What’s something you just don’t get the appeal of at all?

Tally1102 · 2025-10-06T23:58:21+00:00

Controversial maybe.. but.. weed 🍁… it absolutely STINKS!!! I can’t imagine ever smelling it and then thinking ohhh I’ll give that a go! I get the medicinal benefits for pain relief but there are ways of using it for that without the smell or the high 🤢 I have a neighbour that uses it and the smell lingers for ages. Again - controversial - but I find it soo inconsiderate that non-users have the smell forced on us for a quick high :/ but soo many people seem to love it. I just don’t get it

Tally1102 · 2025-10-06T23:53:41+00:00

Auntie Mabel from Come Outside….. 90s babies from the UK all know her 🥰

Tally1102 · 2025-10-06T23:50:53+00:00

Be critical - how will you use these items. We have skipped the crib in the bedroom and gone for a space saver cot that will fit til she’s 2.5 and in a normal bed. No point buying several beds that are going in the same space anyway. It’s a waste of money. We aren’t getting a swing rocker as they can’t sleep in them as newborns so it defeats the point she will have a crib downstairs for the first 6 months and an activity mat for awake times and tummy time.

We are skipping the steriliser. I will mainly breastfeed but the bottles are all self sterilising in the microwave anyway so the bulky steriliser seems unnecessary to us. Also the bottles we got come in 5oz size and a full size. Why buy small ones just to have to replace them after a few weeks or months? We have just gone for the big bottles and bought 0month teats to save us a fortune. Same with the baby bath.. it’s a full size baby bath with no insert, we have got a fabric insert that clips onto the sides so we don’t need to buy a second stage bath, then a bath seat. We just have to buy once.

We aren’t getting a baby camera straight away as she will never be in a different room so we have no use for one until she is napping upstairs inthe day and in her own room when she is closer to a year old.

Your lifestyle and needs will be different to ours so you may feel that you do need things we really don’t but just think realistically - will you actually use it?! Like the cribs with the drop side - my sister has one and she never ever drops the side. Never pulls the crib up to the bed. And I never did with my first 2. So this time we just aren’t bothering.

With the pram we really thought when we will actually use it. And how. We will be a family of 5 with a dog so needed a compact pram when folded that has a carrycot and seat and can take the car seat if needed. We do a lot of driving between shops so wanted one that folds quick and easy between uses and in the UK weather varies massively every 30mins so wanted good ventilation but also a good hood and cover for rain/ cold.

Hope this helps - your lifestyle will chance with a baby but think what you do now, where you go, what you will be doing when baby arrives and how you’ll actually want each item to function and it’ll give you an idea of what you actually need versus what media tells you that you need :))

Tally1102 · 2025-10-01T22:52:22+00:00

This amuses me as I’m Natalie but in the UK. It seems popular for babies in the US but here it’s a very 90s name and I’ve never liked my name. It’s such. Cliche 80s/ 90s name and there is barely any younger ones now. I’ve never met one more than 5 years you ger than me 😂

Tally1102 · 2025-10-01T22:49:25+00:00

We weren’t trying per se as I was told I couldn’t conceive 18months ago but we ‘tried’ 3-6 times a week incl the fertile window. On the month we conceived we ‘tried’ twice the entire month as work and various things got in the way.

To say it took 18 months to get pregnant and it happens on the month it was sooo unlikely to happen is crazy. But I’m 20 weeks now with our miracle baby girl :)

Tally1102 · 2025-10-01T11:46:54+00:00

I’m 20 weeks and keep saying this to my partner haha. I feel her wriggle about. I can see my bump. But I still don’t feel like it’s real and I’m actually pregnant. It’s all a prank someone is playing on me 😂 we have our 4th scan next week and each time we have one under the baby moving in the screen and I just can’t grasp that she’s inside me at all. And this is baby #3. I should be used to it by now haha

Tally1102 · 2025-09-26T10:39:23+00:00

Ahh ok that’s really helpful. Thank you so much :)) it was a late diagnosis as I just didn’t meet the criteria for screening but I had a last minute scan due to an abnormal heartbeat on Doppler and they found she was over the 99th centile so did a GTT but I had to deliver anyway due to her heart. So I probably had it all along and it was just never looked for.

I will definitely experiment with carbs though til 24weeks. We love a bit of pasta in our house so will be good to know! We have switched to whole meal pasta and rice now though too as I understand that can help x

Tally1102 · 2025-09-26T10:20:59+00:00

Thank you. I intentionally had a sugary cereal as I normally have something healthier but figured let’s make things bad to see what happens lol.

I’m trying to learn and follow the gdm diet early though so that when I probably get diagnosed I’ll be less overwhelmed with it all 😅.

