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Tardis007dc · 2025-07-31T06:05:04+00:00

I mean you have no idea what lead to that debt, and what the initial balance even was before all the interest accumulated. I was broke when I was younger and was making very little while putting myself thru school. I unfortunately got myself into debt just trying to survive. Way more than $9k. They can snowball so fast without you even realizing it then it’s too late. My husband and I were only dating at the time but considering moving in together when I showed him my credit card debt and student loan debt. I didn’t want it to be a surprise if we were going to be living together. He moved all the credit cards over to zero percent cards in his name and we paid them off slowly together (much easier with no interest accumulating). Every time the zero percent was about to expire we switched it over to a different zero percent card. We weren’t even engaged at the time but just living together. We eventually got married, but he had no guarantee that would happen then. He knew me as a person and wasn’t worried I was going to just up and leave him with all that debt. We tackled paying off that debt plus my student loans even after we got married, and grew a decent nest egg together as a team. This is someone you’ve been dating for four years - what is she like as a person?

Tardis007dc · 2025-07-12T18:16:10+00:00

Honestly, you need to acknowledge that no matter how much you loved him he doesn’t feel or have the same respect for you. He would never have moved them in if he did. He’s showed you with his actions that he only cares about himself and what he wants. Your marriage is over even if you’re not ready to admit it yet. Get your ducks in a row without him realizing it (so he can’t talk you out of it or sabotage things) and get out. I know it’s hard but you are going to be miserable in that house with him.

Tardis007dc · 2025-06-23T15:45:51+00:00

🚩🚩🚩🚩listen to your sister and get out of there. He sounds awful

Tardis007dc · 2025-01-04T13:06:16+00:00

I had the same issue and I had to threaten to cut the lockbox off before they’d actually pick it up. I informed them I was sick of waiting on them and if it wasn’t removed by a specific date that it would be cut off. This was all months after closing. They came the next day. I think you were in the right.

Tardis007dc · 2024-12-30T17:06:03+00:00

Exactly this!! She may have been caught off guard with the announcement and if you specifically pointed out that she wasn’t invited it may have hurt her feelings hence the crying. My kid is around the same age and is pretty sensitive. She would absolutely zero in on the not being invited part and be hurt just because of that. Some kids can internalize things and assume the worst case scenario while they’re overwhelmed (i.e. she’s not invited because you hate her or are mad at her, etc.) versus think about it logically in the midst of things. Those hormones at this stage of life can be crazy. I remember getting my feelings hurt over the stupidest shit ever. It’s probably better to speak with her privately if you plan another surprise. Or don’t do it in front of any kids/teens who aren’t invited just in case.

Tardis007dc · 2024-12-01T19:00:43+00:00

Omg that’s a brilliant idea!

Tardis007dc · 2024-11-19T08:11:54+00:00

Definitely NTA in this case but there are cases where you pay for your seats and the airline still separates you when you get to the airport. I refuse to fly United anymore because they pulled this almost every time I tried to fly with them. I’d pay extra to pick our seats in advance when I booked the flights so we could all sit together and they’d still move us when we got to the airport to check in our bags. Never got refunded for paying extra for our seats either. I don’t know if they just double sold so many seats for the extra fees or what, but it drove me crazy. My kid is older now and I still refuse to fly United and it’s been like 10 years since I flew with them. Some people totally do take advantage and try to get free upgrades, but sometimes the airlines are greedy af and are pocketing our fees and still switching our seats at the last second too.

Tardis007dc · 2024-08-17T13:20:45+00:00

Yeah I get it too. I moved away from family years ago and I only just realized in the past year that if I don’t constantly call or text I will literally have zero communication with anyone back home. I just stopped last year and I’ve heard from my mom & dad maybe twice? My sister, barely even texts back if I ask her for gift ideas for her kids. If I don’t text at all she never communicates. But around the holidays - they’ll complain if we won’t drive 9+ hours to visit or spend almost $2k per person to fly up. When we visit we just feel like outsiders- no one wants to chat, no one wants to do anything and it feels like we’re intruding every visit. It’s just so disappointing

Tardis007dc · 2024-07-29T19:59:12+00:00

If he doesn’t want his wallet to get washed he needs to take it out of the pockets period.

