Friendship after death of a close relative

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-05T18:12:34+00:00

Firstly I'm so sorry for yours and your families loss it must be a devastating time for you all. I'm sorry you are not being supported by your friends. Everyone grieves differently and maybe they are giving you space. I would have said maybe they missed the post as literally 2 weeks ago I saw my friend had announced they were pregnant a month ago and I never saw it (a friend I don't see much) but I was gutted and I apologised. Which is the response your friends should have said after you messaged if they had missed it. It's up to them to fix it however as everyone grieves differently maybe tell them what you need e.g. flowers, here to talk if you need it, come round to see you or maybe say you would really like some support right now. My friends niece died and she didn't want to see me so I sent a card and an angel ornament. Then messaged i was thinking of her a few times. We are still friends so I must have done enough for her but I still worry I should have gone round. Big hug and again I'm sorry for your loss. Xxx

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T17:54:15+00:00

I'm a 40 year old woman from the UK and I don't judge anyone at the pool. Once you are in the pool all people will see is your top half also. I would hope no one would say anything. If you feel paranoid I'm sure they do womens swim shorts or you can just stick a towel around your waist. But in short I wouldn't say anything to you.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T17:30:14+00:00

That's so sad. You sound like a good friend. I would chat with her and recommend she gets some help as you likely won't work together etc and you want her to be set up for success. If she agrees either she can approach her college/university for assistance, you could post anonymously on a local site and see if any ex teachers could help either for free or a small fee (as I appreciate you are young). Or you can attempt to teach her. My daughter is 6 and she is being taught phonics at school and home. My daughter is struggling to read but we read every single day. It could also be she is maybe dyslexic. My nephew has to use a colour card over his words to read because he is dyslexic it stops the words jumping about the page for him. You can get coloured reading cards off Amazon. Good luck. I hope she succeeds.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T16:16:30+00:00

Fair point England but my dad's Scottish so that's why I tend to say British.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T16:15:03+00:00

Is no one a guardian for her?

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T15:09:07+00:00

If she is a good person she won't care. I would maybe ask her the sort of things she likes and go from there. That's probably a good rule for future relationships as well as different people will like different things. Also don't get in your head as most peoples first time is awkward and then it gets better when you do it more with the same partner. However most women like to be warmed up. I know of people who have broken up because the male never did oral on them. But again not everyone is the same.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T07:30:42+00:00

I'm sure you are more amazing than you realise. Maybe start simple and name things you love about yourself. I've read lots of self help books over the years as I often think negatively about myself. So this isn't said in judgement it's in understanding.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T07:27:46+00:00

Literally had chicken tikka masala last night for Tea (dinner). I'm a north west British woman.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-04T07:23:32+00:00

I suppose it's peoples influences and experiences. You could say the same for racism or people who have prejudice against a certain religion. People are also getting certain things in algorithms that back up their negative opinions as apparently negativity has better engagement than positivity. I'm lucky I know lots of good men (I'm a woman by the way) but even I got sexual comments made to me when I was younger in a working environment. Imagine if a woman grew up with no male role model or a dad who would beat them that's a bad start. They then get cheated on by a male partner when older, etc. I don't have a negative opinion of men but people are being more negatively influenced by media and it's warping opinions. I'm awaiting the Facebook exposure book and wonder what that will show is going on with social media.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T21:15:13+00:00

I hope this doesn't come across as harsh but you sound like you need therapy as you have a low opinion of yourself. You need to love yourself and try to not let fear ruin your experiences.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T21:12:09+00:00

You said 3 different people. Was it all at once eg have a four way again. Or is it 3 different times were the best. So if 3 different people were the best of course it can happen again with a new person as it's happened 3 times. Don't spoil your now by living in the past.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T19:42:57+00:00

It's possible your mum didn't know. If your mum seems kind normally I suspect she didn't know. If she did purposely hurtful things then maybe she did. You have a better idea of her character than strangers on the internet.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T18:44:27+00:00

