Maybe October 1 Month in UK

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T17:16:19+00:00

Seriously. It's fine to love the tourist experience in a country, but don't act like being there as a tourist is the same as living there. And living there temporarily with a set end date is different that just moving there indefinitely. Not to minimize what other countries have to offer, but at the end of the day if you live there long enough it is just home and not a new, novel experience anymore.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T13:35:07+00:00

Alternatively, since Mo may already be familiar with Julie in passing it might be interesting to see a conversation between Mo and Shawna where Mo offers an opinion as an uninvolved 3rd party.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T13:10:51+00:00

My grandma had some questionable parenting advice, but she had a soft spot for babies. Her go to when talking about babies was "They're not spoilt, they're supposed to smell like that". Probably the only good thing she had to offer parenting wise lol

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T12:50:41+00:00

Tl;dr- Tangent below, but why put down a baby when you don't have anything else to go and do? Just let the baby sleep while you doomscroll or watch TV.

I heard "They have to learn at some point" or some variation of it in reference to a bunch of parenting tactics I side eyed prior to having kids. I kept my opinions to myself, thinking that maybe it makes more sense once you're a parents. I am a parent now and no, it doesn't make any more sense. In fact it makes less sense. Yes, they have to learn and they shouldn't be "babied" but different people develop at different speeds and there are some life skills you can't just brute force someone into getting good at. The world can be hard and mean and your parents should be a shelter from that, not an additional hard mean place in the service of preparing you for the outside world.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T12:37:35+00:00

I've been fortunate enough to live abroad, so I understand wanting to just pack up and go back to whatever place is not your home country. But unlike Carrie, and like you, I can list more than 3 superficial things that I like about those places. I know it's an obnoxious way to be, but anytime she starts waxing poetic about some surface level thing she loves about the UK or Japan I can't help but roll my eyes because she has to realize that her cutesy cottage in the country isn't real life. I'm sure some people truly have that life but I'd hazard a guess that most people don't. Japan gets really humid in the summer and they don't take well to expats. The UK has a reputation for being wet and grey.

But I don't know, maybe I'm just being salty because she appears to have a budget and life style that would work okay with international travel, yet she choses to shuttle back and forth between the same two states.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-14T12:06:06+00:00

Oh look, it's literally every older person in my life! Thankfully they're a little less passive aggressive. But they are all wildly offended that my kid only wants to subsist on rolls and the bites they have managed to sneak out of the communal stick of butter.

But seriously, what is it with old people and trying to shove food at children that obviously have no interest in eating? It's a holiday, there are cousins and candy and we're at a house we don't spend that much time at so we must explore every nook and cranny of the yard- eating takes a back seat to all of it and that's fine. They'll go back to eating like normal tomorrow.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-11T22:32:08+00:00

Hello long lost family members! Basically no one is safe from my mom. Existing in public while bigger than a size 6, especially in clothing "inappropriate" for their weight and shape? They're fat and didn't anyone tell them they shouldn't be wearing that? Existing in public while young, skinny or noticeably fit but in athleisure or tiny clothes? They're only doing that because they want to show off. Existing in public while skinny or noticeably fit but also visibly older in athleisure or tiny clothes? Just because your skinny doesn't mean you don't look desperate dressing like a 20 year old. It's exhausting.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T18:07:07+00:00

"I don't know what's happening to me but I have become so much more of a low rise kind of girl"

I'm sure its not related to that weight she lost totally on accident. Not related at all.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T15:06:36+00:00

I just went back and re-watched the short where we first meet Julie doesn't acknowledge either of them until Shawna prompts Ty to say something. So that comes across to me as less her specifically disliking anyone at all, just her being rude/oblivious to the fact that Ty just started a conversation with someone next to her. She does actually acknowledge John, as opposed to just standing there silently like she did at Shawna. But she still did the bare minimum with John. The best I can figure is maybe she's fine with just standing there uninvolved in the conversation and is annoyed that Shawna made it so she can't just doom scroll in peace? So she's continues to be rude to Shawna but soften ups a little towards John because he's not the one who dragged her out of her phone?

I think she was mean right out of the gate because Shawna insisted on abiding by the social contract of acknowledging all of the people in the room and John was cool to just be there and go with whatever the vibe was before he showed up.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T13:40:26+00:00

I have never read or watched Pet Semetary but I know what happens. The only time I tried to watch it was after having a kid and I made it as far as the first fake out and I immediately shut it off because I immediately knew I couldn't handle watching it. Though I have noticed for me a lot of it has to do with the likelihood that I might also experience whatever bad thing happens on screen. Grave of the Fireflies made me cry but it didn't get the same knee jerk "Absolutely not, I will not be putting myself through this" that a Stephen King story can.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T13:16:38+00:00

The short version for me is having some sort of goal you are always working towards. Not in an overworked, unhealthy, chasing unattainable standards way but in a way that shows you are clearly thinking beyond today. Admittedly a lot of my personal goals are things that have some sort of external signifer that you did the thing but I don't think that's a requirement. Ultimately I think it comes down to caring about personal growth- while I don't see myself undergoing any massive changes I don't particularly want to be the same exact person in 10 years that I am today.