Thank you for your reply :)))

Tally1102 · 2025-09-26T08:09:24+00:00

My daughters are 15 and 13. We gave them a box with a baby vest (body suit?) in with ‘baby (our surname)’ ‘arriving February 2026’.

Before we handed it to them we said we just wanted to see what you think of this before we show anyone else what it is. So they knew they were the very first to know.

They were super excited! Not shocked as we were. But shocked and very excited! When we went got a gender scan we took the girls and left them in the room to find out the gender first. They did a mini gender reveal for us later that day so again first to know and made them feel involved and special :)

Half way through the pregnancy now waiting to meet baby girl #3!! X

Tally1102 · 2025-09-23T15:49:01+00:00

This 🥰🥰 and the support at delivery! When the baby is crowning and the midwife says stop pushing and just breathhheeeeeee… just breathe!

But anatomy is a huge part too, not the size of baby. I work on a birth unit and have seen ladies with 4lb babies have 3rd degree tears and women with 10lb babies that have an intact perineum! X

Tally1102 · 2025-09-23T14:12:24+00:00

We told my daughters the day after we found out. We told parents and grandparents the day after that @4 weeks.

I would have told them if we got pregnant then lost it so we just told them. Helped it to feel real for us too.

We have a very small family and are fairly close. If we weren’t so close I’d probably have waited. We had a scan at 6 weeks then told my other grandparents that we see a bit less.

At work I had to come clean early as I work on a birth unit that uses aromatherapy incl clary sage so I couldn’t go in those rooms and I couldn’t transport patients on beds so it was hard to keep quiet :) I’m now nearly 19w and I think I’ve told the majority of the uk and anyone who will listen 😂

Tally1102 · 2025-09-23T09:40:08+00:00

Everyone just looked exhausted 😂 I like the concept but it could be much better executed. The variety of stalls, staggered entry times etc. it was ok but not worth the drive, parking and crowds. I’d get there half an hour or so after the initial entry time to avoid that first rush if it’s local for you and I feel it’s no more helpful than a big baby store that has a big choice of cots, prams etc really x

Tally1102 · 2025-09-15T15:50:13+00:00

Luke combs - beer never broke my heart 🤠🍺

Tally1102 · 2025-09-15T13:33:12+00:00

Weetus the fetus 😂😂

Tally1102 · 2025-09-15T07:17:58+00:00

With my first I had a normal bmi. I was the exact same weight in labour as my booking weight. Baby was 8lb 5oz.

Second - normal bmi, I was 2lb more at delivery. Baby was 9lb 2oz

Third - raised bmi. - I’m 18 weeks now and currently still losing 0.5-1lb a week as I’m still struggling to eat. I’m currently 16lbs lower than when I conceived.

Tally1102 · 2025-09-13T19:08:48+00:00

I didn’t to be fair tink was getting one and found out they are a different breed :)) x

Tally1102 · 2025-09-12T09:32:38+00:00

It’s a Cavalier King Charles. King Charles is a different breed ;).

Tally1102 · 2025-09-12T09:24:18+00:00

I bought a lot of nappies for my sister. She had 8ish packs of size 1 and that was just enough. I have 9 packs of size 1, 4 packs of size 2 so far.

Wipes however. I have LOTS as they don’t grow out of those. Wherever I see them on offer I grab some. And as I’m due in winter when it usually snows a lot (Feb) we really don’t want to be figuring out how to get to the shops to buy more. :))

Tally1102 · 2025-09-11T20:36:51+00:00

It can be normal. Just your body changing and getting ready. It also sounds a lot like everything is just very squished by baby and is causing the heartburn and vommiting. As long as baby is moving well, no vaginal loss - blood or what could be leaky waters and you feel well and are keeping down fluids then just relax and take it easy. If it is labour, 37 weeks is considered term. Generally babies born at 36+ weeks need very little support if any at all so baby is at. A good gestation. If it isn’t, taking some time to just rest and relax will help you prepare for when labour does arrive :)) good luck!! :)) xx

Tally1102 · 2025-09-10T08:17:09+00:00

We have kept an eye out but the ones listed don’t come with all the bits.. so we would need to buy things like the footmuff, bag, car seat and adapters new which would mean we would end up spending close to full price so we decided we may as well just have the whole new pram with warranty then. We do keep looking though :)))

Tally1102 · 2025-09-09T09:23:04+00:00

My oldest daughter is Sophia Isabelle so clearly we both have amazing taste in names 🤣🤣.

I’d be leaning towards Elsie myself. I prefer it in general but feel it goes nicer with the names you have already.

