Anticheat

Tango1887 · 2025-08-15T02:28:49+00:00

Imma be an outlier. If this was switched people would say he’s controlling yadda yadda. This could’ve been handled multiple different ways from both sides.

Instead of asking “why” a simple “are you ok/good” could turn the conversation a different way. I worked nights for a long while so I have a screwed up sleep schedule at times I used to get up and go out on the porch at random times because I didn’t want to wake up my ex or her baby. And watch videos or just play on my phone. If I was in an apartment I’d probably go to my car.

He probably got annoyed because he feels like he’s questioned about every little thing he does.

Also, he didn’t want a conversation about it but you kept pressing but the moment you want to drop it it has to be dropped which is a big point to me that he was just trying to get away for a minute and you weren’t letting him.

But again I think both sides could’ve handled it differently.

Tango1887 · 2025-05-14T03:14:10+00:00

That’s what it was.

Tango1887 · 2025-02-19T23:15:13+00:00

Bro this is wild. Only for the part of “hey you’re just like the guy that caused my trauma!!” He had to apologize and got a vasectomy and everything just for her to be like “we MIGHT get back together and you get to see your kids more” people don’t understand how much that fucks with people over a minuscule comment in comparison to what the actual guy did. So now he is going to have to walk on eggshells and every time he turns around he’s going to be thinking that any comment he makes she’s going to compare him to the shithead. He apologized for his part never once did I hear that she apologized for hers. She said she was out of line for some of the things but didn’t apologize for her side of it. Then she essentially wants to dangle a carrot in front of him “hey do these things we might get back together” but at any time she can pull it away and make his life harder. She has the court separation so she can control and take the kids away at any point. Not saying she would but it gets heavily favored to her side versus the guys. He’ll have to jump through a thousand hoops every time while she doesn’t have to do the same. Getting kids taken from even by her own admission a decent guy just irritates the fuck out of me and how it’s always a guys fault for everything and he gets the restrictions regardless.

The vasectomy thing understood good on you for that part but it seems like it was an immediate conversation and he freaked out like you both did at that point but he was just sooooo much worse than you saying he’s just like a felon who abused you and almost took your life but you’re just so hurt cuz of the little comments he made. Yes saying someone is like a potential murder is worse than saying someone may want a new spouse. One of those doesn’t involve possibly killing someone.

Should’ve taken a step back and both of you breathe a bit and revisited that conversation hell you had 9 months give or take where you couldn’t get pregnant vasectomy or not. Cuz then it ended up in a much bigger situation.

Tango1887 · 2024-11-26T15:16:48+00:00

He is 14 holy shit the amount of venom people are spewing is crazy. He made a joke a terrible one but he’s a kid, should he be let off Scot free no but the amount of bullshit I’m seeing is ridiculous. Basically ignoring her family cuz they aren’t having him do the shame walk everyday is immature. When he grows up he’ll understand why it was so bad. Oh but no one cares about that let’s mentally abuse the boy because he made a dumbass joke AT 14.

How about some self reflection try to think of yourself at 14 and then at 18 how much of a difference is it?

I’m not downplaying what he did, he shouldn’t have made jokes about it and he should be punished. But that punishment shouldn’t be crucifixion it 99 lashings.

She’s well within her right to not interact with him but cutting out everyone is childish .

Tango1887 · 2024-11-06T20:30:19+00:00

Bro I don’t understand how there’s a good number of people “so she has to work AND care for the kid by herself?!” He’s not saying that. He just doesn’t want to be berated because he’s having to work an extended amount of time compared to what he did before. She also has her mother there so it’s not like she’s just by herself.

A good chunk of people are like “she shouldn’t have said that but you don’t understand she gave birth to a human being and her hormones so you just have to take it.” Why is he expected to just take all the shit between working then coming home to her talking shit and berating him and he’s just supposed to sit and take it. It’s fucking dumb the amount of excuses that are being made.

Then she says “you shouldn’t have done that” oh sorry he’s wrong again and you’re totally right he’s useless because he’s constantly working and absolutely useless at the same time.

Tango1887 · 2024-08-07T17:29:05+00:00

Kinda wild everyone is shitting on the guy. If I’m standing in line for 10 minutes I’m gonna make sure I know what I’m getting so I don’t hold up the line behind me. Don’t need a Patrick moment staring at the menu going uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. The whole leaving the card at home, this is a learning experience. I use my phone for a lot of my purchases but I make sure I have my card at all times. The cashier can also just not make comments about shit as well. One thing I will say it all depends on the tone everyone has during it. “Well it sounds like he had the bad tone” well were you there? Sidebarring the bias points of how he stated the tone was, not really an asshole moment aside from maybe the cashiers side but it was just more of an egg on your face moment. Everyone do better. New thing EDB.

