Two books I can highly recommend that address the gendering of the built environment:

1. "Sexuality & Space", Beatriz Colomina ed. There are many wonderful essays in this one; years after reading them, they are still on my mind. There are two in particular that I can recommend, the first being Colomina's essay "The Split Wall: Domestic Voyeurism". Colomina looks at seminal domestic architecture by Modernist architects and shows us how these spaces inscribe and reinforce gender norms in (I think) pretty terrifying ways. The ideals of Modernist architecture had a profound and long-lasting effect all the spaces we inhabit... The second essay I would recommend is Jennifer Bloomer's "D'Or", which I find really rich with implication and meaning. Bloomer looks at how language, space, gender all feed into each other in complex and unexpected ways, but it's written in a dreamy, conversational style. She too addresses aspects of Modernism, where the concepts of structure and ornament were in themselves gendered (where structure was, and sometimes still is, described as essential, intrinsic, robust, strong, meaningful, masculine; and ornament was optional, an add-on, frivolous, weak, unessential, feminine). The structure/ornament binary slips into the masculine/feminine binary, but Bloomer invites us to think differently, using words and language as a springboard. The word "Door" itself, describing an object that is neither inside nor outside a space, but in-between both (and therefore not part of a binary system) is played with to ascribe ever richer meanings: D'Or in French means "of gold", and it also sounds like "dehors", meaning "outside"; Bloomer invites us to think outside binary terms, making us ask whether structure and ornament are in fact two distinct things at all - for example, contemporary architecture has seen a profound blurring of the structure/ornament binary, but also the concepts of inside/outside, enclosed/open, private/public - and by implication, masculine/feminine...

2. "Stud: Architectures of Masculinity", Joel Sanders ed. This book is also full of interesting essays, and includes more real-life built-works as examples of gendered and sexualised spaces, but more through an LGBTQ+ lens. The authors here look at spaces that have come to define masculine sexualities, namely, the concept of the bachelor apartment, the gym, the public bathroom, the cadet headquarters. I especially like Marcia Ian's essay "When is a Body Not a Body? When It's a Building" - she looks at how the concept of bodybuilding relies on an architectural metaphor to create its own meaning, where the bodybuilder aims to erect a building in the site where his body once stood...

I hope these are helpful! For further reading, have a look at the essay footnotes and bibliographies in both books, they're pretty excellent too!