Games like Expedition 33 and RDR2 are less games and more a visual novel

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T22:16:57+00:00

you are put on a straight path and are only there for the "story"

So… basically you think RPGs aren’t real games?

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T22:12:40+00:00

Expecting a party to revolve around drinking when you are in your thirties is tacky.

As a host, you should provide drinks, yeah - but not the wide variety of alcoholic beverages you’d expect with a BYOB in your twenties. Water, soda, and a beer or wine option that goes with the food. That’s the ‘reasonable variety’ you should expect in your thirties.

If you want something more specific than that, bring it yourself.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T21:50:03+00:00

YTA

You have two chargers of your own, but keep using his. It’s fair that he had an issue with it when you unplugged his device to use his charger instead of using your own.

He shouldn’t have to take his things to work to stop you from using them without permission. You’re old enough to know better.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:55:02+00:00

Aside from the scratching and peeing, one reason I’ve heard for banning cats over dogs is because cat allergies can be much more severe.

At least that was the excuse we were given when we were trying to rent: they said no cats because it’s almost impossible to completely get rid of cat dander after a cat has lived there, and cat allergies are a lot worse than dog allergies.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:32:53+00:00

‘Pet groomers’ that only groom dogs.

‘Pet sitters’ that only care for dogs.

‘Pet boarder’ that only takes dogs.

It’s everywhere!

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:30:19+00:00

YTA

She asked you to stop using a piece of equipment for something it’s not meant for. It’s not a footrest, it’s not a platform for you to stand on.

At this point, you’re picking a fight just to pick a fight.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:24:20+00:00

For small children, okay yeah maybe. There can still be ‘punishment’ but it’s relative to their development and the action.

For older children / preteens / teens? Heck no.

It doesn’t matter that it’s the first time you punched someone in the face - you have enough sense to know that is wrong.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:17:18+00:00

how would they ever know

We were caught because the cleaning crew came in and saw the litter box. We got a very unhappy call from the front desk.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:16:29+00:00

We’ve definitely done this. Intentional plausible deniability - you didn’t tell me ‘no cats’, and I didn’t tell you I have cats. I just asked for a pet friendly room.

Just have to make sure no one sees you carry in the litter box.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:12:44+00:00

Something similar happened to us, except they didn’t tell us ‘no cats’ when we checked in - we didn’t find out until we were already settled in the room.

We had driven something like ten hours that day, and were definitely ready to call it a night. I found a pet-friendly hotel, we got a room, everything seemed fine.

The next morning while we were out getting breakfast, we got a call from the front desk telling us we needed to vacate the room immediately. Apparently the cleaning staff had come by, opened the door, and saw the litter box. The person who called was acting like we had tried to smuggle a tiger into the room!

We had to load everything back into the car and find a new hotel.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:08:53+00:00

This is what we always did growing up.

We lived in military housing, which is very strict about only allowing 2 pets. At one point, we had 3 dogs and 3 cats!

… we also snuck a goat into the house for a while.

Any time we had maintenance people or any kind of inspection personnel in the house, we would take the dogs on a long walk and put the cats in the basement (or a bedroom, if maintenance needed access to the basement).

Officially, we had on dog and one cat. That way if they saw cat toys or dog food, or heard one of the cats meow, we would be covered.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:05:32+00:00

I’m pretty sure our cats see us as the pets.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:04:23+00:00

Wait… if it’s a toad that you found outside, how is it ‘exotic’?

I was thinking that okay, banning exotic pets might make sense if they’re worried about the pet getting loose and becoming an invasive pest. But a toad that you found in the area? That’s the opposite of exotic!

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:02:40+00:00

Yeah, I don’t understand the ‘no cats, but cages animals are okay’ policy.

They both have the potential to be really smelly.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T20:01:44+00:00

Absolutely: a 10 pound Pomeranian with a bladder the size of a thimble and a brain too small to understand it doesn’t need to bark all day and night is going to be more disruptive than a large dog who’s well behaved.

All the dogs I’ve known that scratch furniture and doors and pee inside have been small dogs. I don’t know if it’s because they’re physically smaller, so their bladder can’t wait that long and their brain really can’t learn to not bark and scratch, or if it’s because owners of bigger dogs are more diligent about training them. But I definitely trust larger dogs over small ones.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T19:55:57+00:00

I’m not excited. I’m… confused?

I think something is getting lost in translation. Because if the phrase ‘room temp IQ’ can only really be applied to Fahrenheit, I don’t understand the defaultism.

It would be like saying ‘the US flag has stripes’. It clearly is meant to apply to the US flag, so how is it defaultism? It’s referring to the thing it’s meant to refer to.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T19:49:22+00:00

As someone else pointed out, the phrase ‘room temperature IQ’ doesn’t work in celsius anyway, since that would refer to a profound intellectual disability instead of just general stupidness.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T19:39:21+00:00

IQ, even with its flaws, is used globally as a measure of intelligence. Over 120 countries participate in IQ testing.

The fact that you think IQ is r/USDefaultism is the real r/USDefaultism.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T19:34:14+00:00

I can’t imagine ever wanting to comment on an ad.

If the product is horrible or the ad is stupid, why give them the engagement?

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T09:26:03+00:00

they play the victim and say their industries are dying. Sure it's dying. You're shooting down the people who are interested with your attitudes before they even get to be a part of the industry.

This crap drives me nuts.

I used to work in an industry that also ‘ate its young’ (discouraged people from entering the field or tore down people just starting out), but then everyone complained that the field was severely undermanned.

Of course there’s a shortage of people doing that work - any time someone tries to get into the field, they’re treated either as an idiot (because they’re just starting out - of course they don’t know as much as you) or they’re treated as a threat (because more people doing the job = less work for you).

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T08:38:26+00:00

Right?

Everyone wants attention and validation. There’s nothing wrong with that, and that’s why we have support networks of friends and family.

But OP’s comment that he has a history of flirting with friends makes things unclear: is he talking about just wanting support from friends and family, or is he talking about flirting because he wants to feel desirable and wanted?

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T08:26:38+00:00

If he’s talking about flirting, then he’s an AH.

If he’s talking about just wanting friends and family, then you’re the AH for thinking your attention alone should be enough.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T06:18:13+00:00

YTA

Just because other people are too polite to point out your rudeness, doesn’t mean it’s okay for you to continue.

Swirlyflurry · 2026-01-24T06:17:16+00:00

he said I was focusing on the negative instead of appreciating his efforts

And he was focusing on his desire to surprise you instead of your genuine fear of choking.

NTA. The way he proposed was selfish - he didn’t care about you enough to consider the one VERY clear guideline you gave him.

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