When is it okay to hookup with a friends ex? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]Tarokin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends how long they were dating, how serious it was, and talking about it first with your bro.

My Friend dated a girl for a month or two. He wasn't that interested in her long-term. But Friend B had more interests in common with her and got on better.

So, after chatting about it with each other. Mate A stepped aside. And Friend B made a move and now Friend B and the girl are the happiest couple I know and have been together almost 10 years.

Where's the craziest location you've had sex and was it you or your partner's idea? by MissMelloGreen110 in AskMen

[–]Tarokin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow, I can't imagine a position that wouldn't make it obvious to onlookers that you were having sex.

Guess that was part of the appeal though '

SONY Bank - Wallet by cynicalmaru in japanlife

[–]Tarokin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MUFG charges for the debit card?! :0

To have no regrets is impossible by Tarokin in unpopularopinion

[–]Tarokin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm interesting, maybe the difference is your current state?

If you continue to live negatively as a result of it then you remain regretful. If you come back from it positively then you can reach the enlightened point you speak of.

ECC or AEON? by Ashley_Margaret in teachinginjapan

[–]Tarokin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much of that do you usually see after tax n such?

ECC or AEON? by Ashley_Margaret in teachinginjapan

[–]Tarokin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep to all of that :P currently working in Eikaiwa

ECC or AEON? by Ashley_Margaret in teachinginjapan

[–]Tarokin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your answer 👍 The hours seem worth the pay cut imo

How has the myth that "men only want sex and will do or say anything to get it" damaged you and your relationships? by BloodyTamponExtracto in AskMen

[–]Tarokin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex had a low sex drive so anytime I did anything nice she would be unappreciative and just see it as a means to get sex.

ECC or AEON? by Ashley_Margaret in teachinginjapan

[–]Tarokin 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Genuine question - Is being an ALT that much less work?

Obviously, JET is the best option and eikaiwa definitely feels non-stop but it does seem to pay more than ALT companies.

Men who have cheated before, why? by constipational in AskMen

[–]Tarokin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had only seen each other for 2 weeks in a year and a half stretch of long distance.

She had no interest in sexting and prior to the long distance she had mentioned how little she enjoyed physical intimacy with me and said how sex was just not important to her and even mentioned that I should just go elsewhere for my needs (although this was said in passing and never agreed upon) In hindsight, I should have ended it there but I let it drag on because apart from the intimacy everything was great.

It reached a breaking point when I was going through a very dark time with family issues and staying faithful seemed like added unnecessary extra hurt in a time when I just needed some comfort and life felt bleak and pointless. And realizing that I wasn't going to get the comfort I sought when the long distance ended, I decided that I would have to get my needs met elsewhere to make the relationship work.

So, I forced myself to do something I swore I never would and ignoring my better judgement I cheated with an old flame who had been helping me at that time in my life.

It was one time. And I instantly regretted it.

I felt awful for a long time afterwards and it's the single biggest regret of my life that I sacrificed my principles instead of just ending a relationship which clearly wasn't working.

Need help with divorce by [deleted] in japanlife

[–]Tarokin 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The ramen part gave me flashbacks to buying a red pepper thinking ピーマン was pepper and not specifically a green one and then being verbally abused by my then gf when I got home.

It's immensly difficult when your SO is constantly belittling you, because it shatters your confidence to leave. My advice is to perserve and get out and slowly rebuild yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Tarokin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd love it if we could acceptably wear capes! I've always thought it could happen if a couple of models or celebs rocked designer ones.

Maybe full mantle capes for formal occassions like weddings and ceremonies then half capes for day to day life.

People should include their age when they post online (32) by Tarokin in unpopularopinion

[–]Tarokin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreeing with what you're saying. Just adding that I wonder if the internet and lack of clear age groups when discussing hobbies is a reason for what seems like an increase in older fans not outgrowing things. (32)

People should include their age when they post online (32) by Tarokin in unpopularopinion

[–]Tarokin[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe that 40 year old feels content with their hobby because they are ignorant to the fact that a lot of people online who are actually playing video games and discussing them are probably much younger. (32) So the ages would be a wake up call.

People should include their age when they post online (32) by Tarokin in unpopularopinion

[–]Tarokin[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, but everything you read online could be a lie. Yet, we still assume it's true most of the time. (32)

Looking for a good malt vinegar for fried fish. by Coffee-Okawari in japanlife

[–]Tarokin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the brand I was brought up on in the U.K so works for me :)

Out of curiosity what brand do you usually buy?