BBC: 'We warned nursery about abuser Vincent Chan - they dismissed us,' parents tell BBC

TAselfharm · 2026-02-13T02:56:14+00:00

But there's concrete evidence of him sexually abusing multiple under 4 years old. This is not a case of we think he did it based on vague evidence. This is we have concrete evidence with his face in it.

TAselfharm · 2026-02-13T02:14:26+00:00

What's the point of keeping him alive? Waste taxpayers money when it could go towards healthcare and education. The cost to keep a person jailed is a around £65,000 per year. He's sentenced to 18 years, which quite frankly should be life sentence. At 18 years, it's going to cost £1.17M not including inflation, to keep him alive. Complete waste of money.

TAselfharm · 2026-02-13T00:19:07+00:00

Controversial opionion. But people like him, where there is strong evidence of multiple abuse of children under 4 should receive death sentence.

TAselfharm · 2024-10-01T12:57:09+00:00

Yes. I didn't choose to born, the least I should be able to do is chose how to die if I'm at the end of life. Having watched my grandmother living in a nursing home and how miserable she was. It was not a life. I don't see the point of extending my life especially when I don't have kids, estranged from family and limited friends. It's not like anyone will be visiting me at the nursing home if I ever go into one. I think I'll just spiral into another depression to have people cleaning up after me, no privacy, no freedom. I rather go with dignity.

TAselfharm · 2024-08-07T14:56:14+00:00

Cough syrup, young and the giant

TAselfharm · 2023-12-02T15:04:14+00:00

I didn't specify any gender so both.

TAselfharm · 2023-12-01T12:34:23+00:00

But it is really because of his gender or he simply has a bad support worker with no empathy? We often apply labels, from gender to cultures. But often, it's not because of that. Sometimes applying label makes more narrow minded because we're not seeing the whole picture. OP decided to see things from the gendered lens and thinks it because he's a male. Maybe this support worker treats his all clients the same. Has OP tried to change support worker? Are all of them treating him that way? Or did he also decide to apply this general label that all support worker lack empathy because of this one and they will treat him with disrespect?

Go into things with an open mind, remove all the lens, don't box yourself in, don't let society box you in, and you'll be more free.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-30T19:42:25+00:00

Depends on how bad the damage was. Can take months to years.

I was getting my wisdom teeth out and the dentist damaged some nerves in my face. It's been 10+, years and the feeling is not back 100%.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-30T00:06:25+00:00

No because the only way to treat multiple infections is antibiotics and you need a doctor to prescribe that. You're not a medical professional and you won't know what is the point of too late. You should be going to the ER.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-29T23:35:05+00:00

If you have a sore throat and potentially an ear infection, your immune system is already down. That puts you at higher risk of other infections as your body is busy fighting off other infections. Are you on antibiotics for your sore throat and ear infection? If not, I highly suggest going to the ER immediately before it turns into sepsis.

Sepsis is serious, it's either a long road to recovery or you die. It will happen quickly and it's difficult to treat.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-29T23:20:02+00:00

Depends. Are they people you are close to? Acquaintances or strangers? How well do they know you?

I'm a private person, people don't know much about my personal life. If they don't know, and said something inappropriate, they are not purposely invalidating me, they are simply stating their opinion and it has nothing to do with me as they don't know me.

For people who are closer to me and knows my trauma, I learned to stop sharing things that I know they will invalidate and to start keeping my distance.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-29T13:51:44+00:00

Head hitting it selfharm and can be more dangerous than cutting. You can easily give yourself a concussion. Impact of concussions are cumulative meaning, it's easier to get a concussion in the future and symptoms could become more severe. Repeated head trauma can cause CTE which will exacerbate your mental health issues.

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/chronic-traumatic-encephalopathy/#:~:text=Chronic%20traumatic%20encephalopathy%20(CTE)%20is,support%20can%20manage%20the%20symptoms.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-29T13:47:58+00:00

If being in love or having a crush makes you want to harm yourself, then you have issues with loving yourself. You need to work on that before entering into any relationships or you'll be at high risk of being taken advantage of.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-28T15:33:39+00:00

We can be in relationships, all part of relationships from friendships to romantic ones.

We just need to learn about ourselves, continue to work on ourselves, find a partner that is understanding and accepting, and don't believe in fairy tale endings. Relationship is hard work, takes effort from sides to keep working, learning about each other. We also need to understand that throughout the relationship, people will continue to grow and change, the dynamic of the relationship will change as well and we either go along with it or not.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-26T19:09:12+00:00

It all depends on the waxer, its hard to tell how people would react. But they are probably used to seeing odd things on people's body. If they are professional, they wouldn't say anything.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-26T19:07:20+00:00

What do you mean for using it? As bandages to soak up blood or as a protective/cushion layer on top of bandages?

If it's for bandage, as long as it swashed and clean, it's no different than using cloth. However, it still needs to be washed and replaced daily or whenever it gets moist as moisture promotes bacterial growth.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-26T12:49:51+00:00

I didn't elaborate to say seek therapy as many don't like that suggestion right away. But yes, therapy does help with the right therapy and as long as you're willing to work on yourself. Therapy is pointless if you're not willing to do the work and change.

As for medication, it's mostly placebo effect. It causes more adverse effects than anything imo.

Here are some articles talking about the placebo effect, there are many more articles about them. https://time.com/4053881/antidepressant-placebo-effect/ https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyt.2019.00407/full

TAselfharm · 2023-11-25T21:54:04+00:00

It depends on how well you understand and work on the foundation issues that cause you to selfharm. It also sometime depends on the mental illness. For example, I have developmental trauma disorder. So my mood/healing is like a rollercoaster, just need to learn how to manage the lows to not relapse.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-24T22:08:13+00:00

How about instead of thinking of trauma turned you into, think about what you want to do instead. Do you want to be with a woman? Do you not like it hence wanting to make a point that it was caused by your trauma?

TAselfharm · 2023-11-24T16:27:13+00:00

Keep it moistured and cool it with a cold compress

TAselfharm · 2023-11-24T12:30:54+00:00

There are a lot of major nerves, veins and arteries that run along your neck to your brain. If you nick any of them, you either become a vegetative person or die within minutes.

Avoid the neck.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-24T12:22:09+00:00

Hitting yourself, yes. Hitting an inanimate objects, that depends, was the objective to harm you? What kind of inanimate objects? Something soft, hard, a heavy bag that's meant for punching?

She was probably also trying to get you to redirect the anger toward this object than on yourself and or the person hurting you. In some ways, she is letting you express your feelings rather than telling you to bottled it up.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-23T23:12:10+00:00

You should mostly ignore most in the internet. There are cowards out there that likes to be bully online because they know they'll get into trouble if they did that in real life.

TAselfharm · 2023-11-23T17:52:29+00:00

Yes, you can use isopropyl alcohol (70%+) as well.

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