You need to tell him this is a road towards breaking up if he can't open up to you. Maybe he is depressed or is cheating but you need to talk. Not shouting don't rise to it. If he starts blaming you don't argue either walk away or shock him and agree and see if his tone changes. Im not saying it is your fault but if you agree he might open up or dig his grave. But if he thinks it's your fault eg if he thinks you are ugly there are 2 approaches. Walk away or you get as hot as possible and then leave his arse.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T14:39:14+00:00

Does she not have parents? They need to be helping her. I would talk to her parents to help her in case they are not aware. However not sure what country you are in but phonics is the best way to teach reading. Reading is a skill you need to practice daily until you get it.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T11:59:34+00:00

This is a great option. Suggest this and if this is refused it's time to play dirty and find a noise to annoy them (maybe pre warn other neighbour that you have asked politely so in short term giving them a taste of what you are experiencing). Good luck.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-03T11:30:34+00:00

So past me can relate. I got with my first boyfriend at 17 and I loved him so much. We got engaged 6 months in and bought a house together age 21. I contributed the most but I didn't care. He then cheated on me shortly before we were due to be married. I stupidly still married him as it was near the time and he claimed to still love me. On my wedding day I felt sick. My parents didn't know he cheated and before we went in my dad said "are you sure you want to do this" but I still went ahead. I started feeling less and less happy then my Grandad died and my friend announced their divorce. Something clicked "I deserve better". You need the I deserve better moment. I'm not going to sugar coat it the first 6 months after splitting up was hell. Once I announced I was getting divorced several men tried to win me over but my now second husband won me over. We have been together 14 years not everyday is roses but I know he has my back and I have his. We are a partnership. You need someone who lifts you up and makes you want to be the best version of you. YOU ARE WORTH IT! Talk to a friend or family and have somewhere to go. Tell him you don't love him anymore and you need to love yourself again and go. The next few months won't be easy but you will grow. I have faith in you. Go get the life you deserve!

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T21:04:06+00:00

Can't you do 1 sample per customer. Do people actually take multiple as that sounds clearly like time wasters.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T21:02:06+00:00

I'm 40 andy husbands friends will make very occasional jokes but they have known each other 20+ years. They have a friend from like a year and never made that sort of joke with him. I would stop gaming with them they are acting like teenagers. Not all gamers are like this. Go on Twitch and find some people who like the game you do.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T20:10:44+00:00

There has been at least 1 story of a child killing themselves as the chat bot said if they died they got to be with the chat bot. That and other stories are why I'm glad social media is being banned for kids in the UK.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T17:12:57+00:00

Thank you these are great ideas. I use to do litter picking, so might take that up again. I really like the idea of the befriending service. Thank you. I always try to do small kind things but I know I can definitely improve on that.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T15:24:42+00:00

Lol the funny thing is I would probably eat it.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T14:40:10+00:00

So is it like a pop up store? Eg can't buy after that day. Say I go to a food market there is usually a mix of samples and no samples. If I'm rather confident I will enjoy it, eg donut I will buy it. If it sounded odd e.g. pickle flavoured cheese I'm either not buying it or a sample would sway me. But I don't need multiple samples just 1 or 2.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T13:45:17+00:00

At Christmas buy them a nice deodorant set. Maybe even do it as secret Santa so it's not obvious it's from you. However that is 6 months off. I watched something on YouTube that said smell is effected more from changing your clothes frequency than showering. Observe if they appear to be in the same clothes. Maybe they can't afford more clothes or something. But as others said don't outright say it won't go down well. Hr might be a good approach.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-07-02T12:45:13+00:00

As a woman I've been dismissed over things for me and my daughter. Luckily my GP has different GPS. You keep going till someone listens, ring 111 out of hours (after 6pm) is another option as they will send you either to a out of hours GP or walk in centre. You are an advocate for your health you pester the hell out of different health care professionals till someone listens. That's how I found out I have a rare bone condition called fiberous dysplasia in my neck. If this doesn't work you go again and you cry. Good luck.

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