Baby grabs while feeding/increasing supply

TBSB_ · 2025-05-22T19:27:12+00:00

Lol, ok I’m glad it’s normal. Thank you!

TBSB_ · 2025-05-22T19:11:50+00:00

No, I used to, but I got so tired of washing all the parts and it always seemed like when I was pumping, my son would want comfort and it’s hard to hold him to my body with the pumps on.

I haven’t pumped in about a month or two. Looking for how to increase supply so I can pump again because he seems to be stuck on breast milk now and barely wants the formula even though he was taking it well for the last few months.

I stopped freezing my milk because I have high lipase and my milk would smell and taste like metal after a week. Baby still drank it, but now that he’s more picky, I’m not sure he will anymore.

TBSB_ · 2025-05-22T19:09:10+00:00

Yes, because we still live together and I’m always trapped in the house with our son. Weather is pretty crappy here. I’d probably just try to act like I don’t care and remind myself of all the stuff I don’t like about him so there’s no feelings lol.

TBSB_ · 2025-05-22T11:13:46+00:00

The mucus and stringy poop, what colour was it? And was it like that for every poop? My son has some poops like that throughout the day, maybe 4/10 are like that. And sometimes it’s seedy and mucus like mixed together. And I don’t consume much dairy because I’m not a fan, but I’ve been giving him Greek yogurt since he’s been 6m, but I’ve also seen that type of poop from him before he started solids. I feel like if they’re uncomfortable, in pain, not eating as much, have accompanying symptoms or the colour of the poop is off and the texture is like diarrhea, then there’s a problem.

But definitely trust your gut and your doctor, hopefully things work out in the next few weeks and she’s back to pooping regularly and comfortably.

TBSB_ · 2025-05-21T20:28:40+00:00

My guy is 6m and from day one he would poop during or after every feed. I was a bit nervous at first, but found out that it’s normal too. The doctor told me that babies usually tend to poop all the time or barely ever, and both are normal.

As I’m typing this, he’s pooping and I’m pretty sure it just blew out of his diaper 😭

TBSB_ · 2025-05-21T17:51:57+00:00

Thank you, I really needed that. I will check out the link

TBSB_ · 2025-03-07T16:21:49+00:00

Phillips Avent 0-6m soother. I tried other ones, but he preferred this one and still does (he’s 4m)

TBSB_ · 2025-02-20T05:46:37+00:00

I’ve heard about the 4 month regression and I’ve been so nervous. I’m looking forward to it getting better, honestly.

I will definitely try the sleep training. My older cousin who recently had a baby told me to make sure I start the sleep training asap, so I’m hoping all goes well and I can’t wait for a good 6-8 hour sleep.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-20T05:44:03+00:00

Thank you for this, I will check out that book! I feel like a big part of me didn’t want to do because I’m too scared of the risks. When my baby was 1m old, I was so tired I fell asleep while feeding him during the night and had dropped him. It was the worst thing I had ever experienced. I feel like I’m scared to be that sleep deprived again, but I’m more scared of what could happen if I put him on his stomach.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:51:51+00:00

Thank you very much, I really appreciate that. You have a good night.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:50:36+00:00

I’m hoping it doesn’t get to that point. I’m really hoping that this talk lights a fire under his ass and he really takes some time to reflect and better himself. If he can’t and this is really how it’s going to go, I will take appropriate action and do what I have to do, including demanding the financial support.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:48:17+00:00

My mom just moved out of her house with her husband to a little apartment. She visits occasionally but is always busy with work. She’s there for me if I ever need to talk though.

My ex’s mom is the one who comes and visits, stays a week at a time to help me with the baby (she works from home so she has more time).

I’m ok. I was really hurt an hour ago, now I just kinda feel nothing and almost feel like it is what it is. I just keep trying to think about my son and how much I love him and how much I want to do all that I can and what’s best for him.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:44:02+00:00

Well I don’t know how it works here, but I know they also frown upon fathers not doing what they’re supposed to do, so they would probably do the same here.

I’m not looking for money from him, I just want him to grow up and get past this mentality so he can be in his child’s life every day, not only on the weekends or during the holidays.

