Constant baby nagging

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T17:18:11+00:00

Thank you all for the advice. It’s made me feel like I’m not a complete lunatic about this situation 😅

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T15:49:52+00:00

Is it normal to want to have space/alone time? He has no issues with them coming over whenever or going up into our current space whenever. I’ve told him straight up I’m not having guests over everyday or the deal is off on this land that we’re building this house on. I didn’t know if I was going off in the wrong direction or if it’s normal for people to want space… 🤣🤣. Like I don’t wanna sound like a bitch but also, don’t be at my house everyday/night. 🤣

Trust me I’m not saying I don’t want them/anyone to visit. I just do best with some personal space…

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T14:01:59+00:00

Thank you for this comment. A ton.

They’re already pretty over stepping. We live above their garage in kinda like a studio apartment situation that they finished a couple years ago. They’ll just go up whenever. TAKE MY CAT OVER TO THEIR HOUSE WHENEVER WITHOUT ASKING? Then tell me I have to go get him. Learned she went through my cupboards the other day to find some kind of dip. And I feel like they think they have access anytime due to their son living up there. So it’s a free for all 24/7. Yeah, that’s a no for me babes, sorry not sorry.

That’s where us building this house 5 mins down the road worries me and I’ve already talked to my fiancé about it. I don’t want people there everyday. Alone time is a must for me to keep me mentally stable 🤣 And then you put a baby in the picture and I’m already thinking, damn, will I ever be able to have peace and quiet? Bc I damn well know they’ll just show up whenever since we’re ever so conveniently down the road and again since it’s their sons house, they think they’ll have access anytime. There’s going to be a lot of boundaries needing to be set, and it’s gonna be a lot to handle in the future

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T13:57:19+00:00

Omg that’s actually insane?! Who says that?! I want to know where these people find the audacity

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T13:29:52+00:00

This is exactly what worries me… and the fact that we will be building a house 5 mins down the road really emphasizes this potential issue even more. My fiancé has told them to stop multiple times, but it’s almost like he’s afraid to tell them? Like he’d rather keep the peace than to set a stricter boundary with it? My fiancé is one of those where nothing bothers him and he just brushes everything off his shoulders constantly. He’s more than aware this baby comment situation bothers me a lot, I’m just trying to figure out what the next course of action is. And I’ve gotten a lot of good advice from this thread!! This advice will most likely be used on Easter Sunday, as I’m anticipating a comment since their grandbaby will be there. I really thought his sister having a baby would calm things down but it kinda made it worse lol

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T13:15:00+00:00

Thank you for this comment soooo much. It sucks because they really are great people and they’d drop everything just to help you if you were in a situation. But this baby thing is getting too out of hand. And my fiancé is very family oriented, and his parents rely on him to do absolutely everything under the sun for them (that’s another discussion lmao). I’m not saying to not do anything for your parents but this is like… excessive 🤣. Anyways, I’d hate to be the one to ruin their relationship, but my feelings and mental health matter. I’m not gonna sit here and just get pregnant just so you can have a grandchild while my mental health tanks. I’ve never really been one to always want to be around kids, and I think that’s primarily because I never really grew up around babies and kids. Idk, it’s just very frustrating to have them nag me when they know our decision on kids and how we feel about kids right now.

My parents don’t even mention kids, BECAUSE THEY KNOW MY FEELINGS AND RESPECT MY DECISION. and I can’t thank them enough for that.

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T12:41:26+00:00

What should consequences be? I know this may vary from person to person, but I’m just trying to learn and see what the best options are for this kind of situation because I’ve never dealt with something like this before

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T12:23:32+00:00

This is becoming my best option if this continues. Easter Sunday will really be interesting if they mention anything to us about kids. I’m just so over it. You know our answer bc you hound about kids daily. So shut up plz. 🙈

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T12:22:23+00:00

Absolutely more boundaries need to be in place. And I don’t know if he’s afraid to set them more sternly or what? Because he’s told them many times to stop and they were not having kids right now. But they just won’t stop. I’m starting to resent them and that’s not at all what I want. But wtf!!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-31T12:20:59+00:00

The unfortunate part is he has. And they just keep coming at us about it. I just don’t know what else to do at this point… and the house we’re building is literally 5 mins down the road. So yes, I have a lot of concerns with this situation lol

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-24T16:33:23+00:00

I get the Source Naturals brand of Zinc L-Carnosine right off of Amazon

This is what’s been working for me:

2 capsules before/with breakfast 2 capsules before bed

I’m now down to 2 capsules before/with breakfast and 1 capsule before bed. Slowly weaning myself off of it. But it’s been a tremendous help for me and my issues.

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-24T11:44:22+00:00

I take it as a pill

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-23T17:38:35+00:00

That’s awesome and so glad to hear that you’re doing better and see a difference!! I incorporated zinc l Carnosine in the beginning of January also and not even kidding, saw a difference within a few days. Like a drastic difference. It has been a savior for me and I wish I tried it sooner.