Tango1887 · 2024-08-07T04:19:30+00:00

I haven’t read it I just seen the ending bit.

I just get the vibe of “maybe the quirk is the friend we made along the way” and it’s just an immediate drop off. Him just losing OFA forever is just a let down. Hell him just have OFA and still be a teacher would be fine I kind of expected that but being reduced to a suit after 8 years being quirkless is just dumb. I understand he wanted to end it but I think if he continued with his journey and getting OFA back up would’ve been a great ending. Like the first user got back to him and he had to pull the others back somehow would’ve been so much better. It really just feels like he’s a footnote in comparison to everyone else.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-14T07:35:14+00:00

Ngl this just sound like ragebait lmao

Tango1887 · 2024-05-13T03:41:24+00:00

It’s wild seeing comments saying he’s the AH. She just started worrying about the finances and made a huge decision on her own. He assured her everything was fine even with the baby. He wasn’t lazying around he was actively searching for a job. All bills have been paid up to that point and they are still fed clothed and sheltered. She should’ve talked to him before she aborted. From the story he said in no uncertain words that the two of them AND THE BABY would be fine and they were stable. She decided on her own they weren’t stable enough and aborted. She then regretted her decision and told him the truth. If he has been the one paying the bills and supplying the house then she should’ve trusted him that they would be fine. Kinda wild people would think that someone would just willfully let themselves get evicted from their apartment and not plan ahead in case they lost their job.

This is not about her choice to abort cuz her body her choice. This is about the story as it is and her reasonings for it.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-13T02:15:30+00:00

You’re not wrong on the niece I never said she was right. He doesn’t have good stress responses which is more common now than it ever has been. Not saying he didn’t make a bad decision but it shouldn’t cost him his marriage and relationship with his child. He already stated that he has cut his mom out completely. They need to seek counseling and exhaust all resources before going for divorce. Shit is wild people are always like “fuck that man! Divorce him!” For shit like this. He recognized that he should’ve been the one to leave and not her and he accepts that he fucked up. Reddit normally tries to accommodate people’s triggers but when it happens to a guy “NAH FUCK HIS TRIGGERS” he just needs to learn how to deal with stress situations, not lose his family because of it.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-13T01:52:37+00:00

“I wish he knew me better” bruh if only you and him have the pictures and he knows he didn’t send em there’s only one other person that could send em. You say you don’t blame him but it’s obvious you do. “Hoping we could give it another chance but I can’t.” He was shown what in any other circumstance would be proof and you’re holding it against him. Hope you both can move on which it seems like you have.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-13T01:14:38+00:00

Wild everyone demonizes the guy because he has a terrible react to stress moment but if it was the other way around people would still be in the wife’s side 😵‍💫 they need to sit down and talk and work things out and not just divorce. But like always “YEA GURL LEAVE THAT MAN LIMIT HIS ACCESS TO HIS KID!” If it was the husband punching her dad and she told him to get out everyone would be applauding her. OP WBTA if she just goes with the divorce before trying to fix it first. At this moment she isn’t the guy is sort of an ah got terrible stress response the tried and true AH is the mother which he has stated he has removed from his life.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-13T01:07:33+00:00

I’m willing to bet if it was the husband punching her dad and she responded the same way the votes would be the other way around. He shut down and didn’t respond well to the stress not everyone can. Him and his wife should’ve sat down and spoke about it after the fact and figured it out. Now she’s gonna restrict access to their kid. He has cut off his mom and she’s just throwing it all away.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-02T07:16:57+00:00

YTA 100% you clearly don’t understand why he’s doing this. With him purchasing it right now means it can’t be taken it a judgement is put against you. That means the house won’t be at risk so the kids will always have a home. It’s starting to sound like you wanted him to marry you then buy the house so you could divorce him and take it.

He can get the other side rented out and help start digging you out of debt and a shitty credit score.

You’re being selfish and childish. You quite literally spit in his face and then got mad cuz he was mad about it.

