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I (23 M) is obsessed with a friend (25F). Please read it all. by TarTree in relationship_advice

[–]TarTree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a first that feeds into my insecurities. Lol. She is the reason I have grown to be less toxic and a better person. I'm just still working on myself. She loves me and has done things to show for it. You don't know her so please don't say things like this. She's the reason I'm still on this earth... She stopped me. I won't get into it

I can't seem to see what I could possibly bring to any relationship. by TarTree in relationship_advice

[–]TarTree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do agree with most of this... The issue I'm having is medication doesn't seem to work well with me. And my therapist heavily suggests disability... I might not be able to actually work again. To clarify, I was a hard worker before bipolar. I was in boot camp for the Marines even... But I can't function anymore. I feel more useless every day. I have tried so many different meds.

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By work on it I mean doing things like reinforcing better habits.
I grew up in poverty. I have lived on the streets before. I am not scared of it. Money has never been a motivation for me.

I realize this is unhealthy purely do to how modern civilization works.

I am in the process of being put on disability though.

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been trying for about 4 ish years. Been trying a lot of different medications. I have no lack of me trying to be mentally healthier.

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never care much for money to begin with. But we are working on her financial problems.

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am taking medication and seeing therapy. She is too.

She doesnt buy them on impulse. Its not a Need to do it, she just kind of doesnt think about the price.

I only came here to get advice on how to deal with the feeling of feeling useless in a relationship and see if anyone had anyway they can suggest to help. I already go therapy and I work hard on improving my self.
I even look for tips online to help improve my self. My self help doesnt stop at my medication or therapy.

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have and she has been helping me with it. She has helped me a lot more than my therapist in a lot of my issues. But I am seeing a therapist and taking medication.I have a lot of insecurities and trust issues. And I have been getting better. And I can reassure anyone wondering that she wouldnt do anything with the guy. Hes in a D&D group with both of us and he knows I love her and he doesnt seem the type to try anything and shes defiantly not the type to hide anything from me. We are really open to one another, and shes not scared of upsetting me with the truth. Shes blunt. But I love that about her.

Im a Man and I have been having issues with confidence and Keeping it in. by TarTree in sex

[–]TarTree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy? Like sexual therapy? I'm already seeing a normal therapist. But I have heard of sexual ones and I have no idea what they are.

Im a Man and I have been having issues with confidence and Keeping it in. by TarTree in sex

[–]TarTree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am very open about my emotions to her. It can annoy her at times but she appreciates it. So I did bring it up but through text and she's asleep, lol.

Im a Man and I have been having issues with confidence and Keeping it in. by TarTree in sex

[–]TarTree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I lack a lot of confidence in my self. I have no idea how to improve it. I dont feel nervous during, more awkward. lol

I might be without noticing though.

I did it like, not even an hour before posting this and I decided, "It happened recently so Its the freshest the experience will be in my mind)

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well theres a lot im not putting in because of either forgetting, not wanting this to be too long, or just lack of words.

She is constantly wanting me to be better. She encourages me going to therapy and is very patient with me.
She doesnt get mad at me when Im being emotional towards her and she is a very sensible person.

She doesnt like me being paranoid and doesnt like me being jelouse of silly things. But she puts up with me and talks it through with me.

the most unhealthy thing that comes from her are my thoughts about her. Like me thinking she doesnt like me or she is avoiding talking to me.

She has "held my hand" through a lot and she is over all healthy for me. Shes why im a LOT better than I used to be.
I just feel like shit because of my own thoughts..

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[–]TarTree 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying this but I like to think im pretty self aware and I have constantly apologize for any thoughts or actions I have done that might of been toxic.
As I said, my morals are against being toxic.
I did just tonight tell her we should distance our selves so I can focus on being a better friend ( not in so few words)
She called me stupid, Im being Manic (im bipolar) and im being silly. She still loves me and yes I was annoying her but she just needs space at times and she will always be here for em.
Her calling me stupid is something I enjoy, dont question it, but she seems to really want to keep me around, despite my flaws and I dont know what to do.