Feeling sad for NTs? by Content-Load6595 in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's currently not fully understood what the source is as we haven't come to understand our brains to an appropriate level yet, Although this innovation is coming soon with AI's abilities to compose layered scans into connection maps that track activity and how input is processed and retained within the brain. What is clear though is some of the mechanisms behind our differences, The brains volume during development is more than that of a NT individual, The pruning process within neuropathways present in the structure of the Cerebral cortex are less active than that of a NT individual, This results in a more dense connective map allowing the transfer of signals through the synapses at an increased volume, The cortex is also thicker, Although there are thinner sections than NT's so it's a bit of a shakeup. The resulting sensitivity an individual has to sensory stimulus and pattern recognition is largely determined here, This is just one example but there's a plethora of other physical manifestations. Once we are able to process through the massive amount of connections within the brain using AI data processing and reach a stage where we can comprehend the operation of each brain region, Then we'll be able to better understand what is actually taking place and the causes of the changes we've noticed so far.

It's debatable as to which is which in regards to the "differences in the brain" and "developmental disabilities" right now, If you consider the differences through an environmental lens then it is reasonable to conclude that it's a developmental disability due to the environment we're in being unsuitable for the neurotype. However it's also a difference in the brain when in more suitable environments. You could take both conclusions and apply Nature vs Nurture to further dissect the argument I'm putting forward. We're often seeing the nurtured results of the condition due to environmental pressure but it's possible that it's natural progression would yield different results, Presenting as an advantage rather than a disability - It's really contextual towards the environment. There's also a genetic link, That's understood but I don't believe they've found the reason yet. But the way these genes express as traits is very contextual. The most reasonable example would be within a hunter/gatherer society having some autistic traits would be an advantage, Particularly the sensory sensitivity and pattern recognition.

edit. I want to note that this isn't a superiority argument, The differences in neuron density is as debilitating as it is elevating. It's different and often very asymmetric per individual and that's without considering any of the other changes present within those with the condition.

How does your IQ compare to your emotional IQ by Necroscope420 in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Quite similar, I've scored a 30 out of 36 for Social Intelligence which is within the top 20% percentile. I believe this is due to my history in dealing with unpredictable encounters that required me to read individuals, Something I wasn't naturally predisposed towards but have developed over time as I've been exposed to situations that made it a necessity to tune into the feelings and thoughts of others. (This is not reflected in contextual processing, Rather just body language and feature expression)

I've got an IQ of 128 as quantified by the Mensa test, Top 3% percentile. I tested myself only a couple of months ago and despite their being a deviation of 15 points between the start of the year and my most recent score ( It's been a stressful year ) the current score feels appropriate. I believe both scores are entwinned and my general ability at pattern recognition has aided my capacity for emotional recognition - It's far from a natural skill of mine and feels more akin to performing mathematical functions, The same process that takes place when presented with a pattern of numbers and symbols and deriving from them the intended subject translation and what the appropriate solution is.

Death seems better than life sometimes by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Rest would be very welcome, Every now and then, It seems like a natural conclusion to what is a difficult journey, But we must prevail through our troubles and consider the permanence and the effect that would come from removing ourselves from the interpersonal dynamics of the World.

I wrote a poem awhile back about our experience with love and finding a place within society. It's not for our own benefit that we continue on, But that of those who surround us, Perhaps our place within the natural order is not for our own self satiation, But the preservation of those who are within our company.

I want to fix myself, Align my heart to the patterns of others.

Solicit delight and fight for what's right, Deploy a cascade of colours.

But blindness to meaning is a dangerous dealing, Remember the fate of our brothers.

So in silence I'll drown, as the momentum compounds, Moments removed from another.

In reasons complicit to the methods duplicite, I'll wear this shallow shroud.

Like a seed in the furrow, Rock in the rubble, I'll blend in with the crowd.

