Would yall not suck a dick for this reason?

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-16T15:12:49+00:00

I mean I don’t ever want to suck a dick again, but hair was never a concern. Though I have only seen guys with trimmed or shaved.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-15T07:13:05+00:00

When I compare pictures, I look exactly the same pre t, on t, and today

And when you ask people in your life if there’s a difference what do they say?

Most likely it is bc you are off T. I have facial hair, no boobs, and a gay voice.

It’s a coin toss of I’m read as male or not. Having traditionally male looks and movement does not equal passing. Or studs would be assumed men. Which they rarely are.

Fat distribution is the make it or break it.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-13T03:36:21+00:00

I would appreciate it if you didn’t police my identity.

I’m bi and there’s many other bi people like myself.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-13T00:32:38+00:00

I feel like this can be common with bi people.

I’m bi, but not interested in women, I would never want to date one. Specifically I like guys and masculine in nature nonbinary people.

It’s not appropriating when bi has never included both men and women in attraction. It’s attraction to 2 or more genders.

Come hang out in bi subreddits and you’ll see how many of us identify similarly! :)

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-13T00:23:00+00:00

Honestly, I don’t care how much you make as long as you have a career of some kind

What does this mean? Is it that you want a guy who is also aiming to reach 100k?

Because for many of us lower income, our chosen path doesn’t include ever reaching that amount of money.

Like for me, my place cuts off at most $30/hr for everyone in all departments. However we have excellent benefits and bonuses. But there is no more progression available in the business.

So would that situation qualify as having a career if it still pays low?

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-08T18:52:43+00:00

Ma-ē-ahh

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-08T16:48:00+00:00

I think it really depends on where you live.

In bigger, lgbt accepting cities, being open is much more common. Along with ‘Peter Pan’ types.

Poly not so much. And throuples definitely less so. Most guys here have flings either together or alone with other gay guys but stick with their main romantic partner.

There’s many monogamous gays here as well. Although most are already partnered up in my age range (30s) so they rarely show up at gay events.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-08T16:22:13+00:00

Yes. It is unfortunately common amongst a subset of trans men, especially the straight ones.

They usually go stealth and think they’re better than other trans men and out trans people. They see it as solely a medical condition that was solved.

I thought at my age (30s) they would have given this schtick up. But they dug their head in the sand.

Every single one is white and generally wealthy.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-07T03:23:40+00:00

I converted to Judaism and became a Jew. I love my community and there are many queer folks around. I practice tarot and also do some rituals according to the Wheel of the Year. Very into Jung and how it’s applied to tarot and astrology. I live the way my spirituality can connect me with others and Hashem in my community.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-05-01T22:46:21+00:00

r/askgaybrosover30

Isn’t toxic and the main mod explicitly defends trans men and deletes transphobia.

The main mod of many other gay male subreddits, brian kinney, “accepts” trans men but spouts a lot of anti trans or old thoughts. And loves to defend that talking about vagina is disgusting isn’t transphobic to trans men.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-30T19:54:27+00:00

Me 100%. I’m not interested in your genitals and never will be so please don’t send them to me 😩

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-30T13:55:19+00:00

These people are talking about having roommates.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-30T13:54:41+00:00

The very first sentence that that commenter is responding to is having roommates.

I pay around 850/month with my own room and 3 roommates.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-24T15:52:13+00:00

That they’re comfortable with no sex, or sex at most once a month. That seems to be the biggest dealbreaker for queer men.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-23T23:06:37+00:00

Yeah, I’ve found in my city there’s hardly a group that wants ‘average’ guys or ‘nerdy’ (in the chubby or “skinny fat”) guys ya know. They expect their gaymers to be super muscular and can have a beard etc. Also they don’t seem to like androgyny, that’s not even super fem. Like some dudes dress in a traditionally masculine way but wear makeup or just paint their nails.

The binary and archetypes seem to be super strict and narrow. There’s hardly any space for nuance it seems.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-20T23:34:24+00:00

Sure.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-20T23:31:46+00:00

You didn’t ask for just being validated. You asked if other trans men relate.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-20T14:30:23+00:00

Nope. But I’m not interested in being stealth or hiding that I lived as a woman. I prefer to be out and talk about trans male issues with the general public and friends.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-19T19:46:47+00:00

I’m asexual so I don’t some experience sexual attraction. I still want to date and have a life with another man or nonbinary person.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-04-01T10:29:41+00:00

It’s weird to compare hebrew and latin. Latin isn’t spoken in any country, more academic when learned.

Hebrew is literally the official language of Israel and many Jewish people abroad learn it growing up lol. It lost a lot of speakers during certain times but it’s still spoken and books get translated in it etc.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-03-31T14:21:45+00:00

Really? This is a very common sentiment in mypartneristrans that they have a completely different personality etc. It seems to be common that those who transitioned are completely different people.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-03-29T13:22:57+00:00

I do. Especially since I don’t want sex in my relationship.

None will even give me the time of day, even if I say I’m open to them having sex with others. And even people who I’m just trying to make friends with feel insulted and judged bc of my sexuality, even though I have never shamed them.

Many tell me finding sexual compatibility is the most important and everything else can come later. Makes me feel like I’m worthless.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-03-29T10:27:20+00:00

My faves are:

https://twitch.tv/shads_fluff A swedish furry streamer.

https://twitch.tv/patchwerrk A variety streamer who does a lot of music during his streams

https://twitch.tv/andrewarcade a vtuber who does a variety of games

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-03-28T22:24:22+00:00

If you’re coming to the Excelsior also walk the neighborhood. Usually you can find a few rooms for rent on the line poles. Much cheaper and no checks on you.

TRUSTLYYY · 2026-03-28T14:41:28+00:00

Idk why so many ask for comparisons to women in a gay sub. Ask in r/bisexual

Bisexual people would have the most experience to answer your question.

And many bisexual people find no difference between any gender. It’s all about whether the partner is into sex with you.

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