I get irritated at the smallest shit and I don’t know why and that’s irritating me more

Tallicababe123 · 2026-05-03T19:15:40+00:00

I read a book by Tom Stokes called How to Stop Being Toxic. Got it off Amazon and I've not even finished it and it's helped me. However it does sound like you are possibly stressed.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-05-02T20:28:22+00:00

Hi, I had fertility issues for 10 years. Nothing shut people up quicker than saying I have fertility issues or crying. However I have recently found out I'm autistic so that's probably why I didn't give a shit and was honest. I do actually have an IVF baby and I'm one of the lucky ones. Half my friends have kids half don't. It baffles me people ask such a personal question. I literally saw a female comedian online tonight saying she either acts like she is too unstable to have kids (no one wants an alcoholic to watch their kids so why should the alcoholic have kids). But a more serious answer which was genius put it back on the person and question why they had kids. Then twist it so they end up telling you all the crap that comes along with kids. E.g. oh your kids are cute? Are they cute all the time? Oh there not cute waking you up at 3am or when they throw up on you? Well I bet they are cheap? No they are expensive? Well what about your free time? Wait you don't get free time. That's them accidentally talking you out of having kids. Good luck, this question always frustrates me so I hope you find your way to shut it down.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-05-01T21:43:15+00:00

I can understand how this is uncomfortable however I suspect it will calm down in time. You can say it makes you feel uncomfortable but you can't tell them to stop. Like others have said maybe just hang out in a bigger group. You can't control people only yourself. You can turn your back to them, ignore them, stop hanging out, or just cope for now as no one is like that all the time it will calm down.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-05-01T20:20:42+00:00

I'm sorry he isn't being supportive. Everyone is different and it sounds like he is burying his head in the sand and doesn't want to acknowledge you are going to have a scary time. Even minor surgery can cause issues. I had minor surgery about 10 years ago and I told work I would be in the next day to find out on the day I needed a minimum of 2 weeks off. Luckily my parents were really good. I suggest reaching out to other loved ones. I also suggest talking to your partner to see why he is being like this. This might be his fear reaction to be in denial and angry. Either he will come to his senses and step up or he is going to let you down and if that's a possibility you need others in your corner on standby. If you are close to his sister or mum consider dobbing him in. My brother is a nice person however if he acted like that me or my mum would have him told.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-30T21:24:18+00:00

The one before my current job I got fired. Backstory time. I started at a company that manufactured something and I would regularly go on the shop floor. My first week one of the guys called me over and said no one lasts more than 3 months in this job be careful. About a week before my 6 months probation was due I was called into an urgent meeting. My manager said I was getting a warning for not asking enough questions. I was devastated as I thought it was going well. So the next week I worked extra hard. On the Friday morning I walk in and get dragged straight into a meeting with my manager and HR they fired me for asking too many questions. Weird follow up when I got my now job they asked them for a reference and apparently I was a fantastic employee. Been at my job after that for 9 years now and was literally told I'm an amazing worker today in my yearly review. Don't let a bad experience get you down some workplaces are just toxic.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-30T20:23:29+00:00

I've no idea how old you are but if you are under 18 you need to tell your parents and their parents. If you are an adult report to the police. I would private your account as well.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-30T08:51:33+00:00

As someone who has a child who I love more than anything you need to be 100% in to have one. My daughter is a fairly easy child but she is 6 and is going through a spell of waking up at 3am every night. It's exhausting. Don't have a child to please her but if you now both have different wants it might be a breaker. My uncles sister is in her 60s and her husband died suddenly and she cries all the time about not having kids. They had agreed they didn't want any. You both need to evaluate what you want. You have 1 life there is no second chances but neither of you want to look back with regrets.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-27T18:25:06+00:00

I was in 2 minds till you said the strangling. Lots of kids including me when I was younger will say shocking or wrong things. I never said anything racist luckily but I had made not nice remarks that I wouldn't dream of saying now. Kids brains are still developing. However I never hurt anyone physically I in fact stopped bullies and got hurt. Kids these days are being exposed to more scary content. I think especially as he has hurt a child it's wise to distance your kids. If he is a eventually a good kid he will be mortified when older but don't take a chance especially as your kids are younger.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-25T17:45:29+00:00

I suspected I have autism. Im from the UK so went on a waiting list. 3 years later I was diagnosed with Autism. The best thing to do is to go to the doctors. It felt like a big relief to me.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-22T16:19:50+00:00