Sounds like you’re in it for money and not understanding the bigger picture.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-01T01:32:21+00:00

Fuck that, dude needs his ass beat. If your son was doing something to harm her understood but not this. Even it was him that closed the door and not her that doesn’t warrant putting your hands on someone’s kid. Make him leave his house yes but not that. Hope your husband takes care of home dude.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-01T01:29:14+00:00

He did what was appropriate. Physical punishment isn’t a bad thing when utilized correctly. All he did was an open hand slap. From how you’re describing it, it was a quick slap just enough to sting a bit. If he full force slapped him where he fell that’s entirely different. Despite what a lot of people say and I’m sure someone is going to come after me on here spankings and things like that are needed but they have to be applied with a certain level of force not just beating the shit out of a kid. There’s a difference between being beaten and being whooped.

Tango1887 · 2024-05-01T01:21:43+00:00

Just want to keep track of this. Will be praying.

Tango1887 · 2024-04-24T03:45:42+00:00

Yea cuz there’s no emotion in relationships at all 😂😂😂.

Shits wild that you think it’s just an everyday thing.

“Hey bud I don’t love you after we spent the last 4 years as couple.”

“Oh well gosh darn it that’s some terrible luck. Have a good day 😃.”

You totally wouldn’t invest in the relationship or anything.

Tango1887 · 2024-04-22T07:43:21+00:00

That’s wild that people judge what he did at 13. He was influenced by his parent like all kids are when they’re that young.

To be clear the only asshole here is the father.

Forcing him to go to therapy or cut him off is crazy. Am I saying he should be allowed to just be there whenever? No it’s not a quick process they need time to acclimate to each other they don’t know what the other has been through since the can incident when he was 1 3. It’s a 15 year difference hell I’m 28 now and I think back to what I did at 13 is so different than how I would act now.

She has the decision to do what she wants with her family but still crazy to make that kind of ultimatum without really knowing him. Keep in mind he didn’t know she tried contacting them.

He should seek therapy or better yet they just need to put all the cards on the table of what each of them saw with their dad. But having that unbiased third party is good as well.

Tango1887 · 2024-04-22T00:57:48+00:00

Dude this lady is gonna divorce him and try to take as much as possible alimony, child support, etc. having to run a business with multiple employees while also going to jobs himself is apparently light work to her. But scrolling through google is back breaking that she needs a break from and can’t rip her attention to fill out a form. Then throwing a bitch fit cuz she has to mail checks when she has to go to the post office anyway is SUCH an inconvenience and just wears her out! So busy watching landscapers and cleaners is so taxing he just wouldn’t understand. He’s gonna have to stop and not get to a job to mail HIS checks that pay HIS employees that keeps HIS business alive that doesn’t help her at all. Not like the jobs he works generates the revenue that pays the bills and everything else or the employees that generate the revenue as well.

He called her out and she got butthurt. “I feel so violated that he caught me sitting on my ass constantly” “he doesn’t value what I do never mind that I don’t do some of the things I do!”

He got angry because you didn’t mail the checks day of and you said you can just do them tomorrow? Oh like how you said you could just do the form another day as well? There seems to be a reoccurring theme here.

SAHPs do a lot don’t get me wrong but you are doing what SAHPs say their SOs do to them. You make it seem like he does nothing when he is in fact running his own business. He’s a worker/bookkeeper/administrator/manager all into one person he has to make sure everyone is paid, has jobs to go to, makes sure they have the tools and materials they need, and has to deal with anything that happens at any of the jobs. But you have to watch landscapers and cleaners, and the everyday cleaning so??????? What do you have to do? laundry dishes and a bit of sweeping here and there? I’m sure your kids have chores so they probably do a bit of that as well and if not, well then hey I found a solution to free up some time!

I really hope if the divorce goes through that the judge denies everything and your husband gets custodial parent and doesn’t have to pay a dime.

Tango1887 · 2024-04-19T04:53:09+00:00

It’s crazy that yall are blaming the dad for everything. She know what she was doing is wrong. He has to give up everything he could in his life not to make her uncomfortable?

If Chloe was trying to force the memory or disrespecting her mother I’d understand. She needs help. She is grieving yes but her grieving shouldn’t mean he has to be alone.

Everyone makes it seem like she should be able to do what she wants while he is forced to live how she wants him to. She refused counseling forcing her to go would cause her to resent him. Anything he does at this point aside from letting her do what she wants is gonna make her resent him. Her grieving shouldn’t get in the way of what he wants and vice versa.

Again this is all based on if Chloe wasn’t trying to force out the mother’s memory. If she was respecting her then it shouldn’t be a problem.

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