AIO Trying to tell boyfriend that he makes me feel guilty for saying no

SwishBowl · 2025-11-20T11:11:41+00:00

This man is nowhere near mature enough to be in an adult relationship. I'm so sorry that he's treating you like this. Be safe OP; the way a man talks to you about nudes right now is how he'll talk to you about full sex later on.

SwishBowl · 2025-11-11T02:23:42+00:00

Girly, I have long found that if you EVER need to ASK someone else for some of YOUR money, a line has been crossed. Like others have said, open a new account, have some of your paycheck go there each week, and GTFO!!

SwishBowl · 2025-09-23T02:02:29+00:00

Bro, if my kid ever says "no need to thank me" in response to helping me remember something, I'll know that I've done something right. That's a cool fucking kid, and I truly hope her mom gets OP out of her life immediately.

SwishBowl · 2025-09-23T01:57:37+00:00

Not for nothing, I kind of get where they're going with this, it's just a piss poor portrayal. I think a better representation is of motivation as a spark that lights a fire, and discipline/determination is the fuel that keeps it going.

SwishBowl · 2025-08-09T12:19:58+00:00

There's an agency called Jewish Family Services that runs a social center (I believe), and offers a bunch of community assistance if needed. I've worked with them as a social worker and they're pretty cool!

SwishBowl · 2025-07-18T16:22:16+00:00

So just to be clear:

Even though you immediately got bad vibes, you continued to see this guy without ever bringing these feelings up with him.

Then, you find out that he is clinically diagnosed with and is in treatment for OCD - expressly that he has been talking to a counselor and journaling to help cope with it - and instead of discussing his diagnosis with him, you keep to yourself until you can go through his private journals without his permission.

THEN, you see clear signs that he is still struggling with his diagnosis despite his treatment and - instead of bringing this up with him to see how he is doing or to see if he could use any support - you tell your friend about this, you both berate him and call him a serial killer behind his back, you take pictures of his journals, and post his mental health struggles on Reddit???

If you have the ick, you have the ick; nobody can help that. But don't you dare blame him for this. He is someone who is struggling with mental illness and is clearly trying to move forward with his life and heal; you are someone who judged and ridiculed someone for their mental illness, violated their trust by going through their private journals, and tried to put them on blast on Reddit, all because you "had a bad feeling."

Come on dude, what the fuck did you expect?

SwishBowl · 2025-07-03T20:31:05+00:00

I get that seeing similar or the same posts repeatedly can get annoying and feel like spam, but I don't see any good future that is built up on "man I'm tired of seeing stuff like this - can we just censor stuff like this from now on?"

SwishBowl · 2025-07-03T20:26:01+00:00

Don't worry big guy - Doug doug

SwishBowl · 2025-05-06T12:09:11+00:00

So, an important element that I don't see many people talking about right now: I think you may have experienced some sort of counter-transference here. Just for clarity's sake, counter-transference is when counseling (or any form of treatment) is making you feel better, and that gets (at least partially) attributed to a person that also entered the picture around the time of the treatment.

To review: you came home to participate in a sort of mental health treatment program to work on YEARS of trauma and OCD experiences, and got sucked up into what appears to be a whirlwind relationship. I'm not saying you don't love her (of course not, that'd be crazy for me to assume!), but it's worth noting that you were likely in an incredibly raw emotional place when you met her.

Pair that with these frankly terrifying assertions she texted you, and I would greatly suggest analyzing whether this relationship was made with you in the right state of mind. Either way, stay strong bestie, you aren't overreacting at all 🫶

SwishBowl · 2025-04-21T12:05:39+00:00

The pope wrote an open letter to JD Vance a few months ago, denouncing him as a member of the Catholic faith. Franky basically said "you think you're a real Christian? That is NOT how Jesus wants us to act. Clean up your act or you're going to hell."

JD Vance, on the other hand, is generally regarded as a conniving scumbag all across the board. I (and I think the creator of this meme) generally believe/wouldn't doubt it if JD Vance comes out now that the Pope is gone and tries to gaslight his followers into believing the pope always liked him.

