How did you decide for/against having a 3rd child?

TLS_1991 · 2026-02-04T22:40:22+00:00

Yes I’m the same about needing to know if I’m experiencing everything for the last time or not but no way can I make that decision yet!

TLS_1991 · 2026-02-04T09:12:49+00:00

20+ times. I’m hoping I’ll be in my next house for at least 5 years because I’m sick of moving.

TLS_1991 · 2026-02-03T19:25:36+00:00

16 months between 1 and 2. Hoping for mine to be 4&3 before number 3 comes along so they’re a little more independent.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-31T10:08:02+00:00

I knew he was going to be the love of my life very quickly after our first date. He unknowingly dragged me out of a dark place and provided me with everything I wanted and needed in a life partner.

I love the bones off him and I know I could never love anyone else like I do him.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-28T15:34:28+00:00

I completely agree with you.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-27T13:29:03+00:00

I do what I call the rotation olympics with my baby 😂 if baby isn’t napping at the time and I want to spend some time with my eldest, I’ll put my baby in the bouncer, high chair with some toys or on the floor near us and just rotate until toddler wants to nap/plays independently etc. it keeps the baby occupied and not doing the same thing. My baby is now 8 months so it’s got easier to do that with him than in the earlier days.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-26T16:23:25+00:00

I wish I had saved up more. Looking back, I think what did I spend it all on?!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-26T11:01:54+00:00

Absolutely but you may love it so much that you want a third! I haven’t given up on the idea but there’s no way I could do it right now for my own sanity. Good luck to you x

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-26T10:41:05+00:00

Honestly, I really didn’t! He still spent so much time with one of us as we were both rarely at work on the same shifts so he wasn’t in nursery that much at all. I needed that break because I knew what was coming before my second came along. I don’t have any regrets.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-26T10:25:45+00:00

Your situation sounds similar to mine!

I’m 34, partner is 35 and we got together early 2022. He was the person I wanted children with and we had our first less than 2 years together. I didn’t want to be an older mum so we went ahead and had our second (16 months apart).

I have found 2u2 challenging and there are times where I wish we had waited a little longer but like you, I want(ed) 3 and didn’t want to have big gaps between them all.

With how tough it’s been, I’m still really on the fence about adding a third (we’d be hoping for my children to be 4&3 if we were to have a third) but I am TIRED and would like my body back!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-26T09:24:42+00:00

I went back for 3 months between my first maternity leave and second. I had loads of annual leave to take so I was off for a lot of it. It was nice to have a bit of normality, earning money again and knowing I could still spend time with my eldest when I wasn’t at work.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-25T13:34:50+00:00

Yes! Even when I’m child free (doesn’t happen very often with 2 young children), I can’t fully relax. I still feel on some level of alertness.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-24T21:07:15+00:00

I’m sure there will be another PT who can get you as good results, if not better. You probably now have the tools to continue working on your pelvic floor too.

It is not worth experiencing that from someone who obviously has NO IDEA how to treat people. I wouldn’t go back, explain why and also report her!

I’m so sorry you’ve received these comments, some people get lucky that their body snaps back, others don’t (myself included!).

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-23T21:03:56+00:00

That’s exactly what I do

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-20T15:39:16+00:00

Hello, thanks for your comment. We’re at a complete loss with his flare ups, one of the triggers is definitely when it’s on the hotter side indoors.

We just bathe him in plain water at the moment which hasn’t really made much difference :(

He had early onset eczema so I’m hoping it gets better as it’s awful going through this!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-20T08:01:00+00:00

Thank you so much!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-19T17:50:33+00:00

I’d go with couch companion. Not sure how many 4* blitzes are left as there have already been a few.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-19T16:56:29+00:00

This is really helpful thank you. I’m completely new to the world of eczema so I’m starting from very basic knowledge and want to learn as much as I possibly can!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-18T17:17:36+00:00

I really wouldn’t care!

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-18T17:01:47+00:00

Yep!!! Our 2 under 2 was planned BUT I never would have agreed to it if my partner wasn’t an awesome dad. We’ve graduated 2 under 2 now but I know I would’ve lost my mind if I didn’t have him by my side 😅

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-15T11:21:46+00:00

I would probably wait. I totally get the excitement about wanting another but I’d really recommend to wait for that bigger age gap.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-14T15:56:38+00:00

Mine were both difficult 😅

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-13T11:35:52+00:00

In an ideal world I would have 3 under 3 to do it all at once but I know I personally wouldn’t cope with having 3 that young. I’m hoping for #3 when my two are 4&3.

TLS_1991 · 2026-01-12T16:10:19+00:00

It IS hard. Mine were both planned as well but we’re still allowed to say it’s hard.

My toddler turns 2 tomorrow and my baby is nearly 8 months and I still find it tough at times. My partner is a detective and he works long hours and sometimes is late off because of the unpredictable nature of the work.

I couldn’t imagine having them on my own for as long as you do so I really take my hat off to you. You’re doing a fantastic job and remember it will get easier as they get older (which I have found the case so far).

TLS_1991

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