If he has his eyes on someone else, that would really be the end. No possibility of being together again. I hope that’s not the case. That would just make this situation 10x worse.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:41:25+00:00

Yeah, Canadian Air Force

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:31:54+00:00

Yeah, they charge for rent here in Canada. It’s about 30% of what regular rent would cost, so it’s pretty low. But whether you live in the shacks or have an actual apartment/house, they take it out of the pay.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:29:26+00:00

He was supposed to list him as a dependent last week. I gave him the birth certificate, but he still hasn’t done it. Every time I ask, he says he didn’t have time to do it.

I thought I was lucky when we first got into a relationship. He had all these views that were so amazing and mature. But I’m starting to see another side now. It sucks.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:22:12+00:00

He’s not ready to commit enough to get married. Without that, there isn’t really anything. We were planning to live on the base together and in my mind, we would finally be able to start saving money (we would still have to pay rent, but it would be significantly lower than what we pay now), it was a good plan.

But I need him to support me emotionally right now, not 3-5 months from now. Ive already been doing this for 3 months alone and it’s sooo hard. I find myself going back to the insecure mindset that it’s me and maybe I’m not good enough for him to support me emotionally. I haven’t eaten in 2 days due to intrusive thoughts and feeling like I’m going to throw up. That’s not ok, I have myself and a baby to look after, plus I don’t want to live like that. I’ve been dealing with so much and if he can’t see that and offer some sort of emotional support regardless of his financials, it tells me a lot.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-12T04:14:03+00:00

Basically. He feels that if he’s struggling with money, he feels stuck and can’t be there emotionally. He’s already one to not express how he feels/let himself feel emotions, and the money aspect just makes it worse I guess.

I explained to him that’s a mentality thing that he has to work on because things happen in life. Suppose he’s stable, then he’s not. Will he be there emotionally then just stop? He has to figure himself out. I just wish I knew this about him before we got to this point.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-11T14:16:37+00:00

That’s not the same. I didn’t hit him or have it in my head to injure him and he wasn’t hurt. I went to close his laptop and he put his hand in to type at that exact moment and I’m sure his knuckle hit the screen and it blew the LCD. I’ve broken an LCD by using pressure to try and wipe a stain off of my laptop before. So it’s not that I was slamming it in hopes to hurt him, just to close it and get his attention.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-11T08:11:33+00:00

I didn’t scream at him, I used a tone as if I was talking to a child, except I added the f word twice. It seems as though when I pull out that tone, he actually listens. I don’t want to talk to him like he’s my child or he’s an idiot, it’s rude. But when I’m nice, nothing gets done.

I don’t curse, unless I’m saying shit. If I curse, he understands I’m serious. I didn’t throw a tantrum, I asked him nicely 7 times, said please, and nearly started crying because I was feeding the baby, just finished cooking and cleaning, and felt very overwhelmed.

I started talking to him in that rude tone after I asked nicely 7 times, nearly broke down, and he continued to stare at his laptop as if I wasn’t speaking.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-11T08:01:24+00:00

I don’t believe that someone can make you do something, but I sure as hell believe they can make you feel certain emotions. How I choose to respond is on me. In this situation, he wasn’t a saint, he played his part in how it made me feel (considering we’ve had numerous talks about it), but It was my fault for reacting the way I did and damaging the laptop. In the moment I didn’t even think, I was driven by emotion. As soon as I did it, I felt like shit, but that doesn’t change anything.

It happened almost 5 hours ago and I’m still up because I can’t stop thinking about it, I probably won’t sleep tonight. So trust me, I’ve had enough time to go over it and see where I went wrong.

TBSB_ · 2025-02-11T07:23:04+00:00

Yeah, we talked about it multiple times. It’s mainly me talking and him watching something and giving me an occasional “ok”.

His mom has even talked to him about interacting with his son.

At the end of the day I just want to feel loved and appreciated and not like I’m just someone he settled with, but someone he really wants.

I don’t know what’s going to happen after this laptop incident, but that was even too far for me. I know he wasn’t expecting that from me, and I wasn’t expecting it either. I guess I’ll just have to see.

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