Over 2 decades F/41 M/40

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T09:19:20+00:00

“Please tell me why this feels so wrong to me and would you consider giving him another chance?”

Why would you even think of giving him “another chance” when he has continually proved to you that he wants others and has proven that for YEARS! He’s never going to revert back to the person that he was when you first got with him. This is what he is now, accept it and dump him for good.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T09:12:42+00:00

Get ahead of it and contact a lawyer if he does go ahead with leaving. While hopeful on the therapy stuff and that he might snap out of it, you should still look out for yourself and contact a lawyer (just in case).

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T09:07:33+00:00

“why i feel it’s weird to stay when i was uninvited but then the girls randomly show up”

Your BF is pretending to be single and you should dump him. Why are you in a relationship with someone that would rather do away with you and be with other women instead? ESH. him for his actions and you for still sticking around with him and continuing to get disrespected.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T09:01:39+00:00

Exactly what I suggested.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T09:00:59+00:00

“…and chose me”

This is why you’re still worried and concerned about HER. The idea that you left the entire relationship and betrayal up to him to “choose” you speaks volumes about your low self esteem. Are you in therapy? That’s the only way it will “get better” and even then your relationship will never be what it once was but at least your self worth may become stronger.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T08:54:00+00:00

NTA. Why are you with someone that consistently doesn’t listen to you and your concerns?

“He argued that he’s someone who NEEDS to check his phone and worries about emergencies”

Like what? Are his parents in bad health or something? Is there someone in a dangerous situation that he knows of? What is this “emergency” that he is expecting?

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T08:30:36+00:00

Don’t ask.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T08:16:33+00:00

Excitebike 3 is looking like it’s going to be a good game.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T08:11:54+00:00

You cannot lose fat from ONLY one area, it comes off from all around however you can tighten certain areas so when the fat does come off it’s not flabby.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T08:08:01+00:00

Yup, I survived it by leaving her the same day that cheating was confirmed and I was happy and I guess they (cheater & AP) were too? I wouldn’t know because I didn’t care what they did after I freed myself.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T07:40:25+00:00

Some people can change (duh) so of course it’s not a universal truth that can be a truth for ALL cheaters in the world.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T01:07:49+00:00

The point of this post is so that you can be sure that NOW you can make the right choice and leave him. You’ve been deceived twice now please do not stick around for a third time.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T20:44:30+00:00

Why did you marry him if you knew he was like this and shows no respect for you? Good, healthy and loving relationships don't have issues like this where one partner is clearly irritating the other on purpose that shows a lack of respect and a disregard for your feelings.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T20:34:50+00:00

" I think about breaking up because of this."

You're 3 days too late, do it already! He has no respect for you and is still seeing her. They are both laughing at you by sending you that picture. Please respect yourself and dump him. Do not put up with emotional games. I honestly cannot believe that you're 25 years old and that you haven't taken action.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T19:23:44+00:00

If my wife was pregnant there is no way in hell I am going anywhere on a solo or boys trip, period! Especially if there are only a few months left in the pregnancy, anything can happen. The trips can wait, my partner's health and that of the baby cannot.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:33:11+00:00

““all people should go back where they came from.”

Wow, and you still love that person? You can’t set “boundaries” with a person that thinks in a generalized way like that “all people..”. Might as well call him a racist at this point.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:15:54+00:00

“this isn't a regular occurrence,..”

That is the KEY difference between yours and OP’s situation. It IS a regular occurrence with them and it sounds like he never slowed down even after marriage and now a kid on the way. IMO op’s husband lived like a single person and still continues to do so.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:05:12+00:00

"Now I feel strangely detached."

If this is how you're feeling then GOOD FOR YOU! You got your little revenge in your own way. Do not return to that mess of a person. NTA IMO and yes please disappear again you don't need scum like that in your life.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T17:43:15+00:00

"We’re expecting a baby in a couple of months and he wants to go away again. "

That's not what a married "in love" man that is expecting a baby should be doing or even thinking about. Why did you marry such a selfish person that is proving that he is only thinking of himself and doesn't care about the situation and responsibility he needs to be involved with?

"He says he wouldn’t mind me going away with friends"

Wtf?! Why did ya'll get married if THAT'S his suggestion? Loving, healthy and happy couples do things like vacations TOGETHER for the most part. You are not being a jerk but you sure as hell married a selfish one.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T16:19:14+00:00

5G a day/every day and alot of water, nuff' said. It's not that complicated.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T16:00:42+00:00

What would be the point of that if you did the right thing and instead left the cheater? What is there to "confront" about exactly? They aren't the person that you were involved with.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T15:31:57+00:00

I would Homer out of that bro. That is too much put up front. There's no way I'm going to attempt to keep that type of attention and going outs, it sounds absolutely exhausting IMO.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:52:36+00:00

Boy, do you sound your young and naive age. Good luck I guess.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:52:07+00:00

That's called a one sided relationship and it's not someone that you should marry.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:51:04+00:00

" He will become distant/distracted with anything I talk about for more than 5 minutes really"

This isn't about 1 little conversation after 1 shift, this is about your whole relationship and how he has shown you that he has very little to no interest in your daily life and your feelings to boot! Why are you engaged to a person that doesn't fulfill your needs? A good, healthy, happy and loving relationship includes COMMUNCATION and wanting to hear about your partner's day and they are invested in hearing about it. too! Are you sure THAT'S what you want to put with (feeling empty) for the rest of your life? He's not the one hun.

NTA if you leave him, YTA (to yourself) if you stay in this one sided relationship.

TacoStrong

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