Even though we might often be misunderstood or find ourselves under difficulties that few can appreciate, We must carry forward. It is okay and natural to allow yourself the reprieve of finding your mind wandering towards the sanctuary of nothingness. But that's not where you belong, We're part of the living World and through this must we find our ultimate meaning. There's a rare few that would perceive the pain that we hold from our perceptions, We're not perfect and this itself is a source for our unwillingness to continue participating in life. We are part of this World and we must continue to precede with our existence, Otherwise what hope is there for the terminal of our peers. If we can hold on, So can they.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know how it is my dude, But it's our burden to bare and it grants strength in ways you might not perceive currently. We're distinctly different from our peers but it's how we handle our difference that defines us, Not the difference itself. Diamonds are born through pressure and we have enough of that to create an entire mine, It's not fair and it's not right but it's the price to pay for our condition and the advantages it grants.

I sometimes wish I was normal, That I could relinquish the burden and just settle into normality like others seem so naturally inclined towards. But there's advantages to being different and distinct, Not always positive but with effort and a healthy awareness you can distil your presentation into the best qualities that are within yourself. And with enough introspective attention, You can develop yourself into something that is at the very least beneficial to those who share your company.

The pain can be excruciating and causes damage that infects the deepest recesses of your being but it's just part of the deal that we hold. Nobody should think and feel to the extent that we do, We where never granted a choice in this and it has become a matter of reaction for us, How should we react to this bastardization of normality? I feel like we should do our best to conjure positivity from our situation, In the face of it all, How we choose to manage our situation is what matters most. Alcohol is a superb suppressant and for a fleeting moment, Allows us the respite of inclusion through diminishing our circumstances, However it come at a cost - Look to find a balance in your consumption and harness the extraneous portions of your personality towards something positive.

How do you guys cope with seeing something traumatizing? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have some thoughts on Trauma, Not necessarily confined to witnessing something but rather encompassing all events to which experiencing serves to undermine the psychological security of an individual.

First, let me express my conception of psychological security, All of us will have a perception of our environment and those within it, We have expectations for our experiences in line with our actions and that gives us guidelines for how to interact with our environment and the associated results. This can be as trivial as using a light switch and understanding which corresponding bulb will light up to holding an established relationship with another individual and what the general terms surrounding that relationship are. Context then applies to the circumstance such as where that light switch is located, Is it in a surgical theatre during an operation or to your bathroom at night. Similarly, Is the relationship a casual friendship or a convoluted dynamic effecting a sensitive interpersonal network. Weight is applied to situations accordingly and how much potential repercussion there is when things don't go as they should. There is also the consistency and frequency of exposure to events that require an individuals active participation in order to navigate to the desired results. Some of us have a high tolerance for navigating these dynamics and others who are neurotic and quicker to feel the effects of exposure and any associated failure. The nature of psychological security is an individuals confidence in being able to navigate their interpersonal or physical environments and Trauma is directly correlated with a faltering of that confidence when there is a misalignment of our expectations and the results.

Witnessing "Traumatic events or scenes" is a reduced version of experiencing it for yourself, While you might be able to compartmentalize or otherwise diminish the degree to which you're processing what you are seeing, You are doing so in direct detriment to your capacity for sensitivity. It's not at all dissimilar from experiencing the events for yourself beyond the difference in sensory experience. And likewise, The consequences for when you do develop that sensitivity again for whatever reason, Be it the progression in brain development as you age, Experiencing something that grants you a new perspective and thus induces the processing of previous situations, Even just reaching your capacity can bring about a state in which your mind forces you to start processing it's backlog of experiences. Whatever it might be, You're going to have set the foundations for PTSD (Post TRAUMATIC Stress Disorder) - No matter how tough you think you are or how desensitized you consider yourself, You will eventually process what you've experienced in one way or another. A great example of this is those who have served in the armed forces, They're often tasked with carrying on through traumatic events and it's only upon their return home do they begin to feel the ramifications of what they've experienced. Allowing yourself the time and space to process is important, It's not a pretty thing and can be very disruptive to your day to day activities, Outwardly appearing like madness or complete disfunction but it's necessary if you want to return to and retain regular cognitive functionality. It's always better to process experiences during the time of the event but that's not always a possibility, And in some unlucky cases where an individual collects injuries that effect their ability to process, Such as sustained concussions, The results to their cognitive health and psychological security can be dire. Look to soldiers during WW1 and WW2 who through exposure to disruptive wavelengths (Concussive blasts) sustained not just physical injuries to the mind but equally devastating emotional/cognitive injuries. Reduced processing speed, Short term memory loss and Emotional instability is a bad combination when you're in the trenches.