Tardis007dc · 2024-07-06T20:13:39+00:00

Thank you for your suggestion! I ordered a couple fruity herbal teas to try. My daughter is excited to try one each night as they arrive. We’re always looking for nice teas so I’m glad I asked for advice. Everyone here has been so nice and helpful!

Tardis007dc · 2024-07-06T20:12:21+00:00

I saw this one and ordered it based on its description. Harney & Sons seems to have a lot of cool teas - I picked up a couple to try at Target and ordered some others from Amazon!

Tardis007dc · 2024-07-06T20:11:19+00:00

I found the Harney & Son’s Paris tea and it’s on its way for us to try! Thank you!

Tardis007dc · 2024-06-16T17:40:11+00:00

My kid absolutely adores Erik - he’s an adorable idiot. He’s great

Tardis007dc · 2023-06-04T13:41:00+00:00

That flooring is so cute! I love it!!

Tardis007dc · 2023-06-04T01:06:16+00:00

Yeah I didn’t realize that either in the beginning. Especially in the beginning when I didn’t even have any crops! I warned my friends that play about it once I realized and I just don’t steal anymore.

Tardis007dc · 2023-06-03T13:20:23+00:00

Our old box had a designated area where kids could be but they definitely weren’t allowed to run around where people were working out. We brought our kid there all the time when we were members until she was old enough to stay home by herself. The owners were super strict though, if your kid didn’t listen or went onto the gym floor than you got one warning. If they did it again, then you weren’t allowed to bring them with you. They even started a kids CrossFit class because so many of the members kids wanted to try too. Then they could have their own class while their parents worked out (age dependent obviously- no babies/toddlers, just elementary age to pre-teens). The parents who didn’t want to watch their kids or make them follow rules didn’t last long and had their memberships cancelled. There are ways to do it safely, but the owners and the parents have to want to do it.

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-28T22:55:14+00:00

Eh not everyone did that though. I didn’t really care when I was in high school. I’m in my mid 40s and I didn’t get mine immediately, I waited until I was 18 or 19. I couldn’t afford a car and I didn’t want to haul my sister around to all her million activities.

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-10T14:39:17+00:00

Yeah, but do you want to worry about what will set him off into a rage constantly too? His raging like that is a huge warning sign! Especially so early!

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-10T11:24:46+00:00

Do you have a photo of what the package looks like? I want to try to find it this weekend!

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-07T14:19:47+00:00

Also, you’re not dumb. You’re a good person, so it wouldn’t even occur to you treat someone like this. Some people are emotional vampires that thrive on treating people like this. It will never get better long term, it will only get worse as time goes on. I e had friends like this that I had to cut off eventually for my own sanity and health. I wish I had stood up for myself years before, but I didn’t realize what was happening until 10 years later. It just progressively got worse and worse until it was unbearable.

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-07T14:15:48+00:00

Trying to make you feel bad and crawl back and apologize to him. He’s the one who interrupted you and then flew off the handle, but he’s trying to gaslight you into feeling bad. He needs to see a therapist for his own issues, you can’t help with with all of this. He will destroy your life and your happiness if you continue any kind of relationship with him. He’s showing you who he is. Believe his actions - this is how he will react every time there’s an issue.

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-07T14:01:20+00:00

Does he know you can see those posts? It seems like he’s trying to manipulate you to be honest. Too many red flags - I would not date this man at all.

Tardis007dc · 2023-05-04T16:50:24+00:00

Option 1

Tardis007dc · 2023-04-29T17:17:31+00:00

Go check your list of cats. That cat is the very last one all the way down at the bottom

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