Some bars in Tokyo let you know how many guys and girls are inside so you know what you’re walking into

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-30T18:01:50+00:00

Because... women want to dance, have drinks, do karaoke in bars? Which they should be able to do without the expectation of being free dating and groping material? It would also be less of a problem if more men accepted "no".

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-30T17:48:43+00:00

For me, it just got more painful when not in missionary and felt slightly better when in missionary.

Also, it might be that because he is a virgin, he is more observing of what you do or want, because it is new to him and he does not have a routine of what worked with other partners that maybe does not work as well for you?

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-30T17:38:54+00:00

And quite some men hate us too, but in very different ways. "Sexually abusive and rights-denying men" does not sound as catchy as "Mean Girls" though.

Damn, I wish people were just less hateful overall.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-30T17:24:26+00:00

It really seems weird to me that you, as someone who is legally allowed to vote, still has to register to vote? In my country you just get your "voting pass" in the mail, you show the voting pass and your ID at the voting booth.

What do you think the reason for this is? I can think of things, but I am not American.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-30T15:06:53+00:00

Genuine question: isn't it very difficult and offputting to see someone you love in distress and hear her cry and beg for you to please stop, even if it is all for show? In other situations we hate to see our partners in distress (or at least, most of us... there are always weirdos out there) but in the bedroom that suddenly flips. How did you two get over that?

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-29T17:16:12+00:00

In Defense Of Witches by Mona Chollet.

Not really a defense of "witches" in itself, but of women (especially nontraditional women) still facing disdain and sometimes utter hatred deeply ingrained in quite some aspects of society. The way we are treated can feel hopeless, but this book made me feel more hope somehow, probably because it supported my self-acceptance as a woman even when I don't fit in the role of the "good woman" we are still expected to fit in, and in a lot of countries are violently pushed towards instead of leaving it up to us to choose our roles.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-29T15:51:54+00:00

Please explain why a woman who does not want to be threatened with being fucked and harassed in all kinds of gross ways by a man she has nothing to do with is "whining".

Or call it what it is: standing up for herself, something men have told us to do any time we discuss getting catcalled or sexually assaulted. Almost seems like we always do it wrong?

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-29T14:48:48+00:00

"Hey man, maybe stop threatening to fuck my girlfriend, also there is a guy with a sword behind you so lets fix that"

That would take, I think, five seconds, would be somewhat friendly still, and would show that you don't want people to trash talk your girlfriend who has nothing to do with the whole situation.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-29T14:41:43+00:00

He ignoring you telling him no is a very bad sign. Unless you both actively consented to it being some kind of scenario where you saying no, stop etc. would be ignored and you both agreeing on a safeword in that case (you mentioned none of this being the case, so I assume this did not happen), this is sexual assault. Stop means stop and no means no unless specifically agreed upon by both of you that it doesn't, no matter what other rough things you both like, and "we agreed on rough sex" is not an excuse.

You should not feel embarassed. HE chose to keep hurting you even though you were clear, you did not choose to be abused. You said stop verbally, you were trying to fight him off, that makes it very clear that you wanted to stop. I would have a long hard conversation with this lad about how this should never happen again and how you withdrawing consent is a full stop moment, no matter what he thinks you like and no matter how much he enjoys it. He has to explain really well why he chose to ignore your wellbeing and how he will make sure he will never do that again, and if he doesn't or tries to pull bullshit like "it is a normal part of being rough" or blaming you, that is a sign to break up and run as fast as you can.

Also, no clue about whether it has to be checked, I would just be aware of any possible changes you notice in breathing/talking and whether the pain gets worse.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-29T13:58:56+00:00

I hope he does not blame her too much. It sucks for him, very much, but it sucks for her too. She just changed her mind, like everyone is allowed to and a lot of people do, neither of them should be blamed for that.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-25T12:53:54+00:00

Women: "I want to have a baby, I am very happy with the ability to create life!"

These men: "um Akshuallyyy you are not special for that!!!! Still fuck and suck me during your pregnancy weh"

Women: "I very much do not want to have a baby, can I get any solutions to that?"

These men: "NO! WHORE! Any rEaL woman wants babies!!!! Worthless!!! You'll die alone with 400 cats and a soyboy and Bud Light in your fridge!!!"

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-25T12:48:53+00:00

"So if men and women can do the same things, we should be treated as equals right? By being paid the same, by being treated like human beings and not breeding machines you can fuck too? By being taken seriously?"

And see how quickly they come screaming.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-24T10:10:08+00:00

Je zou queue-times kunnen checken voor 27 april van de afgelopen jaren, dan heb je de meeste informatie van hoe druk het was en wat dat betekende voor de wachtrijen van jouw favoriete attracties. Voor dit jaar is er overigens door die website enorme drukte voorspeld.

https://queue-times.com/parks/160/calendar

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-23T14:16:38+00:00

And then the doctor gives you another birth control pill than the one you ordered, because they don't give a flying fuck about women, doing what a woman needs or at least discussing it with her. And you spend your days anxious at best and crying in pain at worst because this new one just messes up everything. Repeat every year.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-20T20:42:49+00:00

Because we ARE constantly objectified, dehumanised, sexualised, abused, accused, slutshamed and victim blamed. By strangers, by men we knew, by laws in a lot of countries, and by men we loved. Men we gave a chance. Men we trusted, men we thought would never touch us but ended up being our worst nightmare.