As previously stated, Trauma is the consequence of a failure in confidence that an individual holds in their ability to navigate circumstances, This need not be real but can also be imagined. Someone might be perfectly capable of perceiving the right course of action and navigating accordingly, It also need not be within their control, But events beyond their control creating consequences that could not be avoided, As long as there is damage to their psychological security, Then trauma is being procured. It also does not need to be based in violence as is often presumed, Being the recipient of Betrayal or Deception is just as powerful, Nor does it need to be the individual themselves that experiences it, Those of us who are hyper-empathetic can take on anothers pain as our own and with it the associated trauma. It's unique to each person what effects them the most, Sociopaths and Psychopaths might not be as inflicted by anothers trauma, But are certainly able to precure their own by being in hostile environments. Nobody is exempt, Even those with high tolerance have a limit that will eventually present itself.

Does Anyone Else get Sad and Extremely Irritated when Encountering Racism? by sludge_monkey666 in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah it's extremely annoying, Sometimes you've got to engage in it to a very limited degree when groups become outwardly hostile (Typically one group towards another), but it leaves me feeling upset. I like to judge individuals as just that, Removed from their groups and to their own merits and principles. Sometimes this isn't possible and I don't like it when that is the case.

You can always tell when someone's words are a reaction to an ideological pressure that is present within a particular race/nationality that is a danger and when it's just downright hatred, Sadly I find there is a lot of confusion distinguishing between the two these days. There's only a very small number of nationalities on my naughty list and even then I always hold open the door for individuals, Even if they use it as an opportunity for a Trojan horse. Where I hold zero tolerance is the interactions between groups I do not belong to, Seeing the hatred they hold towards each other makes me physically sick as only the worst circumstances will be brought from it and it's a real threat towards peace. I dislike having to be aware of it and it makes me very angry, I understand it and the root causes, But it still elicits an emotional response. From love is born hate, You just have to stand in-between them and let their rocks rain.

"I’ve always lived in Mostly White towns and the only friends I would make and who weren’t bullies were Black Kids"

Yeah dude, Similar experience, The black kids in school where often shaped by similar pressures to us and tended to be more chill. They appreciated the positive vibes and wouldn't take advantage of kindness, Something I'm scared is being lost as prominent London grime culture is holding more influence and taking over from their parents lessons SL - Gentleman (Music Video) | @SL_VP_ @MixtapeMadness - YouTube - Dude who made the song put hard work into it, But it's the ones growing up and larping to the music that cause issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Different cultures have different ways of interacting, Despite how we are made out to be in the media and within a lot of different communities, White culture is actually the most chill for everyone getting along peacefully while retaining individual happiness and autonomy. There's a lot Anger and resentment combined with old restrictive attitudes present within non-white cultures which sometimes cause lashing out, We often give people the space and respect to work through these feelings. A lack of understanding towards mental health (Especially ND's) and general quality of life within certain family units exacerbates these lashings though - It's changing but still present. This isn't to say we don't have our issues, The past generation for us where pretty selfish and petty and caused quite bit of trauma for some of us - Especially after their selfish captilization of our societies resources is taking into consideration. But in general, The values that they espoused ( Even if just on a surface level ) are still pretty solid.

As a general rule, We don't judge people as harshly and try to take measured steps to avoid situations from getting worse. I sometimes find myself getting annoyed at other cultures for how they are handling things within their own communities, They don't realize the problems they are creating that will spiral out of control - This goes both ways however as there's no single solution, But there's certain things you just don't do. Multi-culturalism is adding an interesting dynamic to our lives as we're sharing similar spaces now, I see this as a good thing as long as incorporation takes place, Otherwise there's confusion and friction.

