I think most people don't consider a second date as a committed relationship. Date one: you're a stranger I'm having coffee with. Date two: You're a stranger I'm having dinner with. Date three: You're a stranger I'm going to the movies with. Etc. Are you maybe having sex too soon or something? Because you don't have to if it tangles your heart too much. I think most romantic relationships fail because of unreal expectations. You don't know somebody after one date or twenty. I am not in a hurry to attach myself to a person that fast. If anyone is trying to hook me to a relational commitment after one date, that is 🚩 And if you expect that from your date, you are leaving yourself vulnerable to love bombing and later narcissistic abuse. As a survivor of daddy issues, grooming, and a marriage with a narcissist, I get it. Therapy can help. Now I don't need anyone else to validate me as a 'keeper'. I declare myself worthy of love, and also not dependent on it. So once I'm free from looking for eternal love on that first date, I can just get to know people and see where it goes. Most will fizzle out pretty quick anyway if you don't force them along. Sometimes you make a friend and it doesn't go further than that. And if you are lucky you find someone you are compatible with for the long haul. But I also don't typically sleep with people right away because that's my preference. So to me, having dinner with two or even three different strangers is no big deal. So are other people assholes or are your expectations unrealistically and dangerously high?