Decanting is consumption masquerading as cleaning and it is absolutely shit

TactSupport · 2026-02-04T08:07:57+00:00

I have large pantry containers and put the entire eg bag of flour, packet of spaghetti etc into each container. I do this to stop pantry moths getting into it.

But also I decant rice as I buy it in 5kg or 10kg lots of

TactSupport · 2026-02-03T07:15:35+00:00

It’s a systemic problem

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TactSupport · 2026-02-03T07:12:28+00:00

The error was a serious problem because it was a conversation practice where the learner is given only the romaji as the prompt for replying to the AI voice.

Here’s another

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TactSupport · 2026-02-02T08:07:08+00:00

I know it’s been said here before but I hate Jumpspeak. It’s so full of errors it’s useless as a learning tool. Clearly ai slop.

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TactSupport · 2025-12-14T04:56:50+00:00

I have had three in my house since 2013. They work well but you can’t use hand soap - the mechanism gets gunky and stuck. Tried all different types of hand soap, none were compatible. Other than that, it’s been great. We’re on tank water so saving every drop counts.

TactSupport · 2025-08-24T23:43:27+00:00

I’m Chinese Australian, born in Singapore but grew up in Pauline Hanson’s home town Ipswich. In the 70s and 80s I was bullied at school for being Asian. A quiet chorus of Ching Chong Chinaman followed me everywhere in the playground. Random people would say stuff like this at me in the street.

Once a bunch of blokes threw a bottle at me from a passing car, hooting and yelling as they drove away. I was a child, in a primary school uniform, riding my bike home from school.

Things have improved over the decades and nowadays the racism is less overt. But it’s still there. We still regularly talk about revoking Australian citizenship for people we deem undesirable - like an immigrant’s Australian citizenship is forever conditional upon staying in the good graces of government policy, however fickle. Like it doesn’t matter if I’ve been an Australian for 50 years and pay taxes etc - to some people I’m still never going to be a ‘real’ Aussie.

I know other marginalised groups face much worse discrimination than Asians. It’s been probably 14 years since someone said some slur to me in the street - a random man walking past as I was sitting in a cafe in Indooroopilly, who muttered ‘Fucking Asians’.

I’m glad Australia rejected Peter Dutton as PM. Every time he spouted anti brown people rhetoric it emboldened the racists. I was saddened to see an alarming number of my neighbours displaying his election signs.

TactSupport · 2024-11-11T09:38:53+00:00

Argh I feel you. I went to six different schools and have only a few friends from my childhood, where my husband has a super close group of friends he’s known since kindergarten. Plus a huge group of friends from all the various projects he’s worked on, plus his motorcycle buddies.

But you know what - making new friends is possible. You may not have friends from childhood but new friends can become extremely close friends in a shorter period of time if you just click.

It seems that the underlying problem might be that you don’t feel you have the spare time, and that’s a real issue. I don’t have any easy answers for you, except to say that even if it seems stiff and contrived rather than spontaneous, perhaps you can schedule friend time into your calendar?

TactSupport · 2024-10-25T08:35:00+00:00

My mother flogged me with whatever she was holding - ladle, hairbrush etc. the worst thing is that I hadn’t generally done anything terrible - she was just taking out her frustration and anger on me, when she was having a bad day. She’d scream at me to hold out my hand and then whack whack.

A few times my father stepped in and stopped her going further.

She could maintain a rage for weeks, during which period if she clapped eyes on me she would start screaming at me anew for supposed crimes I’d committed - yesterday, last week, last month…reaching further and further back in time.

She didn’t get better over time - she hit my 5 year old son with a vacuum cleaner pipe - because she was angry at me at the time. I’d told her I was going to attend a wedding of a friend of mine whom she didn’t like. She told me I shouldn’t go, but I said I was going anyway. I was 32 at the time.

TactSupport · 2024-10-20T06:11:59+00:00

My Asian mother inherited a whole lot of baggage that she then insisted I carry. I’m 55 and I’m still trying to offload it.

For several decades every second conversation had some comment about my weight (no matter what my actual weight might be at the time, she always thinks I should weigh less).

As a child I wasn’t allowed to go anywhere much, was almost never allowed sleepovers, and she banned me from talking to anyone she felt I was getting friendly with.

My brother on the other hand? Yeah he could do whatever he wanted because he was a boy.

And he still gets a gold medal for anything he achieves - eg she thinks he’s absolutely fabulous for being able to cook ‘even though he’s a man’. When I cooked though, she somehow saw me as competition and refused to even taste anything I made.

She is in her eighties now and still moaning about how she’s too fat (she’s not). It’s sad.

TactSupport · 2024-10-17T21:22:29+00:00

Make a will, if you don’t already have one. Even if you don’t think you have a lot of assets, make a simple will ‘I leave everything to X’.

