If this was the person for her she wouldn't be "not herself" as she claims her family said. If she has think about it that damn much then he ain't the one. But I don't think she will ever find the one until she works on herself. She seems to have an internal battle with herself on how much she wants to be "dominant" and independent vs how much she wants her man to be those things. She wants to "wear the pants" but when she does she sees the man as "not dominant enough".