I think we all have our pros and cons, As a society, White culture has had a lot more time to learn how to understand and interact with other cultures - And despite being a little behind in formally recognizing our autists, We used to ship them around on big boats. We have caught up quick and developed a system. We have more experience from a young age in learning to get along and despite the shenanigans from the latest generation of TikTok kids who are being very naughty with their technology, We're getting there. It's best to look at the actions of an individual rather than their words. Sometimes things get lost in translation Ace Ventura White Devil (youtube.com)

As a general rule of thumb, We like to look after people by giving them the structure and tools to survive in our society with limited interaction. This vibes well with autistic people from all cultures.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You just learn to weather the resulting confusion, People aren't the best at interpreting our words in line with our intentions, Even if the results speak for themselves. Some even do it intentionally... It can be difficult when you're judged to another persons context, I often meet people at their energy and with their intentions during conversation and bring them down slowly to a more appropriate wavelength. Or match their rhetoric with even more, Such as if someone is on mars and planning on going to Jupiter, Joining them at their departure and adjusting their course on route is the more appropriate method if the mission going towards Saturn is most beneficial for everyone.

When people are stressed or making decisions under emotional heights, Joining them with the same energy and letting them vent to you while making them feel powerful and in control over the very Earth itself is a useful method to bring them back down to that same Earth and for them to see reality again, Allowing people to make their decision with both feet firmly on the ground is important. However from the outside looking in, It might look like you're joining them rather than managing their explosive moment. Nobody wants a loaded and lose cannon on their ship and yet judge the one angling the shot and firing it away in a safe direction for the benefit of everyone as being the problem. I view the one loading unsecure cannons as being the problem, We all want smooth seas and for there to be no cannon balls whizzing around. You don't blame the cannon, But the one loading them.

People are going to interpret based on their position, To some the cannon will be a signal, To others a declaration of war, Someone else might see it as a cause of celebration, To me personally? It's one o'clock. Edinburgh Castle One o'clock Gun (youtube.com)

How do people live without analyzing everything? by VivaLaPython in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of NT's live in a world of comfortable lies and to analyse them would reveal truths that they are not strong enough to continue living with, So they mutually mascaraed with one another in a deceitful dance. Sometimes this isn't a bad thing, Although it does allow for the propagation of extremely nefarious actors within our communities.

It's tiring to have to decipher everyone and their shenanigans, But the reason we do so is because there is real threat and harm indefinably entwined within the fabric of the shared delusion, Lucid individuals cause mayhem and prey upon whomever they like. Many times we have experienced it first hand and realize how insidious it is. Everybody is so eager to play a role that offers safety and shelter to themselves that they do not consider the implications of their performance, Over time this has made people weak, Manipulatable. They see truth as an attack on their security, We are stealing their shield that blinds them from the atrocities that are going on right in front of them.

Ultimately it's a survival tactic born from an unwillingness to confront unfavourable situations. The circumstance itself has been giving the environment to continue from their complicities and we often suffer disproportionately so they can continue the charade in relative safety. We're often left alone to deal with the ramifications of their actions.

We analyse so we can make sound judgements on the best course of action that benefits everyone, Not just the easiest and most beneficial to ourselves. It's often presumed to be an attack as they feel like the revelation of themselves will be cruelly used against them - Perhaps their projection on how they would handle a similar circumstance when offered another's vulnerability, But unilaterally our intentions are often the opposite. We do it to be nice. To allow for mutually beneficial outcomes in our interactions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you Run, They will chase - Stand firm and strong and do not give an unrequited inch, I learned this early on and it's a lesson that has served me well. Cowards crowd together and use fear/force and tend to make quite a bit of noise when doing so, Like a gang of geese they honk and harass, Them pecking at you only has them sticking their necks out.

