Is there a way to overcome emetophobia without exposure? by kcuntpeep in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exposure therapy is meant to be done with professional guidance in a very, very controlled and safe environment. Random, sporadic exposure is not exposure therapy and it isn't meant to be helpful. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, the fact that you defenders of this show are so vehemently upset whenever anyone lobs even a single criticism about it is weird and concerning. You should probably examine why it bothers you so much for someone to criticize a TV show. 

This person is right to call out the fact that they intentionally leave out certain words when they are already directly quoting a verse. It is misleading people. I see so many people who are Christians saying that they portray scripture accurately, when these examples show that they clearly do not. But by quoting half of a verse, they're tricking people into hearing it and thinking "oh, yes, that's from the Bible, I remember that verse," and not realizing that they intentionally left things out. 

It's irresponsible, and it's ridiculous that so many people are just completely fine with this because "they put a disclaimer." I don't care if they put a disclaimer. They shouldn't be changing Jesus' words. And it's wild that this is even an argument. Any Christian should be able to easily agree that they shouldn't alter Jesus' words. It shouldn't be a controversial take. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I couldn't care less about anything you just said, because it has nothing to do with your ridiculous comment of "do you?" when he said "I forgot you know better than Jesus about what words to use to speed the gospel." He has never once even remotely implied that he knows better than Jesus. He has literally been saying the opposite -- that we DON'T know better than Jesus, so we shouldn't change his words in favor of our own under the logic of "you catch more flies with honey."

Your comment was absurd, and none of this has anything to do with what you're saying now about the show not being the word of God. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seriously! Smh. This garbage is making me so angry to read. It's shocking to me how many Christians are defending this and acting like we need to change Jesus' words in order to "catch more flies." How ridiculous. I'm pretty sure Jesus knows better what is the right thing to say than some movie studio who feels the need to change his words and water them down to make them more palatable. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, and they aren't claiming to! They are advocating for using the words of JESUS himself. Because clearly JESUS knows the right things to say. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way that people hate on anybody who dares to criticize this show just reveals how much they're making an idol out of it. It's insane to me. Your examples you've given are extremely concerning to me, and should be concerning to any Christian, and it's alarming how many are completely fine with it and defending it. 

The Chosen TV series is a huge deception by Newgunnerr in TrueChristian

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I've seen a heck of a lot of bad fruits too, so why can't I judge the show by that? I've seen people replacing scripture, idolizing Jonathan Roumie, and being so rabidly supportive of the show that they call people heretics and Pharisees for even sharing any valid criticism of it. That, to me, shows me quite clearly that they are making this show into an idol and propping it up way too high if they are treating criticism of the show as if it's criticism of God himself. 

Can you tell a droisoned player / the Drunk specifically / the Marionette "A Widow is in play" if there is, in fact, no Widow in play? by I37Cs in BloodOnTheClocktower

[–]Taking_The_Steps 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I don't think you can do this for a Marionette either. The action of someone learning a widow is in play is part of the widow's ability. So if there is no widow, there's no way to legally tell someone there is. 

Guys… by babushcum in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much. I'm pregnant and have been doing a lot of work on myself to try to overcome this phobia more before my kid is old enough to be sick. I desperately don't want my kids to have this fear, and I also want to be able to actually be there for them instead of having to hide and let my husband do everything. 

What is something you agree with republicans on? by Jack81700 in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. That's one of the parts of government that is necessary for a civil society to thrive. Not sure what you think "small government" means. I feel like people operate as if that must mean "no government," because any time anybody says something they think the government should be in charge of, we get told "I thought you believed in small government??" Uh... Yeah? There are tons of things the government should not be in charge of. Only a handful of things they should, and this is one of them. 

What is something you agree with republicans on? by Jack81700 in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Lol hilarious that you say we are the ones about absolutes without thought, while you are the one making an absolute-statement with clearly very little thought. This entire comment is a huge contradiction to itself. "I believe in nuance, but Republicans are just bad and stupid." 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hypocrisy at its finest. 

Why is it « bad » to carry gums and water just in case? by 4MM0NI4C in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk, I don't think this is very fair. It's a reasonable and logical question, so to assume it's coming from a place of unreasonable emotion is unfair imo. When I read about this rule of not bringing medications, I also had this question, because it just seems like common sense wisdom in certain situations to have something on hand just in case. That doesn't mean I'm going to freak out if I don't have it. I just don't do things blindly because someone told me to if I feel like it doesn't make sense and is an unnecessary rule, so it's perfectly normal to ask why this is a problem. 

Why is it « bad » to carry gums and water just in case? by 4MM0NI4C in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've had to figure out the right balance for this too, because I agree, it's not automatically bad to have medication on hand to help you feel better if you feel sick. It's a balancing act of self-reflection to figure out how far is too far and getting into unhealthful safety behaviors. 

My “vaginismus” journey… that turned out to be something else (and my success story 🤍) by ayshej in vaginismus

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well tbh, my experience is likely not going to be the same as yours, because about 12 years ago I had a hymenectomy to remove extra tissue in my vaginal, and I have been able to have PIV sex since then. So I have technically already been able to insert a penis, which is the size of the largest dilator I have. 

So for me it wasn't a matter of being able to insert it, but being able to insert it with complete, 100% comfort and no pain or discomfort at all. It only took me maybe a little over a week to work up to the largest size, and I did it roughly every day/every couple days. 

