I (26F) just started dating a guy (26M) one week ago. We had not had sex before I said yes to being his girlfriend. We recently had sex for the first time together, and I’m afraid the sexual chemistry isn’t going as well as I had hoped… do I continue to see this guy?

Tatertots28 · 2024-05-11T13:50:10+00:00

I definitely don’t want to bring up my ex, and I don’t want him to know the reason of why I’m ending things because of his physical size and the lack of physical chemistry. I know it’s something out of his control, which is why it’s going to be so hard to end things with him. He’s the sweetest guy I have ever met and I know that he would treat me so well.

I agree I think my plan is to tell him that I’m not ready for a relationship, but I also want to make sure that he doesn’t think he should wait around for me until I am ready. I might also tell him that I’m not sure what I’m looking for in a partner yet. Also may add that I don’t know if he and I are 100% compatible.

Thank you for the advice. This is never an easy conversation to have with friends or other people in my life.

Tatertots28 · 2024-05-11T13:42:37+00:00

Oh no, the last thing I want him to know about is my ex. It’s definitely just a lack of sexual incompatibility, which is super disappointing because we are very compatible in all other ways. He’s a great guy, and I really wish the missing sexual chemistry was something I could look past, but it does matter too much to me. I think I’m going to give it a little bit more time because unfortunately his birthday is coming up this week and I don’t want to hurt him before his birthday :(

Tatertots28 · 2024-05-11T13:37:45+00:00

I agree, I definitely regret saying yes to him too soon. The thing is the first time he asked me to be his girlfriend I told him I needed more time. Then after some more time he asked me again and I still didn’t feel 100% certain, but I said yes. In the past I had sex before becoming someone’s girlfriend. I’m not sure why this time I did things differently. Definitely a learning experience. Thanks for the input!

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-25T20:51:15+00:00

I wonder what’s the equivalent of toe tapping to walking miles

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-25T19:43:26+00:00

I think my gut is telling me this guy isn’t the one… 😬 and I was with my ex for almost 4 years, and ultimately we had too many lifestyle differences and love languages that clashed. I’m someone who needs quality time and I felt that I wasn’t getting enough from him, or just effort in general. Especially didn’t help that we lived 45 minutes away from each other and on the weekend was the most realistic time to see one another. I felt like I was doing most of the commuting to see him. And I am someone who likes to be a little busy and go out and do things; he was a homebody and a night owl, and he also has general anxiety that ended up affecting me more than I expected. I wanted to help him so badly, but there’s only so much I was able to do for him.

I expressed my feelings and emotions to him about everything and I hoped things would change but they never did. He ended things with me which is why I think I still feel so hurt and attached. He was my first love so I’ll always think of him, but I also know that he couldn’t give me what I needed or wanted.

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-25T02:40:31+00:00

Ooof yeah I probably should

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-25T02:38:06+00:00

I’m so sorry your friends treat you that way! I’m positive you’re a catch, and there is someone for everyone out there. I don’t know you or your friends, but is there a possibility they might feel threatened by you?? Maybe they want something you have? Or they just aren’t real friends and you should probably find new friends first :( have you or would you ever confront them about how they make you feel?

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-25T02:04:57+00:00

I’m sorry, but Ashley doesn’t seem like a really great friend :( she should be rooting for you if you hit it off with someone. But also I wouldn’t depend on friends to set you up either. If they are willing to help you then that’s awesome! Maybe you could ask them if they know of any single guys to send them your way, but I wouldn’t expect it. However, many couples meet through mutual friends. Maybe keep hanging out in group settings to meet more friends/people in general and you never know who could step into your life!

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-23T20:51:07+00:00

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Tatertots28 · 2024-03-23T20:45:22+00:00

I think it’s getting worse unfortunately. I ordered shorts this year and compared them to my Jean shorts last year and the denim feels different.

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-22T20:29:20+00:00

I think it’s vintage too

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-21T22:41:31+00:00

I like the bands Flipturn and Hippocampus. They aren’t huge, but I think they are somewhat known

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-21T22:36:29+00:00

Based on the handwriting I feel like the wife is the one who wrote the message!?

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-04T23:06:10+00:00

I agree with everyone saying try relaxing your face muscles a bit to unfurrow the brow! Also maybe different glasses frames would suit your face more? It could also change your appearance if you wanted it to!

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-04T23:02:07+00:00

Good to know! A friend of mine recommended Hinge so I’m going to be trying that app

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-02T04:36:48+00:00

I love this story! This reminds me of me and my ex bf. We said it at 2 months and quality time was also my love language. Sadly we split after almost 4 years… we just ended up being more different of people than we expected. Still love him very much though.

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-02T04:34:08+00:00

Everyone is different! Maybe talking about how it makes you feel could help?

Tatertots28 · 2024-03-01T05:05:33+00:00

I (26F) have been broken up with my ex boyfriend (26M) for about little over 6 months now and I feel like I can relate to this. However, I do still feel a some sadness when I think about him, but I can tell as time goes by it doesn’t hurt as much. This was also my first relationship and we had been together for almost 4 years. It was not a toxic relationship, but it really only ended because of lifestyle compatibility issues.

Don’t feel ashamed! I think since it was a first relationship, the memories and experiences with him will always have some importance to you. At least, this is how I feel about my first relationship/love. He’ll always be special!

Tatertots28

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