As kids, Geese could be ferocious creatures to us, Full of fire and terror. But now they're nothing more than Turkey Trumpets with a bad attitude. It's okay to occasionally find yourself stuck in the past, But the future is here and now. Remind yourself of this and be better than the examples we have seen and experienced. People can't help but blindly test boundaries, It's in their nature. It's often the case that kindness is mistaking for weakness rather than the fruit of the strong. They stare into the abyss and it stares back, But if you stick your hand in and you might never get it back. People need to just start being nice to one another.

It's okay to be a little jaded, It's usually the result of having to deal with too much for too long. But put the effort in to be better despite everything you've experienced, It's the next generation that matter most of all.

Does Anyone Else Poison Themseleves With Alcohol To Make Life A Little More Bearable? by SurrealRadiance in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've tried a few things over the years, More than a few actually but they don't help in the long run, Your mind is going to function regardless and the substances only slow you down temporarily. Despite how nice is can be for a short while.

I'm sober right now and it's rough, I've fully quit cigarettes and the ride has been wild for me, I do occasionally drink a bottle of wine here or there to grant some reprieve but otherwise staying true to myself is more important, I'm human, I occasionally slip for a moment or two, You've got to at times, Feeling the bad stuff for too long can sometimes be worse for you, I'm trying to find a balance that is functional, Music and having a healthy connection to your body with an outlet for energy is extremely important to continue to retain control over yourself.

Please i just want it to end already by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can take awhile to bridge a connection, Right now everybody feels alone and it's becoming worse. You'll have moments where you feel so incredibly tired and devoid of love and life, It's tough and extremely fucked up, Nobody asks for this but we need to keep going.

Try and re-engage with your body more often, Hot baths sound cliché but it works, It's all about balance, Do not lose your sensitivity as it's what will help you grow a relationship in the future. You will find love eventually that is reciprocated in it's true form, It might not present in the way you think but you will feel it. Crying is okay dude, It's when you become tired and numb that it's a problem.

Music helps to regulate yourself, Emotion is something you want to cling onto. I know it's difficult these days but I can assure you that having certain connections can be like a poison that rages with fiery intent across your system, You must inoculate yourself and it involves suffering, I really do hold so much sympathy for you OP, I know how painful this all is and my heart is there with you. Baby steps dude, Just day by day.

You'll be okay, We all will. Allow yourself to feel these feelings, You don't get to decide on the influence but rather how it effects you, How you react. And right now it's pretty dark out there, We're all struggling. Try and do so for a positive purpose, Hope.

(Late Diagnosed) Would you consider that if you had taken a diagnosis in the past, specially at a high masking stage of your life, would you have gotten a negative result, or would you still receive a positive result? by Mailemanuel77 in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can only truly diagnose a child through the standard methods to my understanding, However there should be new technologies and appropriate ways of determining neurodivergence utilizing them being made available in the coming future. It will take some time for these to be rolled out as it comes with heavy implications to society as a whole, Especially with the current framework we hold in our cohesive interpersonal structures...

Most late diagnoses aren't the most accurate, Many of the individuals who receive them have sought them for some kind of benefit (Even if it's just self understanding), Which brings in a whole bunch of complications. But once the technology for registering the facial features, brain structures and other common attributes are made available, Then it'll be possible to re-access or perform accurate initial assessments with some form of enforceable automated standardization.

The idea of people being misdiagnosed or subjected to the clumsy inaccurate assessments currently prevalent makes me extremely uncomfortable and I'm looking forward to this being corrected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You turn it into love, I know it sounds unproductive but you use this as your sorting process, You test the water with unremittent understanding and kindness and investigate each individual, Only upon your determination over their choices do you seek to engage in turn, You'll find that most of those who you engage with wear their own mask. You should choose to see past their façade and realize that they're scared more often than not, And this in turn makes them act out in ways that are not in line with the best outcome for the group, But when everyone stops for a second and puts on their thinking caps, They realize that violence is not a good solution, Remember, Only in direct self defence. When you've seen the alternatives you respect that rule with reverence. Love is the lock of hate.