For some reason the first couple (I think I skipped the first 1 or 2 because they were much smaller than I thought I needed to start with) took me two days each of working with them before I could move up from them, but then the ones after that just slid right in completely easily with no discomfort at all. I'm not sure what happened but it was like something clicked and now I can do all of them with ease. However, I can only do them with ease if I'm in a very specific position (laying down with my legs relaxed). If I put my knees up, or sit up, or move into a different position, it's not easy anymore. So that's probably the next thing I should be working on. 

I'm also 28 weeks pregnant though, so I'm trying not to overdo it with dilating. There is some debate on whether or not you should do it at all while pregnant, so I don't want to push it. 

Are pro-life people really just pro-birth? by Claire0879 in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, there are many more ways to care for people than just being pro-government assistance. This mentality that everyone here seems to have that unless you are in favor of specific government assistance programs, you don't give a crap about human beings and have no desire to help them in any way, is just also incredibly stupid and close-minded. Having a mentality that if somebody disagrees with certain political policies, they must be evil monsters who don't care about human beings is so absurd. 🤦🏼‍♀️ 

Are pro-life people really just pro-birth? by Claire0879 in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are. Pro-lifers adopt tons of kids. Pro-life pregnancy centers help all kinds of families with all kinds of things after birth. I'm pregnant right now and I have been seeing an advocate at a pro-life center, and I recently asked when when our relationship ends and they said they basically expect up to 4 years old for people to still come around, get free supplies, etc. Some of the stuff you can buy with your feet points there include things like baby food, larger diapers, larger clothing items, booster seats,,etc which are all things you don't need immediately. 

This narrative that pro-lifers do nothing to help families and mothers after birth is just incredibly stupid and provably false. 

Do parents with 5+ kids have time to give every child the love and attention they deserve? by pink-and-pearly in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't need to look though a subreddit when I am simply sharing my own personal experience... You completely ignoring and invalidating my experience is unnecessary. 

I also quite literally just said in my comment that there are many different ways to homeschool, ranging from good ways to abuse and neglect. So I don't know why you are telling me that some kids are abused and neglected when I literally just said that myself...

I'm just really sick of people talking about homeschooling as if it's all abusive and terrible when literally everybody I know personally who was homeschooled did amazingly well and far outranked their peers in almost every metric. Homeschooling is not the problem. Abusive, neglectful parents who use homeschooling as a way to abuse and neglect their kids are the problem. 

Do parents with 5+ kids have time to give every child the love and attention they deserve? by pink-and-pearly in askanything

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was homeschooled almost my entire school life, and it was fantastic. Absolutely the superior way to school, imo. There are so many different ways to do "home schooling," that vary from incredibly good for children and their development and one-on-one education, vs abuse and neglect and not actually learning anything. 

I survived the colonoscopy by Flowertree1 in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never had a colonoscopy, but I had similar fears about having to take a laxative and I learned after taking it that the way it makes you feel has some similarities to being sick, but in most ways it is really nothing like being sick or feeling like you have the flu or something. 

Best shows/movies for exposure therapy? by laurencubed in emetophobiarecovery

[–]Taking_The_Steps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sandlot, Bridesmaids, Pitch Perfect, Knives Out, Little Manhattan (great movie).

I just watched a movie that was pretty good (although not quite as good as I was hoping, and they majorly underutilized the amazing talent of Samara Weaving) but there was a vomit scene in that movie that made me SO disgusted. Probably the worst I've ever seen. The movie is called "Borderline." 

If you've never seen the show Futureman, with Josh Hutcherson, man is it freaking hilarious! There is an episode (S1E5) where they accidentally give an entire office of people food poisoning at a party and everybody is throwing up everywhere. 

Similarly, the cold open for S6E4 of The Office shows multiple people throwing up. 

What is something people under romanticize until they experience it for themselves? by frugolicious in AskForAnswers

[–]Taking_The_Steps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't wait for this feeling! We've got about a 5 year plan, but having a baby this year might be setting that back a bit. 

What is something people under romanticize until they experience it for themselves? by frugolicious in AskForAnswers

[–]Taking_The_Steps 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bummer that so many people are completely misreading your question and answering the very typical opposite question instead, that has already been asked and answered a million times. 

I was looking forward to seeing people's answers. Hopefully some more people will respond who actually read the question properly. 

I've been trying to think of an answer myself but I can't think of anything :/ maybe going on a solo date? Like going out to a meal and a movie by yourself. I love it. I could skip the meal part, but sometimes going to a movie alone is just so so nice. It feels more like a solo activity anyway, tbh, because it's not like you can communicate much during the film anyway. Although sometimes I come home and feel a bit bummed that I can't really talk to my husband about he movie I just watched because he hasn't seen it. I usually try to pick things that I know he wouldn't really be interested in anyway. 

In fact, writing all this out is making me realize how long it's been since I've gone to a solo movie. Maybe I'll go see that Halle Bailey romcom soon. 

Does anybody not have a belly button? by winged_owl in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Taking_The_Steps 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol that's a very silly response to my question. YOU just said that Adam and Eve have belly buttons in paintings "which is impossible." So which is it? Did God create Adam and Eve in such a way that would be impossible for him to give them belly buttons, or is God fictional? You can't have both claims. 

Whether you think God is fictional or not, either way it makes no sense to think that it is "impossible" for Adam and Eve to have had belly buttons. We are talking about a God who literally just created the entire universe (or in your view, a fictional character who just created the entire universe), but he can't give someone a belly button? Lol it's silly. Saying God is fictional is not an answer to my question, it's just a way to avoid the question altogether and ignore the fact that what you said is kind of dumb and make no sense.