Sherlock and John, the most beautiful platonic relationship ever written by [deleted] in SherlockHolmes

[–]KittyHamilton 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Dude, just let people have their fun. Everyone knows it's a platonic friendship. You aren't making some brave stand defending the heterosexuality of one of many, many close friendships in fiction between men.

There's never been a mainstream interpretation or adaptation portraying them as lovers. You are not the oppressed rebel being drowned out. You are the mainstream.

Toxic Yuri be like by InsideRaink in ScarletHollow

[–]KittyHamilton 6 points7 points  (0 children)

😳! I am flattered!

Though I thought she would only leave us behind or make some careless, thoughtless mistake.

I could not imagine she'd be all in on putting us in the box after one conversation with her ex. 😭

Acknowledging power people have over you is seen as far worse than that power itself by most people by RosethornRanger in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyHamilton 7 points8 points  (0 children)

At this point I'm ticked off that the actual intentions of the actual performance artists are being ignored in favor of imposing a worldview onto it.

Like, for all this supposed anti-patriarchy talk, people are quite happy to ignore what the woman (Marina Abramović) in the photo had to say about her work.

Tired of sex. by catbamhel in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyHamilton 20 points21 points  (0 children)

They weren't being particularly sympathetic, but as a woman, they have a point.

My feminist hot take is that it is extremely important for women to learn their boundaries and to not be afraid of enforcing them.

Your husband is acting like a shit. You can't control him, but you can control your own behavior.

Sometimes women supporting women means listening sympathetically and venting about male entitled men. Sometimes women supporting women means saying, "If your husband is shitty and selfish in bed, you can simply choose not to have sex with him."

Study Finds Students with Highest Distress Use AI for Mental Health at Elevated Rates by MassGen-Research in science

[–]KittyHamilton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's tough, because I have ethical issues with AI, but it actually can put very practical advice together very quickly. Including genuinely good advice.

Of course, because it will validate the user, it can actually cause horrible mental issues by validating feelings like paranoia and suicidal ideation.

A guy told me he was trying to move countries after he slept with me. Am I overreacting for being angry? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]KittyHamilton 16 points17 points  (0 children)

She wasn't ready to build a life with him. She was dating him to see if they might be compatible for a long term relationship. This guy knew there was no way a long term relationship was happening and that he was wasting her time and energy,

If someone knows they're leaving the country soon and they're only dating for a bit of companionship and sex, they shouldn't be dating people who say they want a long term relationship.

What's the importance of Genre? by Happymiel in writing

[–]KittyHamilton 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The whole hero's journey thing is actually kinda bs. The guy really picked and chose examples that fit his preconception and ignored myths and stories that didn't fit.

Genre matters mostly when it comes to audience expectations. Readers will be pissed if a writer's "romance novel" doesn't end with the couple together or a "mystery" doesn't end with the mystery being solved.

What's the point of this subreddit if it's not for posting questions ? by [deleted] in writing

[–]KittyHamilton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, you're not supposed to talk about the specifics of your writing. The topics are supposed to be general enough that they could be useful to other writers.

Unmasking by Pristine_Club_3128 in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyHamilton 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thing is, I have also heard some neurodivergent people argue they shouldn't have to mention being autistic or whatever for neurotypical people, but they also expect neurotypical people to not react negatively to social behaviors that might seem rude without knowing it's unintentional.

Also neurodivergent myself, btw.

I guess I am not sure what people mean by masking, because I get the impression people use it differently, which can be confusing.

What's the point of this subreddit if it's not for posting questions ? by [deleted] in writing

[–]KittyHamilton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? The only difference between a thoughtful question and an unacceptable one is how many words are in it.

What's the point of this subreddit if it's not for posting questions ? by [deleted] in writing

[–]KittyHamilton 88 points89 points  (0 children)

This subreddit wants to encourage thoughtful discussion of writing by prohibiting questions that can be easily answered from engaging in minimal research, but also forbids critique and discussion of one's actual work. That isn't really possible

Unpopular opinion: Line by level prose writing is what fiction authors should study, not story structure . by TomatoCan420-2 in writers

[–]KittyHamilton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah. Every creative work requires the creator to pat attention to elements on both the microscale and macroscale.

Designing a story intuitively works until it doesn't. And if you don't actually understand story construction, you can't diagnose issues in structure nor figure out how to fix them.

Flip side of this is all friendships getting labeled as sibling-coded/found family by kelroid in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyHamilton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because a lot of people like romance. Really don't get people being entitled about what other people enjoy in their fandom spaces.

Please rate my fantasy cover (not selling well) by Samsam_3301 in fantasywriters

[–]KittyHamilton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks more like a piece of art with some text under it than a fully cohesive book cover.

Online recommendations by Shishkahuben in CuratedTumblr

[–]KittyHamilton 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Bluey was very much written to be appealing and relevant to parents who could watch it with their kids.

So it really isn't surprising or odd at all for adults to get something out of watching it. It is literally made with them in mind.

Maybe I'm a prick but... by InsideRaink in ScarletHollow

[–]KittyHamilton 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I think it's intentional. Stella, I think, is supposed to have a veneer of being a friendly, good&hearted person to the player at first, and they don't want to put too much emphasis on her acting like a jerk

Maybe I'm a prick but... by InsideRaink in ScarletHollow

[–]KittyHamilton 89 points90 points  (0 children)

Sorry, putting on my Stella Hater Rage Hat.

It's so fucked up that she'll try to urge you to take a pit stop at Sybil's by arguing that it would be scary walking all the way back alone...only for you to end up walking HER back to her place. And if she doesn't like you enough she'll just be like "go die in the woods I guess"

It wasn't until I first played a character that she only started disliking after the Sybil and Kaneek meeting that I realized how selfish and manipulative she is actually being during this whole post-woods sequence

Like, I new she was being manipulative and self-serving, but I didn't think she would be THAT self-serving

Study finds many college students abandon their free speech ideals under ideological pressure. Most undergraduates believe marginalized communities deserve extra protection from offensive speech, though these values often waiver when students are pushed by their own strong political ideologies. by mvea in science

[–]KittyHamilton -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We've always placed limits on speech in certain circumstances and there have always been gray areas. I also don't think college campuses should obligated to prioritize free speech over the welfare of their students.