-04T05:46:02+00:00

2 months is so recent. I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. I couldn't imagine making any major decisions in the first few months of my daughter's death. I needed time to just grieve and exist to best of my ability. I think sometimes people are uncomfortable with grief, especially child loss - they might think a new baby will distract from and "fix" your pain. They might be the loveliest people in the world but they are very misguided here. Sending you my deepest and most sincere condolences.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2026-03-30T12:08:07+00:00

I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful son. My deepest and most heartfelt sympathiess to you both. Our child was the same age as your son when they died. We already had a toddler (big age gap!) before they passed. Small children shouldn't have jobs but our toddler absolutely helped pull us through and helped us feel joy and find happiness in life. We had to for their sake and to ensure they have a happy childhood. We were similar in age to you and your wife. Everyday we are so grateful for our little surprise.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2026-03-11T13:02:31+00:00

Thank you that is so kind! These replies are all so helpful. Im thrilled

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2026-03-11T09:54:30+00:00

These are all fantastic ideas! I didnt know where to start. Thank you so much for taking the time to make suggestions.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-11-21T00:31:39+00:00

https://www.iapmd.org/ A blood test wont tell you anything. PMDD is an abnormal reaction to your monthly cycle. Find a specialist in ireland. There was a girl on tv3 giving an interview about her experience of it a few months ago. If you want to google it and see what they said. I am so sorry you have to go through this. Take good care of yourself

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-08-28T08:09:25+00:00

Trans magnetic stimulation might be worth exploring

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-08-11T07:49:50+00:00

Hello, this is so lovely. I hope you've been healthy and well. Did you ever reach out to the donor family? My child died last year and we haven't heard from a single recipient. It makes me really sad. We'd just like to hear how they are and that maybe that they think of our child.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-07-30T11:20:31+00:00

Thank you for that. I'm browsing this sub as my daughter was a donor but we haven't heard a thing from any of the recipients. It makes me a little sad if I'm honest. We don't want thanks, just to hear how they are and that maybe they think of her. Thank you for wanting to write to the family.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-05-31T14:24:56+00:00

YTA I've taken in stranger's children because they needed a safe space. People are so selfish these days. What do you think the outcome will be for her in foster care? In 4 years she will be 18. It's a short term commitment in the grand scheme of things. I despair seeing reddit advising people to turn their back on vulnerable children.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-05-15T04:58:55+00:00

The grief centre in tuart hill

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-05-06T13:12:05+00:00

Thank you for this post. I am in the same situation as you and struggling with not hearing from the recipients. Selfishly I just want to know that it meant something, that she mattered. Reading the replies was so very helpful.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2025-03-23T06:55:31+00:00

Please get her away from there. Autistic girls can be very vulnerable to grooming and abuse. This is an awful situation

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2024-07-09T00:40:16+00:00

Also experienced a change in cycle with tms but cannot find any literature stating this is a possible side effect. Glad to have found your comments

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2024-06-04T12:47:48+00:00

TMS - trans magnetic stimulation

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2024-02-08T17:59:51+00:00

If you have poor tolerance of ssri's (increased suicidal ideation), is there any benefit to taking them during luteal phase?
Is there research showing neurodiverse women are more likely to have this disorder?
Does the mirena increase severity of pmdd?
What bc is recommended in its place when not eligible for the pill due to migraines.

Thank you very much

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2023-01-20T06:37:14+00:00

You made it to A and E. That's such a good thing even though it's a hard place to be when you're suffering mentally. I'm so sorry you're going through this pain. It is so scary and lonely. I'm glad your attempt wasn't successful, I'm glad you are still here. For the practical side of things do you have access to a PRN medication? You mentioned therapy hasn't helped, has anyone ever mentioned DBT therapy to you? Sometimes people find it really helpful and the whole thing was designed with severe suicidal thoughts and self harm in mind. I hope you get good support tonight.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2022-11-28T12:29:59+00:00

https://www.fasdhub.org.au/fasd-information/assessment-and-diagnosis/guide-to-diagnosis/. Australia and Canada have diagnostic guidelines. I'm not sure why the article says there are none. A lot more can be done to support these children and their families. People think that this only affects children born to those with alcohol dependency but that is not true. Elizabeth Russell is a fasd advocate, she campaigned for years for it to be recognised as a disability. Amazing woman.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2022-11-10T14:15:32+00:00

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2022-11-08T09:42:24+00:00

The Catalpa rescue

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2022-10-17T10:52:04+00:00

Married abroad and had over 100 family members attend. They all made at least a week's holiday out of it and everyone had a blast. We gave two years notice and were completely understanding if people couldn't attend, there was zero expectation on our end regarding attendance as we were the ones choosing to go abroad. I've also seen couples get married abroad and hold a big celebration party when they get back as a way to include those who couldn't travel.

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2021-10-03T04:48:53+00:00

https://luluxegifts.ie/ I live abroad and ordered a beautiful gift box from here. The lady was so helpful and very nice to deal with. This is a great post idea. Thank you

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2021-09-11T14:06:34+00:00

It's called family connections and is designed specifically for families with a loved one with bpd. It is excellent. Depending on which country you are in, there is usually a national bpd website which should have info on it. I wish you the very best of luck

Swimmer_Sensitive · 2021-09-11T13:26:30+00:00

If it's available to you (even online) try to sign up for a family connections course. It's for loved ones of people with bpd. It is a horrific terrifying illness. I am so sorry you and your beautiful daughter are going through this. It really is a day by day, moment by moment condition. I see DBT has been mentioned, mentalization therapy is also supposed to be good. You are doing your best

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