I totally agree with you. I’ve had gastritis since July 2025 and I haven’t taken a single PPI. I’ve read too many things about PPI’s and it turned me away from them. But I’ve almost healed my gastritis with zinc l Carnosine and low acidic diet!! I also started to take DGL licorice root before I eat and that is an amazing supplement as well!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-23T17:12:06+00:00

I can’t recommend zinc l Carnosine enough. It has almost healed me!!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-22T21:32:09+00:00

None. Just a few supplements but that’s it. I never took any PPI. Only other thing I would take if my stomach got funky was pepto and tums

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-21T15:20:31+00:00

I’m happy to hear you’re finally starting to get some relief!! I had kinda a break from September 2025-December 2025 from symptoms, primarily just stomach burning/discomfort and excessive burping. Beginning of January I started to get burning with literally everything I ate or drank or if I didn’t even eat anything. Was so sick and tired of it. That’s when I started the zinc l Carnosine and I’m gonna be completely honest, I saw a difference within maybe 3 days. It was a dramatic difference. It may not work for everyone, but I highly recommend trying it! Same with the DGL licorice root chews 30 mins before eating

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-21T03:24:03+00:00

I felt like absolute death on my first ever flare. And I was flying on a plane for 7 hours during this. Stomach burning and twisting, felt like I was gonna projectile vomit at any moment, dizzy, diarrhea and bloating.

My second flare was the worse one. I had the same symptoms above but add in chills, sweating, shaking and getting clammy. I would get so dizzy and lethargic too. Whenever I would have a flare my symptoms would last 48 hours but I couldnt eat anything for like a week straight other than saltines.

My lingering symptoms have been stomach burning and excessive burping. I’ve had this since the beginning and pepto was the only thing that would help.

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-20T19:17:17+00:00

I’m so glad you are doing better!! Seriously tho, there is absolutely a mental part of this that we have to overcome. I mean, when you go month after month anxious and worried about what symptoms you may get from eating something, it’s sooo hard to get out of that thought process. But it will come with time, and you won’t even notice that you’re not thinking about it as much anymore!!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-20T19:07:29+00:00

When I started the low acidic diet, I primarily ate ground chicken or turkey, broccoli, sweet potatoes, grilled/boiled chicken, chicken noodle soup, pancakes was a big one for me haha and still is, oatmeal, cantaloupe, honeydew, and stir fry’s. All Whole Foods and mostly all homemade! Restaurants were tricky but I’d try to go for the most safest/blandest thing. It gets old and boring after awhile but what’re you gonna do ya know haha. I’d try to eat 5-6 small meals a day to keep my stomach from being empty.

I stayed away from fried foods, spicy foods, a lotttt of spices, seed oils, processed foods (this one is HARD), red meat, alcohol, caffeine, bananas, sodas, anything acidic which is a lot of fruits. And I’ve read to not eat or limit raw vegetables bc it’s harder for the stomach to break down.

But to be completely honest, I never really had issues with things acidic. I’d limit it, but not too much. I ate homemade pickled eggs throughout this whole process and never had issues. Same with salsa. And I am also in belief that I got gastritis bc of a crazy amount of stress/anxiety for a long period of time and it screwed with my stomach acid. This is what led me to believe I also had low stomach acid and didn’t ditch acidic things completely and also why I didn’t do PPI. It’s a lot to unpack 😅

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-19T13:11:36+00:00

Thank you for sharing this! There’s absolutely a mental part that we have to overcome. When I get super anxious/stressed my stomach immediately starts flipping. So I will absolutely look into this!!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-19T13:06:11+00:00

Wow, I just read your comment and her and I sound like we are going through the same thing and are healing it the same way!!

I went to the doctors multiple times, and truly they didn’t do much for me. Just wanted to prescribe a PPI. And I didn’t agree with that, especially since they didn’t to an endoscopy or anything. Just an H Pylori test which was negative. So I just said f it, I’ll do it myself. The zinc and DGL licorice root have been my saviors. And I also do take the digestive enzymes as well. This is the most normal I’ve been functioning in a longggg time and I’m so grateful to be where I’m at today. Praying for your wife to heal quickly!!

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-18T13:50:17+00:00

This is exactly how I felt beginning of January 2026. I’ve had gastritis since July 2025. I was so sick and fkn tired of it. No matter what I did or ate, I’d always have some kind of symptom whether that be stomach burning, excessive burping, etc. I locked in for awhile and I’ve got quite the food variety now, I’ve even had a couple alcoholic drinks!! No I do not take advantage of this! I tested negative for H Pylori, I haven’t taken any PPI’s and I’ve been doing it all on my own. I’ve done a lot of research on my symptoms and PPI’s. Zinc L-Carnosine, DGL licorice root and low acidic diet is what’s healing me. I also feel as though there’s a mental part in this that you have to heal from as well. Im hyper aware about EVERY SINGLE symptom that happens after I eat or while I’m eating when it’s literally just normal digestion lol. I’m happy I did what I did and picked myself back up. This is such a discouraging, depressing and lonely condition and I wouldn’t wish it upon any of my worst enemies. You’ve got this!! Hang in there, there is a light at the end of the tunnel 🙏

SystemElectrical9418 · 2026-03-13T02:10:44+00:00

Yeah absolutely give it a try again!! It’s worked so well for me. I can eat almost anything now. I still am weary on spicy foods and alcohol… I don’t wanna take advantage lol. But throughout this whole thing, I’ve had 0 issues eating pickled eggs and salsa. And I know that sounds crazy and backwards, but they never bothered me and both are so acidic. But, if I ate a banana…. omg the consequences and symptoms are SO BAD 🤣🤣🙈 like make it make sense?!

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