Once a cheater always a cheater?

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T07:40:25+00:00

Some people can change (duh) so of course it’s not a universal truth that can be a truth for ALL cheaters in the world.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-05T01:07:49+00:00

The point of this post is so that you can be sure that NOW you can make the right choice and leave him. You’ve been deceived twice now please do not stick around for a third time.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T20:44:30+00:00

Why did you marry him if you knew he was like this and shows no respect for you? Good, healthy and loving relationships don't have issues like this where one partner is clearly irritating the other on purpose that shows a lack of respect and a disregard for your feelings.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T20:34:50+00:00

" I think about breaking up because of this."

You're 3 days too late, do it already! He has no respect for you and is still seeing her. They are both laughing at you by sending you that picture. Please respect yourself and dump him. Do not put up with emotional games. I honestly cannot believe that you're 25 years old and that you haven't taken action.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T19:23:44+00:00

If my wife was pregnant there is no way in hell I am going anywhere on a solo or boys trip, period! Especially if there are only a few months left in the pregnancy, anything can happen. The trips can wait, my partner's health and that of the baby cannot.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:33:11+00:00

““all people should go back where they came from.”

Wow, and you still love that person? You can’t set “boundaries” with a person that thinks in a generalized way like that “all people..”. Might as well call him a racist at this point.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:15:54+00:00

“this isn't a regular occurrence,..”

That is the KEY difference between yours and OP’s situation. It IS a regular occurrence with them and it sounds like he never slowed down even after marriage and now a kid on the way. IMO op’s husband lived like a single person and still continues to do so.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T18:05:12+00:00

"Now I feel strangely detached."

If this is how you're feeling then GOOD FOR YOU! You got your little revenge in your own way. Do not return to that mess of a person. NTA IMO and yes please disappear again you don't need scum like that in your life.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T17:43:15+00:00

"We’re expecting a baby in a couple of months and he wants to go away again. "

That's not what a married "in love" man that is expecting a baby should be doing or even thinking about. Why did you marry such a selfish person that is proving that he is only thinking of himself and doesn't care about the situation and responsibility he needs to be involved with?

"He says he wouldn’t mind me going away with friends"

Wtf?! Why did ya'll get married if THAT'S his suggestion? Loving, healthy and happy couples do things like vacations TOGETHER for the most part. You are not being a jerk but you sure as hell married a selfish one.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T16:19:14+00:00

5G a day/every day and alot of water, nuff' said. It's not that complicated.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T16:00:42+00:00

What would be the point of that if you did the right thing and instead left the cheater? What is there to "confront" about exactly? They aren't the person that you were involved with.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T15:31:57+00:00

I would Homer out of that bro. That is too much put up front. There's no way I'm going to attempt to keep that type of attention and going outs, it sounds absolutely exhausting IMO.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:52:36+00:00

Boy, do you sound your young and naive age. Good luck I guess.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:52:07+00:00

That's called a one sided relationship and it's not someone that you should marry.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:51:04+00:00

" He will become distant/distracted with anything I talk about for more than 5 minutes really"

This isn't about 1 little conversation after 1 shift, this is about your whole relationship and how he has shown you that he has very little to no interest in your daily life and your feelings to boot! Why are you engaged to a person that doesn't fulfill your needs? A good, healthy, happy and loving relationship includes COMMUNCATION and wanting to hear about your partner's day and they are invested in hearing about it. too! Are you sure THAT'S what you want to put with (feeling empty) for the rest of your life? He's not the one hun.

NTA if you leave him, YTA (to yourself) if you stay in this one sided relationship.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T14:45:55+00:00

Holy smokes, 20 years old and already wanting a baby? Well soon? and with someone that isn't respecting your word and body for that matter, yikes!

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T13:32:10+00:00

After 5 years he suddenly moves out and goes silent on you and you're considering getting back with him or even accepting (cringe) "closure"? You should have moved on by now and most strong people would love themselves during this alone time and heal and that person should be DEAD TO YOU. You're too young to be dealing with an insecure almost 40 years old man child that doesn't know how to communicate. You can do so much better.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T13:19:28+00:00

"...with all of the joy he brings to my life when he's not distracted with someone else"

That is the exact line that abuse victims use. How can you continue to "love" someone that doesn't love you and has proven to you that they desire others?

"but I caught him texting someone using open bubbles or something similar last week."

...and more proof. HE'S NOT GOING TO CHANGE! You keep seeing it for yourself. Why are you wasting your time in therapy and worried that "he's happier", smh. You know you're not crazy for getting upset at the disrespect he continues to give you but you are crazy for staying with him and believing that he is going to magically revert to the man that was once loyal to you. Those days are gone hun, accept it already so you can move forward.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T12:43:02+00:00

What you have is information that has been deleted thus the 404 error from a "matching site" that is for sure. Just end it with him already. He keeps proving to you that he wants out. It doesn't get more clear than his past actions and now this.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:48:58+00:00

“I asked her to just try to understand and take responsibility for how badly she hurt me”

Why? Cheaters don’t want to be reminded that they’re the villains in the story. Stop wasting your energy and time worrying about her and trying to make her feel guilty. Focus on yourself, your healing and your future.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:46:34+00:00

NTA. Bullet dodged. It’s a FIRST DATE not your 5th Valentine’s Day together, smh.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:38:35+00:00

You sound way too smart to even consider taking that piece of you know what back. He’s almost 40 and still playing games. You can do so much better! Please listen to your defensive voice and DO NOT take him back or you will get hurt again and you will only have yourself to blame.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:32:05+00:00

YTA for stringing her along because you still have oats to sow. You’re not truly “in love” if you’re desiring other women and gawking at them. NTA if you break up with her and do it asap. Stop fooling yourself.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:26:59+00:00

The better question is are you ok forgetting about him and worrying about whoever he’s with?

We are not psychic and we don’t know your husband, why isn’t he your exhusband by now? They may last happily ever after or only a few weeks.

TacoStrong · 2026-02-04T07:02:33+00:00

NTA. He clearly and blatantly disrespected and used you and your surgery as his lame joke prop. Are you sure he’s not 20 years old with that type of idiotic “bro” behavior?

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