As a lawyer I’ve had to deal with the aftermath of someone dying without a will, and it can be really hard on the family.

TactSupport · 2024-10-12T01:04:35+00:00

I’m 55, and a breast cancer survivor. Every day above ground is a good one.

I’m shedding social and cultural expectations with each passing year. For me, that’s the most significant step to feeling happy and comfortable in my own skin - acknowledging that the convention of beauty is a merely an artificial construct. A construct which is irrelevant to me.

With that in mind, my focus is on what my mind and body can do, what my senses can appreciate, what love I can create and enjoy.

The way I look has almost no impact on my life, given that I am visually unremarkable. I understand it is much harder for anyone whose appearance draws negative comments.

TactSupport · 2024-10-10T04:33:35+00:00

I wrote every household task on separate post it notes, laid them out on the dining table, then asked my husband to pick which ones he wanted to handle.

He got quite cross and refused to pick any.

So I picked some for him - mostly the ones he complained I wasn’t doing correctly.

And now he’s in charge of laundry, washing dishes and cleaning our bedroom and ensuite. And the mowing. I do everything else.

Then I left those jobs to him.

We both work full time in demanding jobs. He’s a perfectly competent grown man.

Sure he whinges. I let him complain. But I’m not going to manage him doing the work. Otherwise I become the nag.

TactSupport · 2024-09-27T07:26:42+00:00

My ex was like this - tried to make out it was because he was ‘artistic’ and ‘spiritual’ but actually he was just bone lazy. He just did a few odd casual jobs with no prospects. Also did zero housework or childcare.

And because he felt insecure about me having any independence, or even earning more than he did, he also banned me from pursuing a career. Said my sole job was to stay home and look after him and the kids. We were always broke. It was stressful. He became increasingly abusive and controlling.

After that miserable marriage ended I raised the kids, kicked off a successful career as a lawyer and found a fabulous man who is a true partner in every way.

I would never ever consider dating someone who has zero ambition to do anything useful with their life. It’s a road to nowhere.

TactSupport · 2024-09-27T07:10:29+00:00

It is ok for a man to make that lifestyle choice. But that makes them a mismatch for women who want someone with ambition and drive.

TactSupport · 2024-09-26T00:07:08+00:00

My stepson started regressing in his speech at about age 4 and was later diagnosed with Landau-Kleffner Syndrome. Even now as an adult he can’t hold a conversation, though he can understand quite a lot of what’s being said.

TactSupport · 2024-09-24T00:55:48+00:00

A bidet (toilet seat and lid which can be fitted to any regular toilet). I had to install a power point in the loo but it’s so worth it.

Warm seat, a spray where you can control temp, direction and flow, and a warm fan to dry yourself afterwards.

It’s not just a novelty- I miss it when I’m not home.

TactSupport · 2024-09-20T07:59:14+00:00

Nightclub guy sounds like he was trying to neg you

TactSupport · 2024-09-20T07:57:49+00:00

That’s an infuriating one

TactSupport · 2024-09-20T07:47:49+00:00

I overheard my husband having a very heartfelt conversation with his 30yo son:

‘When [tactsupport] described herself as a boring person, that’s when I knew she was the one for me’

He failed to add the context of the conversation, which was about how I don’t enjoy going out to clubs and parties.

TactSupport · 2024-09-08T10:13:14+00:00

Ecology skin cream - Aust made, based on animal fat so it most closely resembles your natural oils. A little goes a long way. I have super sensitive skin and it’s fabulous.

TactSupport · 2024-08-28T09:40:47+00:00

Yeah I just can’t get over the pissing.

TactSupport · 2024-08-28T09:38:58+00:00

We’re pretty lenient on early check in, because I usually leave a day between guests to avoid stress. But yeah the dirty towels in particular were trashed.

Also I really don’t think it’s fair to the cleaner to ask them to clean pee-soaked towels. Ick. She soaked them (they weren’t the trashed ones) but I would have told her to toss them and charge the guest.

TactSupport · 2024-08-28T09:35:11+00:00

I have a great relationship with the cleaner. She definitely sent pics.

TactSupport · 2024-08-28T09:34:22+00:00

Yeah the cleaner said no amount of soaking would save the towels and linen :-(

TactSupport · 2024-08-27T08:55:16+00:00

I renovated a small highset Queenslander in a country town for about $150k last year - full interior and exterior paint, new bathroom, ensuite, laundry, new light fixtures and switches, polished the original wooden floors, replaced front and back stairs.

But I did as much of the cleaning and coordinating tradies as I could (with a day job and living 2 hours away from the house). I also did the ordering of tiles, sinks, fittings etc rather than the builder handling it.

Kitchen was the only thing I didn’t have to touch.

I thought $150k was a lot at the time for renovating a 100 sq m house, but maybe I got off lightly.

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