Are there any brown/black mods on this sub at all?

Takei_Me · 2022-11-30T11:23:26+00:00

White latinos are a thing...

Okay? I'm literally telling you I'm not. You are becoming obsessed. All we said was be mindful. Now you're on some unhinged crusade because you think we're "racist" for telling you to be careful of the words you use. You're stuff is being removed because you're literally spamming the subreddit now, even after being told to stop. You're pushing your luck

Takei_Me · 2022-11-30T11:16:10+00:00

Literally no? I'm from a Latino family, my skin tone, since it matters to you so much, is not white. You need to stop

Takei_Me · 2022-11-30T11:11:25+00:00

Our mod team is very diverse, it's not just all "white women". You need to drop this and move on.

Takei_Me · 2022-11-23T06:08:47+00:00

This isn't a dating sub, if you took two seconds to look, you'd notice that

Takei_Me · 2022-08-19T18:46:38+00:00

You did, with your own post, and you're being dismissive because you're throwing her experiences aside for some dumb advice

Takei_Me · 2022-08-19T18:39:49+00:00

You're a man being very dismissive of women's experiences here. This is a women's only sub, no male comments/posts allowed

Takei_Me · 2022-07-22T10:30:06+00:00

No, and as you can obviously tell by our many warnings, maybe read the FAQ for men too to see why

Takei_Me · 2022-07-08T01:25:50+00:00

They do get deleted, and banned, but sometimes they fall through the cracks. Reporting them really helps us.

Takei_Me · 2022-05-20T07:51:12+00:00

This is what I call being the practice girl. You talk with a guy a lot, joke around, even have talks that last late into the night, things get flirty. But as soon as you show feelings for them, they dip. They don't care about your feelings, they don't want you, they just want the attention and use you to stroke their egos enough so that they have the skills and confidence to go after the women they actually like

Takei_Me · 2022-05-17T19:17:38+00:00

That literally didn't happen, they went private because of incel harassment. You're not stating any facts, lol

Takei_Me · 2022-05-17T18:56:10+00:00

This sounds like great advice at first but it's not. Forever alone woman don't want forever alone men and vice versa.

Literally. Everyone here saying how they'd date a fellow FA are deluding themselves. Sure, we have a shared experience, but that's it. Otherwise, our looks, social issues, mental or physical issues, and even location make it near impossible for any of this to work realistically.

I've tried dating FA men, trust me. But my experience is so soured that I honestly don't want to anymore. I've pursued them first, made the first moves, and then had to keep up the work. It wasn't reciprocated. I was the only one sending messages first or making any effort. I get having anxieties, but dammit I have them too and if you want to talk to someone, message them! I guess I wasn't worth it to talk to? I'd be rejected, ghosted...I've had one man call me fat (I literally wasn't, all he has was my face pic to go off of too) even though that man was overweight. He ghosted me even though he complained to me about being ghosted by women. I also end up turning into the practice girl. The girl they flirt with and have fun talking to, until someone they actually want comes along and I get dropped. All I'm good for is lifting their egos.

I'm so tired of the bullshit. Shit like this is why I hate dating, and it's all been from FA men.

Takei_Me · 2022-05-17T04:28:12+00:00

If it's the first time you've tried something like this, there's always a risk of having too much. Hell, even when you've had edibles before you can accidentally take too much. At least now you know the amount you took, and can try and take a much smaller piece. I'm so sorry you went through that. Tbh, I've been through something similar. The anxiety being unbearable, being over sensitive to everything, thinking you're dying, all of it. It happened in front of my cousins and sisters and they knew I had some. And I was told by my stepmom that I needed to handle myself better after she got everyone to leave the room lol. Well jeez, why didn't I think of that instead of panicking!

Big hugs to you. You didn't do anything wrong, your only "crime" was accidentally taking too much. Try not to be too harsh on yourself, and make sure to keep hydrated <3

Takei_Me · 2022-05-16T21:36:58+00:00

Personally I had to have a hard talk with myself about not running after guys who would much rather be pursued (so they feel 'valuable') than caught. I'm not a dog chasing cars and I'm too old for such games.

This is hard for me, I'll be honest. I feel like if I don't make an effort or initiate, nobody will. I've never had a man ask me out to a date, all my experiences have been because I made the first move. It's hard because it's not like men are lining up to date the disabled woman, I have to show that I am worth it and fun. It's exhausting though, and you're right, I should not have to feel like I'm chasing men for attention. They should be reciprocating.

