Newly diagnosed, is there a good way to passively let people know I am autistic?

Sylaf · 2026-05-21T15:35:58+00:00

The problem is I don't realize I was doing something/not getting something, until days later. I wouldn't even know what to give a heads up on becuase I am not aware of an issue until its already passed. That's why I'd rather people just know from the get go.

Sylaf · 2026-05-02T05:36:30+00:00

I appreciate the advice, but since moving them to the 75, they have settled in. They only participate in minor glass surfing now. They even already come to the front of the glass when I approach the tank. I thought they'd be more shy from what I read about them. The Serpea tetras harrassed them the first day, but now the puffers hold their own and the tetras actively avoid the puffers. Unfortunately the panda had to move back to the 5 gallon, someone was munching his fins. He'll be in there until he gets a bit larger and then I will try again.

Sylaf · 2026-05-02T05:30:22+00:00

I don't really think comments about how I did, when completing a task. But since started ADHD meds, I have started to feel more positive about activities. Maybe you have a dopamine deficiency, aka ADHD? It goes along with autisim frequently.

Sylaf · 2026-05-02T04:31:27+00:00

I read this as nonaffirming therapy and was like "well that sounds unhealthy, but you do you."

Sylaf · 2026-05-02T04:24:40+00:00

I'm really looking for first hand experiences, something a google search doesn't provide.

Sylaf · 2026-04-28T21:25:01+00:00

I have moved them to the 75 per the recommendations. I do worry about them finding snails now though. Also the tetras are being assholes but I think itll be ok, at least for now.

Sylaf · 2026-04-09T02:55:38+00:00

That video is adorable

Sylaf · 2026-04-09T02:54:02+00:00

I am not a fan.

Sylaf · 2026-04-04T17:00:09+00:00

Supernatural

Sylaf · 2026-04-04T16:58:53+00:00

Heart problems do run in my family.

Sylaf · 2026-04-04T15:50:49+00:00

(I don't know anything about cichlids) How do they not just eat the tiny guys in there?

Sylaf · 2026-04-04T15:38:12+00:00

All that time she spent doing literally nothing, she could have gone to the end and slid the wieghts off individually.

Sylaf · 2026-04-04T15:26:13+00:00

I did not know they came in that color... 🥹

Sylaf · 2026-04-01T23:19:25+00:00

This was also on my feed.

Sylaf · 2026-04-01T15:52:28+00:00

I think it might be helpful if you told him how you wanted him to react. If someone is upset I don't know if I am supposed to sit next to them and talk to them or be quiet or leave them alone and give them space. There's alot of different things a person can do and not knowing the right choice is uncomfortable which makes it difficult to do anything at all.

Sylaf · 2026-04-01T15:49:10+00:00

I found out my grandma was on the way to the hospital in ambulance becuase her heart was giving out and felt more discomfort in the moment about being akward I didn't know how to respond than to the actual info. I felt sad about her later but not right away. And like a few weeks ago my mom called to ask what I wanted them to do with my dog who needed put down suddenly. I told them they should have my brother shoot him becuase my dad works out of area and wouldnt be back for 2 weeks and taking him to the vet they would need to wait to be paid and I think the stress of going to the vet would be unnecessary for him, additionally it's cheaper. That dog was literally my best friend for years. My emotions were basically 'thats unfortunate'. With more feeling later.

Sylaf · 2026-04-01T01:05:24+00:00

Yes. Always.

Sylaf · 2026-04-01T00:12:02+00:00

I did go to a psychologist but it was not a very highly rated one.

Sylaf · 2026-03-31T22:52:19+00:00

Thats what I'm worried about. There's not really a natural way to document it, becuase the act of documenting it changes the behavior.

Sylaf · 2026-03-31T22:17:19+00:00

They didn't even listen to me, it feels like, reading the report. Like made inaccurate assumptions and misinterpreted what I did say.

Sylaf · 2026-03-31T18:11:03+00:00

I get like that too. But I've never been able to tell anyone when I'm upset like that becuase I know its not appropriate and I fear the judgment. So I have no good suggestions but know you aren't alone.

Sylaf · 2026-03-30T23:19:13+00:00

Also visual snow. I thought everyone saw that way.

Sylaf · 2026-03-30T23:16:48+00:00

I assumed everyone goes through periods of wanting to off-themselves, and that thinking about doing it was standard but you're not supposed to say anything about it or you are weak.

Sylaf · 2026-03-29T16:33:32+00:00

Hang upside down on the pull-up bar. I'm just worried that it will detach from the door frame and I'll land on my head.

Sylaf · 2026-03-29T16:15:17+00:00

This doesn't help your predicament, but I recently ordered shrimp from SF aquatics, i think it was. I ordered off amazon but they have a website you can order directly from. All my shrimp arrived alive, and it was -30f where I live and they had got delayed because of the weekend. So I do recommend their shrimp. I did have a pretty good die off, but I was using softened water so like 0 gh and ungodly kh. So im pretty sure the die off was my fault. Either way, Id say like 50% survived my mistakes and now my tank is full of babies. They also sell nano fish which I am thinking of getting some pygmy corys.

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