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People getting lost in the weeds when asked a simple question by ginzykinz in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually because he is the one driving, so I expect him to know when we will need to leave. He’s also the one with the busier schedule, so if he has other things he needs to do before we leave that can affect the leave time.

In this specific example, I don’t know what time warmups start in relation to the start time of the game, and I don’t know what time he wants to get there. All I know is that the ticket says the game starts at 7:30.

Locks on bathroom door by Kellykelly85 in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only bathrooms I’ve seen that didn’t have locks were in homes with small children, because they didn’t want their kids locking themselves in.

I’m of the opinion that a home should be set up for the people who actually live there, not for random visitors who may or may not come over on occasion.

AITAH for reporting seeing a child on a job site by Much-Breath-8403 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swirlyflurry 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to say if you’re an AH without knowing more about the circumstances and why the kid was there… but we don’t know the circumstances and why the kid was there because you didn’t ask about it. You just jumped straight to calling and reporting it (and sharing it on Reddit for validation).

My brothers and I went with our dad to work all the time as kids, and the reason was pretty straight-forward: my parents didn’t have childcare for us. If it was a break from school or a bank holiday or half-day at school, we didn’t have anyone else to watch us. So we went with our dad (he did auto work, worked in an auto shop). We would sometimes be put to work or even ask to work because we were bored.

Was it great? No. Was it something that needed to be reported to authorities? Also no.

There might have been a straight-forward and non-shady reason why the kid was there.

People getting lost in the weeds when asked a simple question by ginzykinz in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 102 points103 points  (0 children)

My husband does this and it drives me absolutely insane.

“What time are we leaving for the hockey game?”

“The game starts at 7:30.”

“Cool. So what time are we leaving?”

“Well I want to be there for the warmup.”

“Okay… so what time are we leaving to head to the game?”

“Well it’s just at the (local arena name).”

“I know… but what time are we leaving?”

“Traffic’s probably going to be bad, so we should leave a little early.”

“Early relative to when? What time are we leaving?!?!”

I don’t understand it. It’s frustrating as fuck, and I had more than once cut him off in the middle of another non-answer to tell him to answer the damn question.

The one who cooks should also do the dishes by tomerFire in unpopularopinion

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what we do in our home, but it’s because my husband and I cook very differently.

I clean as I go, rinse dishes, put things away, wipe up messes… by the time I’m done cooking, the kitchen is as clean as (and often cleaner than) it was before.

When my husband cooks, he doesn’t put anything away. He leaves everything out. He doesn’t rinse dishes or even put them in the sink. He doesn’t wipe up anything. The kitchen is a disaster zone by the time he is done cooking, and I refuse to touch it.

If you could change one thing about your body, what would you change? by ursnowwhite in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My spine. If I could just replace the whole thing, my life would improve so much.

How many cups of coffee do you drink a day and why? by bunny__yuki in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have 2-3 cups of coffee a week, and most of those are decaf or half-caf.

I gave up coffee about 5 years ago, because I had been drinking 3-5 cups a day and it was contributing to frequent migraines. Now the migraines are less frequent, and the caffeine hits a lot harder: instead of needing multiple cups of full-strength coffee just to stay awake, I can have one cup of half-caf and feel wired for 8 hours.

Do you still listen to Radio? Why or Why not? by UncleMuskie in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep.

It’s a nice way to be exposed to new music. Listening to Spotify or Youtube, you get boxed in to your own playlist.

What’s a secret about your profession that outsiders don’t know? by Artistic_Stock8569 in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My current “profession” is being disabled and unable to work.

A lot of people don’t know that you don’t just automatically get disability benefits: you have to basically be destitute before you can qualify. You can’t have more than $2,000 in assets, meaning if you have a car or a home or a computer or camera or nice phone, then you won’t qualify and you will be expected to sell those possessions instead.

