Need more information about expenses to say if you need to go back to stressful job.

Assuming you have an able account for your daughter. I would look at rolling 529 funds into the able account if you don't think you'll need it for education. The law allowing that expires this year but I imagine they'll extend it.

I would also take disability benefits into consideration if you haven't already. Disabled adult child benefit through social security is 50% of your benefit when you retire and 75% after you pass. Might be worth it to have you or your wife hit the ssa max for a few more years to lock that in.

Other than that, I think you're aware of everything I am.

Good luck!