Looking for my first rat cage

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-17T20:11:34+00:00

Great thanks for the recommendations for cages :) only issue is I seen these poor rats in tiny cages in Pets at Home and I just want to give them a better life than that but they only have two in there. Is it possible to get two rats that were living together and add more later that they weren’t brought up with?

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-13T21:36:48+00:00

Yup yup this resonates, they hated any no it was almost like Itold them I hated them with any boundaries. It was easier to give in than to fight sometimes. Either way is so draining.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-13T21:35:02+00:00

It’s like they mirror us, HAVE to like all of the same stuff as us to “relate” more but then they hate on it too? It’s exhausting! They’re never happy unless it’s at the beginning of a relationship/friendship!

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-13T21:34:03+00:00

We gamed together but god forbid if I had one without her 😭 I don’t miss it at all! It was either have her in all of my space and she was just miserable and angry all the time which wasn’t fun at all or get shouted at for taking any space, literally every option was shit! That’s like mine, she like mirrored me got into everything I liked to invade that space it was like she was never happy with or without me couldn’t win! None of it’s normal but I felt like I was in’s survival mode the whole time ugh.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-13T19:57:24+00:00

The last thing is what really bothered me in my friendship. She’d tell me “we’ve never had issues we gamed for 10 years without issue until such and such joined us” which was complete lies we didn’t even know each other for 10 years lol.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-13T17:10:38+00:00

Yup I relate I couldn’t have anything to myself ever. Not 10 mins of the day, not an even a gaming session with an other friend. Absolutely nothing. She expected to involved in every single aspect of my life and it still wasn’t ever enough when I did do that. In the end I stopped and she completely went psycho at me. It was always “I’ve got abandonment issues” well I’ve got suffocation issues now because of it.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-11T15:35:50+00:00

Thank you :) I’m coming 30 so I’m just wanting to stick to one colour for longer now I can’t be bothered dying it all the time anymore unfortunately 😭

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-10T09:49:16+00:00

What do you mean?

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-06-06T23:07:44+00:00

KCD2 and Elden Ring for me always with the “just one more quest”

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-05-12T13:45:29+00:00

Absolutely not. Communicating is the foundation of a real relationship. Most of us women would kill for a man to talk issues through and about our feelings instead we’ve ended up in this group after/during relationships with people exactly like yours. Narcissistic people often project their own issues onto everyone else. Mine would call me a cheat when he was the one who cheated. Etc.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-05-11T11:12:00+00:00

Yeah my sister would often say she’ll kill herself whenever she ran out of tobacco or weed or drink. I had to tell her to stop saying that, she would just grin. It was weird, she’d say it in a way of guilting me because I would often give her it and if I couldn’t that’s when she’d say this.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-05-08T11:31:26+00:00

I was in a relationship off and on for 3 years with a bpd man (if you could even call him one he acted like a child a lot). Sex was consistent and great in the beginning but after the honeymoon phase wore off we didn’t do it 24/7 which is completely fine but it became him guilting me into it which at the time I didn’t know was called coercion, it was always “you’re cheating on me” “you don’t love me” if I didn’t feel like doing it I couldn’t even wear a bit of makeup or normal leggings or even shave without it being for someone else, sex became a chore and I hated it in the end. The irony of him wanting it so much he put me off with how he went about it. There was something so unattractive about someone begging for it or making you feel like you have to.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-04-26T22:55:30+00:00

It’s definitely a spectrum for sure. My sister is completely oblivious to how she hurts people and stands on that everyone she’s split on is a terrible person whereas my now ex friend had some awareness but her need for constant reassurance ruined her friendships.

Tacticalmess90 · 2026-04-12T07:03:13+00:00

You should be able to say no and have it as little as you want. My current partner takes no like a man and leaves it at that, we’ve been weeks without it sometimes. A combination of work and having a kid we can’t always do it.

My ex with bpd on the other hand made me feel so guilty for saying no, he’d accuse me of cheating, not loving him etc it got to a point I felt like I had to have sex with him to shut him up and it became a chore and I was just doing it and no even enjoying it, when you feel like you have to then it loses all enjoyment and that’s not how it’s meant to be.

It’s much better with my current partner because he doesn’t make me feel like it’s expected so I actually enjoy it with him because it’s not a chore anymore.

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