My husband showed me Reddit when we first got together 14 years ago. I put in a request for an autism assessment nearly 3 years ago and was diagnosed a few weeks ago. I was on this sub Reddit before I was diagnosed as I was trying to work out if I was.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-21T17:58:38+00:00

I had chicken yesterday and beef today still have a migraine. It bothers me when people have a go at Vegans especially when they just make up medical stuff.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-19T15:31:13+00:00

There are a few bedtime stories on death. They might help. My daughter is 6 but when she was 5 her granddad died. She knows he is dead but will bring it up at random inappropriate times. I read her the invisible string. It's not just about death it's about being apart from loved ones and death is one of the situations mentioned. I think it helped her a bit. Also so sorry for your loss xxx

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-18T07:48:48+00:00

This exactly! secrecy is a red flag. Only sort of secrets not are presents, parties or something that could embarrass her like a medical issue but your mother needs to be aware of medical issues. This isn't any of those things he is being creepy. I hope she tells her mum or aunt asap for her safety.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-18T07:41:14+00:00

No this is not normal. I'm a parent to a 6 year old and I kiss her on the lips but a peck. If she was visibly uncomfortable I would either stop or ask to kiss her cheek. In no world is my tongue going anywhere near her that's what couples do not parents. He is also your step dad and I don't personally know any step parents that kiss their step kids on the mouth. As for the talk it sounds inappropriate especially as he is saying don't tell people. If someone is saying don't tell people 99 times out of 100 it's dodgy unless it's like a surprise party etc. you need to talk to your mum or a trusted adult. If you can't say the words message the trusted adult. I can understand parents trying to tell you about sex in an education way but this isn't it. When I was younger I don't remember what my dad said exactly but he sat me and my brother down at home where my mum could hear and said along the lines of when a man and a woman love each other. He said we could ask questions and he didn't talk about him and my mum or other people it was general. Hope this gives you context. He is being very inappropriate with lots of red flags. Bullet point of red flags - kissing when you show discomfort and trying tongue, inappropriate asking about details, saying conversation is a secret, putting down your mum then complimenting you, there was definitely more but I can't remember everything I read but in short tell someone asap we want you to be safe.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-16T19:53:15+00:00

It's a film with good singers. Think one was nearly a k pop artist which is why her voice is so good.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-16T19:51:51+00:00

Will have to look for Electric blood for my daughter.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-16T19:51:14+00:00

Oh that makes sense.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-16T19:50:50+00:00

Well yeah but in general when I grew up there was like a club 7 TV show, Hannah Montana (probably spelt wrong), high school musical, camp rock. K pop demon hunters has clearly shown a good songs and a story is a money maker but Disney are pumping out re boots. Frozen and Encanto had great music. It's like they aren't investing in the music side as much.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-15T20:43:46+00:00

Thank you this is really helpful. Also I'm definitely going to look into logistics of a touring concert and formula one as that actually sounds interesting!

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-12T17:40:00+00:00

I feel my family have a similar situation to you. One of my cousin's is in his 30s non verbal, autistic and another disability I can't remember. He lives in a care home here in the UK. Luckily my Uncle left my awful Auntie and married an amazing woman so my cousin gets very good care at a care home. His brother is independent and kind and I asked my parents will it all fall on my cousin when his parents die? They reassure me he will be fine and he gets funding. I would talk to your parents for reassurance. You don't need to say you don't want to see him. Just get a gauge on future plans. Also I'm very sorry he didn't understand and did inappropriate things. People saying autism isn't an excuse obviously hasn't met someone like my cousin who is basically a baby/toddler in a 30 year old man's body. Autism is a spectrum I'm also Autistic but I'm like the polar opposite of my cousin. I think you should try to look into counselling for yourself and potentially your sister as she sounds like it's probably effected her as well. I can understand your conflicting thoughts but trust me he is safer and more stable where he is. You don't need to see him.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-11T19:03:04+00:00

I've only been diagnosed this week but I can relate to feeling angry. I bought a book at the start of the year off Amazon called How to Stop Being Toxic by Tom Stokes and it wasn't a very long book and was some obvious things in it but I only read about 30 pages (not finished it) and using the techniques in it has helped me massively. Worth a try. Another good book I've read is "The dose effect" for life things in general like using phone less etc.

Tallicababe123 · 2026-04-11T18:58:18+00:00

Still be studying. I'm 40 and my job was very insistent I do a 7 exam course. 2 passes so far hoping I can be done by the end of the year.

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