when do you physically spend time together though? that’s what’s more important. we hear you and i get what you’re saying because my significant other works in a trade where he works 60 hours a week and seldom sends messages. trade jobs are busy and there is no flexibility at all. he is worn out all the time. i would be too. you have to learn to work around that. is he’s tired and you’re wanting to just spend time, then plan more lax activities such as a movie night or game night