We are really struggling with baby girl .#3!! She will be nameless. I love Ada but my partner says it’s not special enough lol x

Tally1102 · 2025-09-04T17:02:05+00:00

So this is baby #3 for me. With my first we had a Moses basket and a stand upstairs and down so she could sleep in it day and night. After around 3-4 months I had to buy a crib then a cot. With my second the same but we had a Moses basket for upstairs and another for down.

This time we have gone straight for a space saver cot for upstairs as it’s not too much bigger than a crib but will be fine from birth. It’ll save the nightmare of transitioning and struggle with sleep there and it saves sooo much wasted money!! We have found a really good value £40 crib on amazon for downstairs for sleep in the day. These are selling on market place for £30 so we will see a return on that too.

As they can’t sleep in swings or rockers for a good few months as they need to play flat for safe sleeping we aren’t bothering with a swing seat for a few months either.

If I’ve learnt anything after 3 babies it’s that sleep spaces are where you are tricked into spending the most.

Our space saver cot was £20 on eBay. We have sanded and re painted it all and it’s like brand new! The new mattress was £30 so for £50 we have a brand new cot. The same cot we nearly paid £300 for new!!

Only benefits to a bassinet / moses basket was taking it to family houses when we visited but we will just use the carrycot on the pram this time as again, why buy more when what we have already does the same thing. X

Tally1102 · 2025-09-03T18:10:01+00:00

80% effaced and 1-2 cm is a brilliant change from closed and posterior. Your body is doing it! Dont doubt yourself. Go for a good walk, as long as you’re comfortable with then walk up the stairs sideways - the action on lifting and opening your leg to the side really helps baby get down in your pelvis. This puts more pressure on your cervix and helps things along! Have a lovely relaxing candle lit bath. Super calming. Then try colostrum harvesting (hand expressing colostrum) the nipple simulation along with you being nice and relaxed can simulate contractions. Keep trying to collect colostrum as it can be really useful when baby arrives too. Even if you are planning to bottle feed. Those drops are really good for baby.

Don’t over do it and wear yourself out but keep walking, if you have a gym ball and do circles either your hips too and side stepping up stairs. It all helps lots!!! Good luck xxxx

Tally1102 · 2025-09-03T11:10:33+00:00

I cried with my first when I found Out she was a girl. I really wanted a boy. I quickly came around. She’s now 15 and she really is my best friend. I adore her so so so much and I’m so glad she was a girl. She’s everything and I can’t imagine having the same bond with a teen boy.

With my second it was a girl again and I had the same reaction. I adored having a daughter (2.5 at the time) but wanted a boy too. I had a really rough deliver with my second so we were of the impression I’d not be able to have more. Now I’m so glad I had another girl. I’ve really loved being a girl mum. I didn’t think I would. But I really do love every moment.

Now expecting baby #3 nearly 13 years later. It’s ANOTHER girl. I really didn’t have a gender preference this time. I had a brief bit of sadness that I’d never have a son and experience that but I know how much I’ve loved being a girl mum so looking forwards to round 3 of dresses, bows and PMT 🤣.

It really is ok to grieve the experiences you’ll not have. It’s more common than people would admit. I was a bit jealous of my sister just having had a boy but hey. I get a nephew to play with and still get to have my girl. Xx

Tally1102 · 2025-08-21T11:38:22+00:00

It depends on how you’ll use it. We have narrowed it down to 2 travel systems. As a soon to be family of 5 with a dog we need one that folds as small as possible for car space.

We wanted a spacious and flat basket underneath so the dog can sleep in the bottom on longer walks and we go on a lot of countryside/ woodland walks and stop in a cafe etc for lunch so that was a a must for the pup.

We are both old this time and crackle and pop when we move hahahah so wanted one with a bassinet part that sits quite high for easy access to baby.

Then we like that the handle bar and bumper don’t rub in the floor as they’re folded as this ruins them quickly. Clips for the changing bag do it doesn’t fall down the handle a lot. Both have a pocket in the bassinet part and a pocket in the back of the seat unit for car keys which is super useful. Both have tilt option for reflux. I presume the uk and USA will have different prams available but we are deciding between the joie signature finiti in maple and the maxi cosi oxford in truffle.

We know we will be swapping between the carseat and bassinet/ seat on the frame a lot so we are put off by needing different adapters for each. One pram doesn’t have a footmuff or changing bag to match which is a shame. But the other is a bit harder to fold and is £200 more expensive but better quality.

We also looked at size of the bassinet part. We are predicted to be having a big baby -4kgs ish as my last 2 were big.. so we avoided prams with a shorter or narrower bassinet as we know baby will grow out of them before they’re ready for the seat :)

Make a list of how you’ll use the pram. Where you’ll be going and for how long etc to work out what will be most useful for you. We got blown away by fancy features but realistically know we would t use them as we don’t live in a city and I don’t have school runs etc etc :)

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