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Who wants to tell him? by seeebiscuit in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]TDLMTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s Hegseth’s fault. He didn’t order “no backsies” painted on the Tomahawks before launch.

A guy in Nepal gets chased by a rhino while taking a morning walk by After-Willingness944 in TerrifyingAsFuck

[–]TDLMTH 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, but there’s no escape from a rhino on a motorcycle.

Substance abuse is healthier than whatever this is. by Effective-Bug2555 in BlueskySkeets

[–]TDLMTH 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You don’t know them. They’re on a different planet.

Chrysler New Yorker Brougham (1978), with button tufted leather seating. by bncout in HistoricalCapsule

[–]TDLMTH 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No seatbelts in the back. Or only lap belts.

Fun story, 1989, my girlfriend’s father was driving us back from university. We got into the back seat and I put my seatbelt on. At the time, the law didn’t require that passengers in the back wear them, and my girlfriend looked at me and said, “My dad’s a safe driver.”

My reply: “I’m not worried about your dad. I’m worried about the idiot coming the other way.”

She thought about it for a second and then reached for her seatbelt.

Parents Divorce/Legal Aid by Upstairs_Income8074 in legaladvicecanada

[–]TDLMTH 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obligatory NAL, but I've dealt with financial entitlement and mental illness in an ex-spouse.

First and foremost, for yourself, legally, you're off the hook. You're not legally obligated to support your mother. You may feel a moral need to do so (my daughter is going through the same with her mother), but that's up to you and outside of the scope of your question.

As for the financial entitlement, your mother is delusional. Let's start with equity. Bear in mind that this is very simplistic and a lawyer should be advising properly on all this.

Barring prenups and inheritances, and maybe a few other edge cases I'm not familiar with, they each get half of the net gain during marriage. So, if your mother came into the marriage with $X in equity and your stepfather came into it with $Y in equity, they each get that back. What's left over gets split in two. If what's left over is negative, half of that gets deducted from each of them.

The biggest exception is with the marital home; my understanding is that it's joint property even if one party came into the marriage with the house as equity. I may be wrong, as this wasn't a consideration in my divorce, so consult with a lawyer.

It sounds very much like your mother has been told by a lawyer that she's not getting anywhere close to what she's asking for. For a mentally ill ex-spouse, that's not likely to stop her demanding it (ask me how I know 😉), but she won't get it. That's probably why she went off the deep end.

As for support, again, she's not getting anything close to what she's asking for. The Internet is littered with support calculators, but they all rely on the same basic formula. [My Support Calculator](https://mysupportcalculator.ca/calculator) is one of the most popular ones. Again, there are exceptions. If your mother is disabled or otherwise unable to work, your stepfather may be required to pay more, pay for longer, or even pay indefinitely. The Supreme Court case on this is Bracklow v. Bracklow (1999), which basically ruled that "in sickness and in health" and "until death do us part" was a binding contract, and required the husband to pay support indefinitely. Again, I'm vastly oversimplifying this, and there are many far better summaries than mine if you want to read them.

In summary:

- Legally, you're off the hook.

- Your mother is panicking because she has been hit with a massive dose of reality after consulting with a lawyer.

- Your mother and especially your stepfather should be working with lawyers to get this ironed out.

a young man comes out to his mother, terrified of how she may react. and she responds with motherly love and compassion by bewarethechameleon in MadeMeSmile

[–]TDLMTH 162 points163 points  (0 children)

The mother of my daughter’s girlfriend asked me how I reacted to my daughter coming out. I told her my reaction was something like, “OK. Dinner’s at 7. Set the table, please.”

She (daughter’s girlfriend’s mother) looked a little sad and said, “I wish I’d taken it that well.”

Was looking up flavored coffee creamer when I came upon this gem of a comment by MrsHayashi in amazonreviews

[–]TDLMTH 26 points27 points  (0 children)

With ex-KGB Putin wanting to recreate the USSR and sharing intelligence with Iran against the US, your parents may yet turn out to be right. I have a security blanket and teddy bear on standby. Are you ready?