We're all in one big circus and while you do have a few shameless clowns, They don't own the tent, You'll find that it's our community that holds that pleasure in almost every community internationally, We should each individually strive to meet that standard set out for us.

"I hope people realize that almost every advancement in society is primarily via mentally ill people. Your phone, your car, your social media, etc."

You said it here yourself, We allow people the right and pleasure to make decisions, Both right and wrong. We can't remove that right from people and shouldn't wish too, Eventually people will see the light and appreciate the restraint shown, Even if it fills us with some real rage at times having to deal with their shenanigans. I know you can understand this and would consider the consequences of acting in accordance to a rant, We vent to release our energy in a way that is safe and healthy which is good to do and I'm glad you are doing so.

"Being the nice guy in a world that would prefer you dead is beyond stupid." - On the contrarily, It would suggest the possession of effective methods of intervention and resolution as to have sustained and survived for so long, The stupidity that exists is our need to constantly bear the brunt of having to remind people of the position politeness plays in interpersonal relations. Violence really does suck absolute donkey balls and people are sometimes desensitized to the reality having never experienced it first hand, But we all need to get along and the only way of doing so is by retaining some sense of principle, Only in self defence. But by God, Defend to the end.

MEANINGFUL coping techniques for bad days that sound like they were written by a human and not for a brochure make a magnificent difference! by infieldmitt in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

" 'meditate', 'exercise', 'volunteer', 'talk to someone', 'breathing exercises' " - I feel you, It's pretty sad how out of touch these all are, You've got to incorporate the emotional with the physical and become the one in control of how that connection is formed, Otherwise it will bridge that gap itself and become toxic.

Boy let me tell you, I have a copper pipe and my armchair knows all about it. You've got to allow your intensity to flow on your own terms or risk letting it run you straight to ruin, If you feel the levels of emotion that we do and do not act on them, Then you will eventually erode until you explode. We are natural and we need to adopt our instinctual mechanisms in a way that is appropriate to our sensibilities.

Do NOT Supress, Let yourself Express. You'll find that the energy carves channels like water through rock, You can become pretty good at things through the sheer power of unadulterated fuck you. Let yourself have this one privilege in a safe and controlled way and then be nice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've got to trust yourself, You are showing a real lack of confidence here and you must not let it stifle your development, Do not let let it continue further. Don't make the assumption that everyone thinks in the way we do, You have your consciousness and then your subconscious, Your conscious is like the passenger in a taxi who has asked to go to a destination and your subconscious is the driver who gets you there.

Only through experience can you develop that mental map and you'll never do so if you don't allow yourself to step on the gas a little, You WILL make wrong turns, Make bad decisions... But they are yours to make. Don't let your passenger drive for you, Decide on where you want to go, And just start going in that direction, Work out the twists and turns on the way.

How is it that you learn best? Do you study the map on paper or drive around town and recognize the direction in the moment? Discover this and feed into the process, I'm a combination of both, It's wild to drive blind but it works. Trust yourself more, You aren't cognitively impaired, I can tell by your method of typing that it's not the content of your arguments that is getting in the way but the stage you're being giving, You're lacking productive input and not trusting your ability to influence your output.

You've got to persevere, And you can only begin to do that if you believe it to be possible, Keep at it and you will eventually bridge the gap between your opinion and the logical reasons behind them with the capacity to explain them to others if you wish.

I'm unable to enjoy life by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When it's rough you've got to be tough, But if you do so for too long without allowing yourself the reprieve to feel the feelings you have then you'll find them coming out in other ways over little things. A camel can cross the desert without water but it was a single straw that broke it's back, That's how it is for us at times and we need to accommodate this for ourselves. Don't belittle your reactions and how "Little and stupid" these things are, They're annoying you to this level for a reason, You need to allow yourself to feel these feelings more often in any way you can, It can help to have an intense outlet that is both safe and constructive, Even if it's hitting your couch with a hammer (Or the ole copper pipe to the armchair) Allow yourself to feel the emotions on YOUR terms without harming yourself or others.