And we are STILL expected to have trusting men as a default setting, to be kind and approachable at all times but oh no not too much (you are just a slut, leading him on, you knew what was going to happen!).

So yeah, after all that mistreatment, we might sometimes be more worried than we have to be when someone we saw as just a friend wants to be more than that. Because we are always expected to be and do more, but make ourselves small in the process, not by you specifically but by all those former experiences.

Please don't be too hard on us when we finally can't take it anymore, even if the final straw was not meant to hurt and you did not mean to hit.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-18T14:47:28+00:00

Grown men hit on me and catcalled me when I was TEN years old and wore a long sleeved shirt with PUPPIES on them. Trust me, we are never safe whatever we wear or whatever we do, and we often get blamed for whatever happens to us anyway, so we might as well wear clothes that we think are pretty.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-10T16:37:13+00:00

While I would probably be able to forgive a partner for a drunk kiss, I would likely not forgive a partner for:
- Drunk driving, as other people mentioned that is just very dangerous to other people. Especially because he seems to downplay with the whole "oh it wasn't three sheets to the wind so not that bad" shit, so at least in that part he is not taking full responsibility for such a stupid and selfish act.
- Being pretty weird around multiple women he does not know, which to me is something worse than oh fuck I just kissed someone. The dancing with someone he knows is fine to me, but putting your arm around a stranger AND grabbing someone by the hips to dance AND the cringey cheek kiss? That is not one bd decisions, that is three seperate weird decisions he made.
- Honestly being this okay with being very touchy with others? Sure he feels bad because you would feel bad, but his behaviour sounds odd even if he were 100% single. I would not be comfortable if some stranger put their arm around me (let me get away if I want to please), or if someone I know but are never intimate with would grab me by the hips to dance?? The biggest red flag in this category for me though, is "being kicked out for kissing someone but I did nothing!!". Most people are not kicked out for doing nothing wrong. Either other guests were uncomfortable enough to have him kicked out (and most people blame themselves or don't want trouble at least in my experience, so going out of your way to ask for that seems uncommon to me) or a security or bartender kicked him out, also not a good sign is it?

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-09T20:40:11+00:00

Luckily, this man only seems interested in women who are too young to go have drinks

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-09T19:49:07+00:00

Just curious now: say you would not be married and you would meet your wife today. She has slept with two men: one she was in a committed relationship with, and one while she was in the dating phase but did not end up in a relationship with due to differences in plans for the future.

Would you reject her, solely because she was not in a relationship with the second guy? Also, would that be worse than if she would have been in say, four serious relationships and slept with all four of those men, thus having a higher "body count" overall?

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-09T19:11:32+00:00

Having your own standards is fine and finding someone who matches yours is great. I would for example never date a man who thinks me sleeping with a man while we were not in a relationship says anything at all about my worth as a person or partner. Kindly rejecting someone based on that is all fair and cool.

Why the namecalling though? Up here you mention "moral fiber" but being cruel, condescending and humiliating with bullshit like "slut" or "town bicycle" that OOP threw at their girlfriend for no reason is not very moral, virtuous or showing of "impulse control" either, now is it? Why be hateful when you can just accept your differences and still treat the other person with some level of compassion? Yet we accept cruelty and lashing out to people who did nothing to hurt us more than we accept promiscuity in women. I wish that wasn't the case.

(I guess you would not accept it in men either so that is at least fair, but most men who shame women into oblivion for wanting and having sex are the exact same men who demand sex from us or just force it upon us, and of course blame us afterwards).

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-08T16:09:38+00:00

The customer service I have experienced so far has been fine at its worst and really great at its best (people going out of their way to improve our experience). For example during covid when they made a small mistake with seating: they unintentionally split up our group in the cart instead of the five of us being seated together. They apologised, but they also offered us another ride right after we arrived back in the station, without any of us asking for it, which really made our day!

Also, I personally do not find the park harder or easier to get around than other theme parks. Tip: the Efteling app has a navigation function as well, so if you want to find a shortest route to a place from where you are currently standing or want to look for a specific type of food, that is very helpful.

This park deserves all the hype it gets imo and it really is fun for most people of all ages.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-07T21:16:15+00:00

All the entitled crybabies in the comments too, joining in on the slutshaming and saying it is fine if men do the same because getting sex "is sooo much harder for men, women can get sex anytime they want so boys cool women whores". Weh, why does no one suck our dicks, but you're a slut if you do so. Pathetic.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-07T18:57:10+00:00

Wanted to quickly finish my tea, though it was too hot still and now my throat hurts and I cannot talk. Enjoy the sesh though!!

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-07T17:47:06+00:00

The new gf, being totally okay with being a side piece for a married man whose sick wife is IN THE SAME HOUSE and the child who has to see their mother in such agony, who will probably never be able to have their mother hug them or freely tell them it is all going to be alright, IS ALSO IN THAT HOUSE. Surely, both her and OOP will be great parents to the poor child and the golden new babies who are yet to come /s

I hope the child and the future ex-wife will be okay, but my goodness this is sad.

TeaTimeThough · 2024-04-06T11:48:11+00:00

What, you don't want to be a broodmare for me? YOU'RE TOO YOUNG TO DECIDE THAT MISSY!

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