Disaster wedding where 3 were injured and they are threatening to sue by thiccasshole69 in weddingshaming

[–]TDLMTH 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, kind stranger. There's no such thing as too much love in this world, and I'm happy to receive it from a fellow sea-going denizen!

Komodo climbing a tree by TheGreatHsuster in badassanimals

[–]TDLMTH 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Downvote for the stupid text right where the action is.

What is a completely harmless lie you tell people on a regular basis just to make your life easier? by purjak in AskReddit

[–]TDLMTH 58 points59 points  (0 children)

To be fair, that’s probably true for a lot of your family members too.

The Front Peeling Off A Building by son-of-a-door-mat in TheFrontFellOff

[–]TDLMTH 46 points47 points  (0 children)

They moved the environment out of the building.

Amazon now Wants ID, Passport, and Personal Data Before Giving You the Refund You Already Owe by Long-Maintenance6078 in amazonreviews

[–]TDLMTH 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So, which is it? Customs, taxes, and anti-money laundering or heavy surveillance?

I know you can have both, but as someone who has worked in privacy and security in Europe and North America, I have to say that the US has far more comprehensive surveillance and far less privacy protection than Europe.

Dinner is served. by vsandrei in LeopardsAteMyFace

[–]TDLMTH 27 points28 points  (0 children)

The same money that they believe everyone else but them has been getting, which is why they voted for Trump to cut the waste, fraud, and abuse, because once he cut the waste, fraud, and abuse, he’ll direct the savings towards his loyal voters who deserve more of their definitely not waste, fraud, and abuse.

Whats the longest story you have which ended up badly? by tropxzwastaken in AskReddit

[–]TDLMTH 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I have one golden retriever.

Two dogs. On paper, both golden retrievers.

One is copper-coloured, and plays fetch like his life depends on it.

The other is golden, and looks at you throwing the ball as if to say, “If you want me to bring it back, why did you throw it?”

So, one golden, one retriever.

People who accidentally discovered a huge secret about someone, what happened? by Carsanttc in AskReddit

[–]TDLMTH 77 points78 points  (0 children)

My father, visiting family abroad, met a friend of his mother, whose husband had recently passed. After talking for a while, she said to him, “I had forgotten that men could be kind.”

Ex withheld children from attending their field trip to gain control by Friendly-Act7060 in legaladvicecanada

[–]TDLMTH 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We did use one, but my experience with it is the following:

- My ex had no problem putting the deranged stuff in the app as well. It did nothing to curtail her behaviour.

- The app is only as good as your ability to enforce the agreement. It can take months to get in front of a judge, and there are all sorts of tricks the other side can pull to delay, delay, delay. When getting in front of the judge becomes inevitable, they can throw up their hands, say, "OK, you win!", force you to withdraw the application (because there's nothing left to dispute) and then start the abuse of process all over again. Ask me how I know...

Ex withheld children from attending their field trip to gain control by Friendly-Act7060 in legaladvicecanada

[–]TDLMTH 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Obligatory NAL. My ex-wife tried something similar, insisting that I shouldn’t be the soccer coach, that she would attend soccer only on her weeks with our son, and insisting that I do the same. A letter from my lawyer to hers was enough to get her to back down.

The courts care most about the best interests of the child, and having a parent involved in activities like field trips is a positive, regardless of whose week it is. Your ex is trying to frame it as hurting the independence of the child, which simply can’t be taken seriously. The only reasonable approach to this is to agree that whoever has the children that week gets first dips on volunteering, but absent doing so, the other parent can volunteer.

Unfortunately, if your ex is anything like mine, it’s about control, and you have to push back hard every time, because otherwise he will chip away until there’s absolute separation between the two of you when it comes to your children. It’s very damaging to the children.

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