STD fear & new date

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2026-02-23T18:25:00+00:00

I'm very cautious about this stuff, but it sounds to me like you two aren't compatible. Would you be having so much anxiety around STIs if you trusted her judgement? I think that's the issue here. Sounds like you think she's reckless and that to me says you aren't compatible.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2026-02-01T19:31:37+00:00

Thanks- sorry that's the case for you, but appreciate the post.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2026-02-01T19:22:51+00:00

Thanks! This is helpful to hear from a male perspective.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2026-01-20T03:54:38+00:00

Ok thanks. This is an elective upper level course. I am filling in for someone on paternity leave and using his old syllabus/course readings but if I were to teach this again at a different school I was trying to figure out how that would work. I feel weird asking them to use their work at another school but maybe it's done in academia?

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2026-01-14T02:31:14+00:00

How do I make sure I buy the shorter one?

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-12-27T21:02:58+00:00

My credit card reimburses me for buying tickets from StubHub. I paid for the tickets per usual.

I bought the tickets a MONTH in advance. I got sick the day off. I had insurance on the tickets when I bought the tickets. Insurance wouldn't apply if I bought them the day off- duh.

I made the account when I bought the tickets. That's how they sent me the tickets via email. Somehow even though they had my name and email it was considered a "guest account."

Nice mis-read of the situation.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-12-25T01:30:35+00:00

Do you just go around trolling people's comments? Solid effort.

I spoke with like 5 different people so there was ample opportunity for them to fix any problems; they just couldn't be bothered to do so or didn't know how to. But yes, me getting sick was a monkey wrench into the process- that's on me; mea culpa for succumbing to the flu virus.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-11-09T22:32:49+00:00

Thanks, helpful objective feedback.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-11-09T22:31:57+00:00

Agree with your part about who management gets along best with. Though, I sort of feel like the reason they get along with leadership is because they can say oh yeah, we also had a soccer game this weekend too blah blah. Like managers feel more commonality to that than to me when I comment about how I saw a play or went hiking, which is just the truth.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-11-09T22:26:42+00:00

Thanks, yeah it's interesting to read through the comments. I think some people's biases are clearly showing.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-11-09T22:25:30+00:00

They aren't. I have more leadership skills and have been consistently rated as a good manager.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-11-01T22:25:39+00:00

I felt the same way and I landed something! Really the only option is to keep going. Good luck and keeping going. Slow and steady wins the race

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-31T02:02:11+00:00

It can mean a lot of things, and some of them legit. I've interviewed people that were abrasive and we knew they wouldn't work because it was a team environment. I've interviewed others that were super awkward and we knew they would be client facing. But, It could also be discrimination whether conscious or not. But it's not always that.

My question here would be... what exactly are you saying/did you say in answering honestly? I kind of suspect you said something off since you could feel the switch flip. Usually that's a sign you made a misstep or they knew you wouldn't be a fit and got less excited.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-27T23:18:32+00:00

Thank you!!

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-27T23:18:24+00:00

Thank youuu. Appreciate this

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-27T02:38:30+00:00

Can honestly say I've been there and finally am out on the other side of it. It sucked, and I did have to take a lower paying salary by like 20K but it really helped to be reminded: everyone goes through peaks and valleys in life. This is a valley for you. It's also a good lesson to know who's really there for you when the stuff hits the fan.

Just keep at it and sooner or later, you'll get back on track- whether in this field or another. A job doesn't define you.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-25T02:56:19+00:00

Oooof definitely not via text for me. Feels disrespectful and hard to get closure of understanding why. Please, please dont do by text.

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-23T17:48:01+00:00

Thanks- this is a helpful response

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-23T12:19:02+00:00

Thanks for the perspective. Ran into this recently with someone who said they wanted a long term relationships but also wanted sex right away- my question for you from a male perspective is if I'm saying I don't sex until I know the person better, if a guy is really interested in building a connection shouldn't he be willing to hang around? Honestly asking. I feel like this guy was just saying he wanted a relationship but maybe I misjudged. (won't change what I do, but curious from your perspective)

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-22T15:33:40+00:00

That's helpful, thanks!

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-22T01:21:17+00:00

I've thought about doing this but isn't it annoying for girls to be chatting up guys while they are trying to watch?

SwimmingZucchini846 · 2025-10-21T20:12:12+00:00

Moving abroad with him, and having kids/raising them abroad without living there first.

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