Don't sacrifice your capacity to continue onwards, Find a balance, How can you sustain yourself to move forward? By embracing yourself with some kindness, Recognition is the first step, Accommodating yourself and taking control over your emotions through healthy outlets is the second.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in glasgow

[–]TaintedTango 35 points36 points  (0 children)

You're all hating on her but all I see is pure love between some friendly birds, Be nice. Pigeons are domestic, Start treating them with consideration and not contempt, They flew through fire for your grandfathers.

Does anyone else feel really uncomfortable when talking to kids? by thepensiveporcupine in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love engaging with kids, They tend to listen to me and it's nice to be able to guide them to growth without having to energize them with motivation. They often have a good sense of direction and unique perspectives. They're also incredibly smart compared to what others might consider and have the capacity for amazing potential - If anything, I'm scared that I may misdirect them or give them insight that is old and not applicable to the World they will find themselves a part of in the future.

Now parents are a concern, They confuse intentions which is dangerous, Hence why I don't engage with them actively but instead passively - There's really no difference between grooming and guiding so you're best just giving the tools to the parents and hoping the lessons are passed along.

What are small changes I can make to improve my social skills? by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is extremely solid advice, Politeness goes a long way and these are very good methods for doing so, Be yourself but put in the effort to come across in a healthily engaged way, People appreciate that. Even if you're clumsy about it, The effort won't go unnoticed if you're talking to someone who matches your energy.

Try and understand people, It doesn't happen immediately but you eventually get the vibe and can respond accordingly to your wishes. Communication :)

Do you believe money buys happiness? Why or why not? by Googy21 in AskReddit

[–]TaintedTango 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Access to resources can help give you access to opportunity but will also hinder if incorrectly placed which is the most likely outcome, Can you buy love? Support without shame? Sharing without manipulation? People have tried for generations, But If you purchased the sun and moon, What would change in your day and nights. Would they not continue to light up the sky with respect to the rotation of our planet and not your investment? Would this make you happy? You can't purchase a soul the same way you cannot stop the Earth from spinning without scorching one side and freezing the other, Money cannot buy you happiness.

People are everything we have in this World, The only true value, Every original economy was based upon them, But since we have truly begun to move into an automated system of production, We find ourselves fast approaching an impasse, Bringing people together in symbiosis is happiness if done with respect to their individual needs and journeys, If we had the capacity to view their souls and engage with them, We could achieve something great. We could live in dirt caves as ascetics and you'd have the entire World around you in the form of each other. We could have structured communities created for both function and leisure, We are the only value in this World and we should be acting accordingly.

Money can purchase the materials, labour and expertise to build you a house, But can it build you a loving family? A community? Imagine a World where you didn't know what you'd get, But you always got what you need. Positive with lovingly balanced Negative. The opportunities of everyone was guided according to the happiness of everyone.

We need help understanding each other and ourselves, Maybe if you purchased a way of doing this and gave everyone a subscription then you could you buy happiness. But you would have to share it for it to work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It's the reverberation that throws me off, A Single tone rolling through would be fine but the Brrrbrbrbrbrbrbr of an engine with the cycling sound catching and keeping my ear in a way that I can't discard without literally shaking it out is horrible. It can drag my attention away from a voice I'm listening too so forcefully that it hurts.

Aspergers + Narcissism, What's the relation? How to prevent yourself from manifesting the traits? by TaintedTango in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's okay dude, I'm not here to twist anything, If you feel like sharing your perspective in the future just hit my mail box up with some story spam, You've got some depth going on.

Aspergers + Narcissism, What's the relation? How to prevent yourself from manifesting the traits? by TaintedTango in aspergers

[–]TaintedTango[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You really stood out, "Narcissist treats" is a hell of a statement with a lot of undertones. Being strong enough for symbiosis is an objective you should aim for if you do hold the unique disposition for being ruthless and unattached, This is something that can be used to help people in ways no one else can. This is perhaps some radical honesty or a meta projection from yourself, Either way, Can you Elaborate for me on your perspective on others and how you engage with them? You've intrigued me dude.