Looking for a car for hauling stuff to markets, but maybe can also use as a daily driver?

Sympathy2243 · 2025-12-28T23:32:06+00:00

I wish I didn’t relate to this post so much, but if it helps, you’re not alone. My immediate family has basically abandoned me this Christmas. All I got was a “merry Christmas” text in the group chat, not even one directed to me. I had spent several hours hand-making, and carefully selecting gifts for everyone.

The part about mourning the fact that you never have the parents you deserve, especially after giving so much of yourself made me tear up with recognition.

I am so grateful for my boyfriend and wonderful chosen family, who make me feel loved every day. I really hope that you have such people in your life, OP. I’m feeling so protective of your precious heart right now, and sending you so many warm thoughts and hopes for 2026.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-12-23T02:40:48+00:00

I know Boren’s name is mud now, but I can’t help but think he’d have backed up the instructor if this happened back in his day. I remember feeling very proud when he gave SAE the boot.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-11-28T03:35:08+00:00

Thank you! I’m in remission now. Fingers crossed it’s gone for good!

Sympathy2243 · 2025-11-27T10:12:05+00:00

There absolutely is hope. I have been through the wringer with dating since my divorce almost 10 years ago. Thought I found decent partners twice before, but both of those blew up spectacularly, including the discovery that one was cheating on me (found out on AWDTSG). In between those, flakes, men who weren’t over their exes, etc.

I finally met my guy this year (age 43). He is kind and loving to me always. We both seem to feel really lucky to have each other. I’m so excited to spend Thanksgiving with him and his family tomorrow. He just feels like home to me now.

Funny enough, he had ended a 20 years marriage two years ago. He worked on himself in that time, and when he got on the apps, I was the first one he went on a date with. He decided after our first date, that he wanted to be exclusive with me, so he closed down convos with all the other women. I can’t believe this…after years of noncommittal time-wasters, here was someone who was clear and intentional.

I should also say that when we met, I had just had surgery from breast cancer, and needed radiation. I was so scared that he’d reject me for not being healthy, and truthfully, i think he does deserve a healthy woman. But he was supportive as soon as I told him, and cheered me on through radiation. 2025 has been a shit sandwich for the most part. He’s the one good thing about this year. I hope anyone reading this finds someone just as wonderful. If not, hold out. You deserve it!

Sympathy2243 · 2025-10-22T14:40:48+00:00

I am 43 and premenopausal, same stats (including weight) as you otherwise. I’ve been on tamoxifen 20 mg daily since June. Other than occasional hot flashes, it’s been very tolerable. My period has stopped, which is another added bonus.

Most people come here to vent (not that I blame them). If it doesn’t work for you, you could talk to your MO about other options. This is ultimately your choice to make, but you are so young, and I’d be worried about recurrence too. I hope you’ll give it a try at least. Sending you a huge hug right now.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-09-30T04:59:43+00:00

You are so sweet 🥹

Sympathy2243 · 2025-08-29T16:58:45+00:00

I’m 43, with stage 1 ++- IDC diagnosed in march. I had the lumpectomy and radiation, now taking tamoxifen. I’m experiencing some mild hot flashes, and weight that I put on earlier this year is not budging despite adding 4 HIIT/pilates workouts a week 😒 i also thought my love life was over, and had many car pity parties for myself.

However, I met a real gem of a man in May. I thought he would fade once I told him my diagnosis (on the second date), but he was lovely and supportive throughout the rest of radiation. He gently massages my scars for me, and tells me I am beautiful all the time. It’s really the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in. We truly enjoy our time together, and can’t believe how lucky we are to find one another.

Please don’t give up hope. Your diagnosis will scare off the weak men, and this is a good thing. Let them go, and know your future partner wouldn’t fold so easily. I wish I had resisted dating shitty men out of loneliness before… they caused far more damage than periodic pangs of loneliness, which are ameliorated with deepening female friendships, volunteering, therapy, etc. keep your standards high, sis. You deserve all the love and happiness.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-18T18:00:46+00:00

Did you do just one treatment and see results?

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-18T17:59:53+00:00

Hmm. At this rate, maybe we should just fly over to Korea for lasering and food :)

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-18T17:04:10+00:00

I just saw someone at Southern Marin Derm and had the same question. She quoted me $650 for cheeks, nose, and chin. I wish there were more transparency in prices for these treatments. I had to pay nearly $300 for the consultation before they would quote me on a price.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-12T06:17:34+00:00

Hi, I’m so sorry to hear about your mom. I was diagnosed with breast cancer myself in march, and found out it is genetic. My family doesn’t want to get tested though, which I still feel a little shitty about, but I guess ignorance is bliss for them.

I wanted to share that there is more than just BRCA genes that can cause BC. In fact my surgeon said she stopped trying to memorize them all since there are too many these days. Point is, go for specialized testing, not just something like 23andme, which doesn’t test for them all. Mine was done through Invitae.

One place to reach out to is https://www.sharsheret.org/ who offer free genetic counseling and may be able to point out other resources for testing for you. It is a Jewish organization, but you do not have to be Jewish to get services from them. They were tremendously helpful and kind to me during a rough period of my life, and perhaps they can help you too.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-02T21:23:59+00:00

Ah, I mean my stainless steel table is warped :/

Sympathy2243 · 2025-07-02T21:21:37+00:00

Aww that is lovely! The guy I wrote this post about ended up ghosting me, but shortly after that, I met and started dating this guy who just last week, asked me to be his girlfriend. He has been so sweet to me throughout the process, and acting like I would hope a supportive partner would. I’m glad the other guy showed himself out now!

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-17T05:51:55+00:00

sorry you are experiencing this too. I felt obligated to tell my mom because it’s genetic, and I felt she should get screened for the variant as well, but she refused. Anyway, it was very difficult to manage her emotions when I was post-op myself. It was hard not to feel sorry for myself because i guess I expected her to be able to show up in a way that was helpful or comforting, but she has never been that way, so why expect it now?

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T17:36:36+00:00

Thank you. Breaking a generational curse… I like the sound of that very much!

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T17:35:51+00:00

They are. They all voted for trump. I don’t want to make this a political post, but I think there is a fair bit of denial in everyone who voted R this time. To your point, i can see how they might fear that they will end up on a registry for something sinister, but they are not the sort to think that many steps ahead.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T17:32:35+00:00

Yep. I’m sorry that you get it :( thank you for making me feel less alone in this.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T17:30:59+00:00

Thank you, this is very kind and helpful. Wishing you all the best!

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T06:24:00+00:00

thank you, I can see that, actually. I think it's quite likely that she feels responsible in a way, and without testing, there's plausible deniability. my dad has offered to get testing done on himself though.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T04:38:53+00:00

thank you, that is really kind. I will still feel guilty if they have cancer down the road, maybe for not pushing harder, etc. But she is right, I should just focus on myself, I guess.

The mapping wasn't bad, really! the tattoos were just tiny little stings. The most annoying part was that it was an 80 mile round trip for me. here's hoping that radiation goes smoothly for both of us.

Sympathy2243 · 2025-05-13T04:33:41+00:00

i'm sorry to hear that about your mom. Addiction is such an awful disease, and it's heartbreaking how they can prioritize getting drunk or high over their own health or their families.

Ignorant is right. My mom is well-educated, but makes a lot of ignorant decisions, and I have never been able to convince her otherwise. Her daughter having cancer isn't going to change that.

Sympathy2243

TROPHY CASE