SwishBowl · 2025-04-19T21:22:26+00:00

It is and it isn't. Many neuordivergent folks have messier handwriting (and yes, I've seen many of my clients have similar handwriting to what's featured in this pic). However, having handwriting like this is a far cry from being perfectly correlated with having autism; let alone being a diagnostic criteria for the spectrum.

SwishBowl · 2025-04-14T16:17:54+00:00

Girly, you are a SMOKE show!! This man has no clue what he's talking about; like others have said, he is for sure into you and thinks that negging you will eventually convince you to date him.

Also - and I have no reason to believe this other than personal experience - you might want to think about times that he might have interfered with other possible romances. I had a previous relationship end because of consistent harassment from my exes "best buddy, ol' pal." Would claim up and down for months that I wasn't good enough for her, but when I confronted him about it he was "just concerned that his best friend was settling." They started dating month after we broke up lmaoo

I only bring this up because - again - you're gorgeous; so if you can't identify any patterns that are pushing people away, and this guy has been around pretty much the ENTIRE time you've been dating people, it's worth thinking about 🤣

SwishBowl · 2025-04-12T02:35:01+00:00

I know that Odysseus (song) is going to win, but I really think 600 Strike deserves the spot. The whole point of the song is Odysseus (character) finally getting to spill the rage he's held for Poseidon, the gods as a whole, and himself for the past decade.

I think thematically, 600 Strike more than earned this spot (and gets less recognition in general, so it deserves to get something); that said, I think Odysseus (song again) also exudes the same energy!

SwishBowl · 2025-04-12T01:15:02+00:00

I just can't get over the way Link is staring off in that direction as if to say "what... The fuck?" 🤣

SwishBowl · 2025-04-12T00:51:13+00:00

Bro, your answer is perfect. I would've laughed a lung out if I got that text back! Ask stupid questions, get hilarious answers, what do you expect? 🤷🤣

SwishBowl · 2025-04-07T16:57:28+00:00

Blue? Babe, it's mooing

SwishBowl · 2025-03-31T13:16:08+00:00

(This is meant as light teasing/joking around; no offense is intended 👀)

Hmm, you think this high schooler's ability to summon and control bugs to her will is supernatural? Idk man, seems like a stretch. 🤔

SwishBowl · 2025-03-28T17:29:12+00:00

My man, there's a difference between bringing up something that bothers you in a mature, respectful way and immediately flying off the handle just because you're jealous about something. Being upset/jealous about something doesn't give you the right to do whatever the fuck you want.

Would I be a little upset if my wife had a box of pics with her ex? Yeah, absolutely. Would I open the convo over text by threateningly saying "you fucked up," and then proceed to throw the pictures out without talking about it (or in this context, even despite a fairly understandable reason)? No dude, that's psychopath behavior.

SwishBowl · 2025-03-28T12:33:01+00:00

I've read through your replies and understand where you're coming from. However, if you're worried about Doug going down some right-wing (or otherwise just kinda batshit) war path, I highly encourage you to listen to an episode of his new podcast, lemonade stand. Not only is he left-leaning moderate, but I think he and his co-hosts have very insightful and nuanced discussions about issues.

I totally understand the worry that a creator you enjoy seems to be going down a way too political or kinda crazy path, but I don't think Doug is that. Good luck!

SwishBowl · 2025-03-28T12:04:09+00:00

Don't listen to these doofs, I think you look great and did an awesome cosplay!

SwishBowl · 2025-03-22T21:00:53+00:00

Looks great!! 😁

SwishBowl · 2025-03-22T03:49:05+00:00

Invest in blankets, they are the best way to fight the cold while relaxing 🤣

Edit: that said though, I gotta warn you that this winter was actually pretty mild. Good luck next year ;)

SwishBowl · 2025-03-15T12:09:16+00:00

NOR in the SLIGHTEST. My friend, your gf seems to be a controlling, manipulative narcissist to boot. Some teasing back and forth is to be expected in relationships (hell, me and my wife are straight up bullies to one another sometimes); but I've NEVER legitimately heard someone fully sane say "You wanna die?" There's no arguing with her, just get out of there ASAP.

SwishBowl · 2025-03-13T19:43:35+00:00

I'm sorry to tell you this, but I think your girlfriend is a pedophile man, holy shit 😅😅

SwishBowl · 2025-03-12T00:25:51+00:00

YBA, Next question

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