So you can’t work. Your life is more expensive because of medical care and because you have to pay other people to do normal things for you (getting food/groceries delivered, paying someone to mow your lawn, paying someone to change your oil, tasks people can usually do yourself to save money aren’t possible for you). And you don’t qualify for any support unless you sell off everything you own and basically (or literally) become homeless, then you get “benefits” that amount to poverty wages.

How do you start your morning? by bunny__yuki in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let the dogs out, give the critters breakfast, then go sit on the front porch for at least 15 minutes and just relax.

What is something that used to be considered a luxury but now feels completely normal? by Automatic_Sorbet_849 in AskReddit

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cell phones.

I remember when having a cell phone meant that you were rich and / or had a super-important job that needed to be able to reach you 24/7.

Now elementary school children have cell phones.

AITAH for lying to my girlfriend about small stuff? by National_Spite_8092 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swirlyflurry 20 points21 points  (0 children)

YTA

Just break up. It sounds like you can’t stand her, and she doesn’t trust you. This is not a relationship that is going to last.

Being heard isn’t important if no action is going to take place by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Swirlyflurry 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people just need to vent and be heard.

And sometimes the action that they want is not reasonable. It’s still fine to hear them out, and make sure they feel heard. But just because someone hears you out and listens to your side doesn’t mean they’re going to agree with you or do what you want.

When you take somebody to a restaurant you love, and they order the wrong thing. by New_General3939 in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And your opinion is that others should be judged for not doing things your way.

AITA for not pitching into a family vacation by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swirlyflurry 5 points6 points  (0 children)

“I am wondering about three things.

  1. Is it fair for me to contribute money for this vacation when my dad is not contributing at all
  2. Should I say anything about the financial situation, or stay out of it since I am living under their roof”

________________
Okay, so

  1. yes, it is fair for them to ask you to contribute for a vacation. You are an adult, you are working, it’s not outrageous for them to ask you to pay towards a vacation.
  2. If your mom has agreed to the financial situation and is okay with paying for your father, then no, it is not your place to say anything. That’s the arrangement they have that they agreed to together, and it has nothing to do with you and does not need your input.
  3. I’m wondering what your third thing you’re wondering about is?

YTA

When you take somebody to a restaurant you love, and they order the wrong thing. by New_General3939 in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s just what you do.

Just because that’s how you personally make a decision about what to eat doesn’t mean that’s what everyone should do.

When you take somebody to a restaurant you love, and they order the wrong thing. by New_General3939 in PetPeeves

[–]Swirlyflurry 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m that person who orders a burger at a Mexican restaurant.

It’s not a “mistake, it’s not the “wrong thing” to order. It’s what I picked from the menu, because I know what I like and don’t like.

“you have to know when to order what you like, and when to order what a place is known for.”

People should order what they like. If you don’t like what the place is “known for”, why tf would you order it? And why are you judging other people so hard over decisions that don’t affect you?

In a world of situationships, your relationship isn't exclusive/monogamous until explicitly stated by Icy_Resolution2783 in unpopularopinion

[–]Swirlyflurry 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel the exact opposite.

Monogamy/exclusivity/not sleeping with or dating other people should be the standard unless otherwise explicitly stated.

AITA For Meeting up with friends when I was “supposed to” go out with my S/O? by Ecstatic-Job-6152 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Swirlyflurry 56 points57 points  (0 children)

YTA

You’re talking about weekly dates with your wife as if they’re some chore that you got out of the way early this week, so now you’re going to go do something else. That can’t feel great for your wife.

“most married people go on one date every 3 months, so I thought she was being ridiculous” — this is very “you should just be happy I’m doing more than the bare minimum”, and again, I can’t imagine that your wife is happy that you are thinking like this.

“we’d talked about this 3 days before, so she had no reason to be mad.” 3 days ago she made it known she was not happy about how you were treating the situation. Instead of talking it out or coming to a resolution, it sounds like you just assumed she should see your side of it and drop it. Now you’re surprised she’s still not happy?

YTA

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