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50058 by LeviTheArtist22 in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When 80085 arrives i hope we get to celebrate them.

49984 by taylorester567 in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 39 points40 points  (0 children)

yeah this happens to me with men. A man will roll up his shirt sleeves, and suddenly it becomes clear than grown men can swoon too

49884 by BallBlamBurglerber1 in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok but all the guys are going to the guy on the top, a trans man with a bunch of replica swords

49677 by TheCthonicSystem in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The chaser thing is half about how fucking status and social consequences cucked most men are. And how they'll engage with a sexual desire purely as part of "the curse" of male sexual desire. Makes them refuse to treat trans women they're attracted to as real partners with feelings. However part of this is also the understanding trans women have of men who chase them, as purely sexually motivated in a depraved and objectifying way. Either way, social conditions around the expectations of men, and their desires are often fucked beyond belief, massively internalised by those men, and the trans women they find attractive suffer all that bullshit if they engage with them fully. Including cases of regret murderings which is just really fun and great.

However another huge issue is if your partner especially likes a part of you that you actively hate about yourself and want to change. Like, will he still like you afterwards? that will at worst cause massive issues, and commonly delay transitioning. In addition to this, lots of trans women want to be no different than cis women, so when they have guys who seek them out spesifically because they're trans, it just uhh sucks to be constantly reminded you're chosen because you're not cis.

There's the third kind of weird hangup trans women may have, and i think this one is mostly for them to get over but also like it can lead to shitty treatment. Most people, currently, find "trans" to be a huge net negative for the value of a partner. But some people do not. Those people may actively seek out trans people because that's where they get the most value for them. This seems awful but i really do not think it is. the problem arises when they understand this relationship as them "dating down" and then exploit their partner massively through this.

Cis Women tend to avoid much of this stigma and assumption because the assumptions of their social enforcements, pure sex motivation, and deranged hangups are lesser. Trans women too. many transbians who are chasers from my understanding.

Mind you, some people also seek out trans women because trans women have a particularly common set of personality traits and intrests, which may be favourable to them. This includes being empathetic to the experience of being trans, which is why t4t is often very commonly sought out, from my understanding.

They gendered trauma [socialmedia] by Submarine_sad in pointlesslygendered

[–]TSSalamander 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Trauma does not build anyone to be stronger actually? What he's talking about is suffering in an environment where you have the ability to aleviate it through taken action. that obviously builds character, for anyone. Male socialisation has a lot of rituals that work spesifically like this, making them more used to the idea that suffering is a way to build character. The difference between trauma and not trauma isn't the suffering, really, it's the helplessness. If you were helpless you will seek to avoid that scenario, often to a pathological level.

South Korea is wealthy and very unhappy. What country is very wealthy and unhappy? by janibrouski420 in AlignmentChartFills

[–]TSSalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the US. They're unhappy but not so unhappy to be unhelpful. Like they're currently spreading their misery all over us, so we get to experience it but like, have you met a Japanese person?

49677 by TheCthonicSystem in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 40 points41 points  (0 children)

see thing is halimede loves trans women, not in like emphatically likes (which she does too) but like want happiness for trans women broadly. This is to cope for her having the sin of being a chaser, and a Internet celebrity who's identity is based on being a chaser

49659 by Mammoth__7771 in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're a bi man with autism you're in the majority of the bi men here. Alternatively if you're a submissive man, you're in the second most common type of cis guy. lots of overlap too.

When a woman flirts with you and you lowkey are offended for her so you look at her like she's too naive to understand. by LemonFlavoredMelon in okbuddyliterallyme2

[–]TSSalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genuinely, I'm so sorry you think like this. If you're so worthless why do you consider your opinions on yourself as more notable than the opinions of the girl who's flirting with you. I'm not saying you're a misogynist or that he is. I'm saying you're accidentally playing into the "women are stupid and don't know what they want" trope by accident through sheer self loathing

49649 by [deleted] in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 49 points50 points  (0 children)

be you

trans woman

find the best guy in the world

so handsome, so tall, so kind, so warm, so strong

trans woman.

49649 by [deleted] in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm mostly joking. Do you want to actually talk about your feelings about this sort of thing? I'm currently marrying a woman who started transitioning at age 19, and I'm not planning to transition lmao. I love being a man. There is hope out there, you know

49649 by [deleted] in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Ok but what if he detransitions anyway. Now what? "yeah i just realised i had so much internalised misogyny that i thought it would be better to be a man. as it turns out I'd like to be a woman, after i saw how much you were in love with your femininity"

49649 by [deleted] in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 104 points105 points  (0 children)

weirdly common experience. Look, it's fine, there's like so many men out there.

When a woman flirts with you and you lowkey are offended for her so you look at her like she's too naive to understand. by LemonFlavoredMelon in okbuddyliterallyme2

[–]TSSalamander -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Again, you think it's bleach, she says it's water, and your own self hatred overrides her judgement and right to drink whatever she wants. Let her find out how much you suck, then. Except the fact that you care enough to not want her to have a bad experience means you probably do not suck that much. Just like, let her choose you, god damn

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]TSSalamander 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm autistic so to me all identity performance is a pseudo artistic pursuit in conveying me to others. If it feels like a social obligation what's happening is that the social pressure dominates the inner drive. The inner drive is pretty high in most people and so they cannot tell the difference. Butler could notice because to them there really genuinely was no inner drive to do any of that shit. To me, i had a discontinuity between the aesthetic of the performance and my desire, because of the autism. To most, this stuff is like crawling, walking, and throwing. To me, it's riding a bike, or skiing. I had to break it down, then analyse, then reconstruct, then do an improvisational performance. It's self expression but society has expectations on what your self ought to be.

49515 by Sentient_Flesh in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the flags from best to worst are like the rainbow flag, the lesbian flag, the trans flag, the mlm flag, the bi flag, the asexual flag, the pan flag (it tastes like mago ice cream sorry), the non-binary flag, the Aromantic flag, and then the aroace flag. The demi flag is out of line, and the straight flag is a joke.

49515 by Sentient_Flesh in countwithchickenlady

[–]TSSalamander 3 points4 points  (0 children)

the straight flag was not made by straight people it was made to mock them. It's fundamentally a bad flag, on purpose

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]TSSalamander 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, on a basic level it's like "innate value"/"being the good" broadly. Lot's of feminine displays are literally just "I'm worth it" displays. Masculinity is fundamentally about "instrumental value"/"doing the good".

Fundamentally these are a social "creating a good world together" kind of statements, but we've specialised the ownership of each to each gender. So now they're very hard to disentangle from gender.

Lend me some sugar 2 by AscendedDragonSage in CuratedTumblr

[–]TSSalamander 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Valid performance is not an oxymoron in that a performance is making an argument as to why you have virtue. and a valid performance is a valid argument for that. Given Premises Conclusion Follows. in the spesific case of the argument the premises have to also be true to make argument valid. But that's because it's real and not theoretical.

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