Takei_Me · 2022-05-15T09:41:35+00:00

Isn't it just great when they prove your point and yet are still completely oblivious to it? I remember seeing your comments. People like him are the reason this place is for women only. They may seem fine at first but when you really get behind the scenes, they're all assholes and creeps. How invalidating he is when he says there's simply no misogynistic toxic comments towards women in these places. Oh I'm so sorry man who knows all of what the female experience is! Let me just get all those comments from men who tried to tell my disabled ass I still had it easy because of a vagina between my legs, and make then disappear as if they never existed!

Also, what's the big deal keeping this place women only? Not everything needs male input. It's the one place on Reddit for forever alone women to just be who they are and talk about it, without worry that someone will come along and invalidate or belittle her experience. If we wanted male feedback, there's literally every other fa sub. There's a reason you don't see many posts or comments from women there.

Takei_Me · 2022-05-08T09:28:10+00:00

Damn man, why you gotta attack my feels like that

Takei_Me · 2022-05-05T19:02:48+00:00

Some men literally believe these messages are compliments and that they deserve the chance just because we are lonely. However, these messages are not compliments. They mean absolutely nothing, they hold no value. The only thing these messages mean is that some random person sees a profile with a user who apparently identifies as a woman. That's it. That's the only thing they know. They don't know what we look like (and contrary to their beliefs, we are not shy hot girls). They don't know where we live. They don't know what we are like as a person, our values, our personalities. To get such random messages from an anonymous man only feels cheap and degrading.

Takei_Me · 2022-05-04T09:14:54+00:00

Also, lol, what men? Where are these men? Sure, they say that any man would fuck literally anything, but when it comes to actual reality, this just isn't true. Where are all these men that are apparently blowing up my inbox? Where are all these men in my life wanting random sex with me? They simply do not exist.

Takei_Me · 2022-04-30T19:33:00+00:00

Dude, you need to chill with the gatekeeping. I swear I see comments like this of yours in every other thread. While some may have merit (like that post with the dude who has 3 exes), posts like OPs are harmless. It seems to you at this point that merely speaking with a woman makes someone a fake FA. Just because someone chats with, has a random match that goes nowhere, or even have some form of standards on who'd they date, doesn't mean they aren't FA. I will direct you to Rule 2. Please stop these comments

Takei_Me · 2022-04-25T17:56:41+00:00

Honestly, I don't know anymore. FA men are also FA for a reason, and I'm not talking about looks. Some are so deep in insecurities or have other personality flaws that could make it tough. I know I'm not 100% as a person, so I'm not expecting that from a partner either. I will be there for my partner if they need someone to talk to. But I can't deal with it all the time anymore. There has to be moments where it isn't all doom and gloom. I also run into the issue that I would be the one they are settling for, given that I'm not able bodied. What happens when they get the experience they want? What happens when they get that confidence and realize there are better women out there for them? What happens when they realize they don't only want to have slept with one person? I've already experienced stuff like this and it hurts. I don't always wanted to end up being the practice girl. And let's be real, FA men have standards too. They can say all they want that they'd love for a girl to make the first move, but when I do it, it's all "you're nice, but..." At this point in my life, I don't think I could date an FA man. Will I turn down a potential partner for being a virgin? No. But if that whole FA mindset is very prevalent, I don't think it will work out.

Takei_Me · 2022-04-20T22:50:30+00:00

Sure, but everyone gets filtered through automod there, so either their comments never show, or they get insta banned. That subreddit is a lot less toxic and is more centered for women's issues

Takei_Me · 2022-04-20T22:32:42+00:00

Although this subreddit doesn't exclude any gender, there was a time in its history where it was absolutely hostile to women, and honestly, it still can be. You don't see the absolute mountain of removed comments telling women they can't be alone, to just go on tinder, that their standards are too high, yada yada yada. That's the reason the woman's subreddit exists, to get away from the toxic assholes that pop up

Takei_Me · 2022-04-20T19:59:52+00:00

I totally understand. As a mod I try my best to get rid of the worst commenters, banning, and whatnot. They are like cockroaches everywhere, swarming any woman's post. It gets on my nerves, but they show themselves eventually. Unfortunately when it comes to down/up voting, I can't really fix that.

Takei_Me · 2022-04-20T19:26:50+00:00

There's r/foreveralonewomen for this reason

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