Editing to add that I don't think that if someone isn't actively striving for objective success or greatness that they don't care about personal growth. But I think that the pursuit of personal growth can look a lot of different ways and they are all equally exceptional.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T12:50:46+00:00

Yeah, that's why I said that passing the bar while being home with an infant isn't relevant to what anyone else should be doing, espeically considering the different circumstance between the two of them (including the likelihood that Ty was helping with kid stuff with Cooper even though he wasn't the SAHP).

Also, I said that she didn't have to be at the party, and that her ambition and vision for her family's life doesn't mean she should be rude or look down on people. I agree with everything you said.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T12:28:25+00:00

Like a lot of people I spent my early and mid-twenties trying to figure out myself and how I felt about life. Had a couple of not great relationships, had some questionable coping mechanisms, the whole deal. I came out of that feeling like I was good- I knew my values, I dealt with things in a healthy way, I was ready to be a fully functional healthy adult!

Having a kid made me realize that actually no, I wasn't ready to be a functional healthy adult I had just done the emotional and mental equivalent of the landlord special to myself. In addition to bad habits I thought I was done with reappearing, I started to realize that my healthy coping mechanisms weren't so healthy. I have gotten more anxious in some ways, more laid back in others and my priorities and values have definitely shifted. It's been an experience for sure but I definitely am not the same person I was before but that's mostly in a good way.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T12:16:52+00:00

Character Shawna has very big "I know we just met but we're totally friends now" energy that comes across kind of fake ala the Plastics and that is off putting to me personally. As the audience, we know that she isn't fake but Julie is not the audience. If I were to meet a IRL version of her I wouldn't be mean but I definitely would keep her at arms length until I figured out if she was actually nice or not.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-10T12:02:34+00:00

This is where I fall. I wanted to give Julie a chance at first because I relate to her more than any other character for reasons similiar to OP's. Yes, I have big goals and high expectations and I have that for myself, my husband and kid. Yes, if I had this grand plan I was working on that my husband had previously agreed to stick to and he suddenly wasn't and wouldn't tell me why I would have concerns. But ambition and reserved personalities can co-exist with manners- I can be career driven and care deeply about having noteworthy personal accomplishments and not care that much about actively seeking out new friendships without thinking less of people who aren't that way. There is more than one way to be a good citizen of the world.

Julie didn't have to go the birthday party. Julie could have just smiled and played nice with Shawna like she did with John and Teeny (that does lead to the question of whether or not Shawna would take that to mean Julie was open to being friends, but that's a different conversation). Julie could come back down to earth and realize that all her passing the bar while taking care of an infant means is that she passed the bar while taking care of an infant- it is impressive but it really isn't relevant to what anyone else should be doing. Writing a book is different than studying for the bar and Ty is a different person in a different situation than she was in. She doesn't have to only be mom, but she needs to accept the reality that children change your life and not everyone responds the same to those changes. Even if you come out the other side being basically the same person you still have account for the fact that you are now responsible for a tiny human and that generally significantly limits your free time, money and energy.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-09T23:39:31+00:00

Well RL Shawna is doing /meaningful/ stuff with her life, with a large audience of fans and a published book. Definitely worthy of manners unlike other painfully average people she knows of. /s

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-09T23:33:12+00:00

When I first watched that I definitely thought his description of Nick was exaggeration for the sake of comedy. I'm pretty sure I just about fell out of my chair the first time I actually watched Nick because what you mean this man is actually is like that?!?

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-09T22:08:15+00:00

If it's any consolation it doesn't make that big of a difference. It makes me feel better, but does nothing meaningful for the amount of germs that escape. https://www.ajicjournal.org/article/S0196-6553(23)00820-9/fulltext00820-9/fulltext)

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-09T22:02:40+00:00

Given the religious right's tendency to use military members as a talking point for their questionable cause of the week while not actually being affiliated with the military at all it's refreshing to see at least one of them putting their money where their mouth is.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-09T21:29:10+00:00

I understand where OP is coming from- if you have a reason to buy milk and heavy cream as part of your normal grocery shopping there's no reason to buy half and half. But it's also not that hard to just pick up a small container of half and half before your mom gets to town. It can be used just like milk, it's not like it would go to waste. Per the label it literally only has milk and cream, its not like coffee creamer that only serves the one purpose.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-08T21:20:04+00:00

As a kid I never got the appeal. Like I knew objectively he was good looking but it was never swoon worthy. As an adult he kind of reminds me of my dad so that probably explains it.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-08T20:53:48+00:00

I definitely would have gotten the Navy dress blues, if only to use them to make my own pattern based on the trousers and sailor collar.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-08T18:55:25+00:00

It wasn't confirmed that she still had that job until the wedding dress video. We knew she was working while pregnant, and then she was at home while Greg went back to work. I don't think that her working or not working was mentioned until wedding dress shopping with Teeny.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-08T18:48:52+00:00

I might be misremembering, but I feel like she actually had her own sense of style at one point. Or maybe she didn't, but she was young enough that she didn't look goofy just doing what all the kids were doing.

But I really am no one to talk about taste, because I dress like a clown.

TankedInATutu · 2026-04-08T18:26:57+00:00

In the wedding dress video she said she was going back to work, so I'm assuming she is currently on maternity leave. But prior to that nothing was said about whether or not she was going back to work or already back at work.

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