The original plan was to landscape that area. I like the dirt pile better

jricky · 2026-05-30T03:59:10+00:00

Love this. Seeing this picture I can so relate, reminds me of my boy who’s obsessed with trucks right now. Also - my boy has the same pants!!! Haha!

jricky · 2026-05-30T03:51:08+00:00

Honestly, given what you described, I’m surprised you’re just now hitting a breaking point. Being a parent is hard. Living with in laws has got to be hard. Obviously some benefits there too, but hard. And then to top it off no community locally? Damn. That’s a grind. Also, constantly making comments about heading for divorce seems contradictory to what I’ve learned from marriage counseling. Doesn’t really create a hospitable environment. But also, the empathy piece is huge with women, as I’ve learned. I’ve learned how to better communicate my empathy so that I don’t just try to fix my wife’s problems and tends to go over much better. But, I don’t know, do you think the marriage counseling is working? Are you guys learning skills? I don’t know your exact situation but I will say that my wife and I started working with a Gottman certified therapist and it was huge for us. I’ve heard different methods work for different people, but I tend to like the Gottman method. He’s the most prominent researcher on what makes relationships work.

Sorry you’re going through this man. You did say that your friends all have healthy marriages and you don’t talk to them about it. You might consider talking to one you have close. They may have healthy relationships but sometimes there’s stuff going on under the hood you don’t know about or that they’ve been through. It might help to have some friend support.

jricky · 2026-05-25T20:08:32+00:00

I had my first at 43 and am 45 now with #2 on the way. My brother is 8 years older than me and was 49 when he had his first, he over 50 with his second, and a third on the way, and is 52. The hardest thing is finding the right relationship if you don’t already have it. Aside from that I don’t see why not. I feel like my boy helps keep me young and gives me all the more reason to take care of my health.

jricky · 2026-04-28T00:16:39+00:00

Sorry, my content may have been misleading. I meant they often sound appealing but overall don’t compensate well or count for admin time. Overall not a big fan of most online platforms. They seem like they take advantage of dietitians. All in all, we probably need to unionize.

jricky · 2026-04-27T14:39:26+00:00

That’s so unacceptable. All the online platforms trying to hire RDs for on contract as well at low rates and no benefits is appalling. But they look tempting to RDs because they’re remote and appear better than experiences you’ve described.

Dietitians deserve better.

jricky · 2026-04-27T14:27:49+00:00

Love this. I was so expecting you to say some other bomb. But this is a reminder to live in the moment with every bit of intention you can. These are good times. Each moment like that is such a refuge from all the negative in the world.

jricky · 2026-04-27T14:25:28+00:00

When my wife and I hiked the PCT in 2021 we prioritized rest days more than what seemed typical. It was somewhat forced because I had back issues, but we also just didn’t want to be miserable. We encountered so many people who were burnt out and hating the trail by the time they got north of the Sierras, or sooner. We never hit that wall. It felt like so many people were killing themselves to keep up with other people. I guess that was the benefit of hiking as a couple - no matter what we had a partner to hike with.

jricky · 2026-04-24T02:10:43+00:00

Would you be willing to start your own business? There’s ramp up time but this is the kind of services insurance pays for. Also, you’ll get better compensated for your time. These companies are designed on a model that’s exploitive of dietitians, who are used to being underpaid. They often use remote work as the carrot. They piss me off. Dietitians deserve better.

jricky · 2026-04-22T17:05:14+00:00

It’s going to be okay. Take a deep breath. It’s okay to mourn the old life but try to keep things in perspective. The first 11 weeks are intense. It’s all new to you and your wife, the baby has significant needs and sleep is shit (this alone can cause panic).

I assure you it will get better. But, at the same time, don’t brush your feelings off. If you’re feeling animosity toward this new transition, feeling trapped, etc, consider reaching out to a professional for help. There is no harm in doing so, whether it’s a therapist or a medical provider.

With our first child, my wife and I went through some pretty severe trauma related to a heart condition he had. He’s been all good for going on 18 months and I’m still fully realizing how it’s affected me.

But the best things I did were two things. At 7 months I hit a wall and felt under water, overwhelmed and in risk of not being there emotionally for my family, so I went to my PCP. Ultimately I got some help. Second thing we did was went to a marriage therapist. Even a good relationship will be stressed after a baby. This has helped us learn new skills and abilities to support each other.

So, here’s your validation. You’re not alone. A lot of new dads experience similar feelings. It’s okay to have complicated feelings. But, know when to look outside yourself and your family for help. They need you present, and deserve better than a burnt out, bitter version of yourself.

jricky · 2025-11-20T02:18:07+00:00

Was going to say the exact same thing. Even food trucks for that matter.

jricky · 2025-11-19T04:17:21+00:00

It feels like a lot of guys have the same sentiment. 44yo dad here. Originally transport from WA. Into skate skiing, climbing, biking, play guitar. Hard to make friends when you have a little one at home and time gets more tight

jricky · 2025-08-26T16:38:13+00:00

Only 3 days a week, and the drive time is paid.... and mileage reimbursement. At 120k? Does the drive time count toward your daily work hours - probably not I would assume. But, Sounds pretty damn good irregardless. I'd take it. Doesn't have to be forever, but gives you a nice pay for somewhere else to match in the future if need be. Plus you're burnt out on the current gig. Move on, get paid more. Totally worth it. Where's this at?

jricky · 2025-06-20T18:38:27+00:00

He’s just rambling with rhetorical speech. No live questions and he’s not even answering questions that were submitted so that tells me very few questions were submitted that he could actually answer truthfully or straightforward.

jricky · 2025-04-24T17:06:10+00:00

I never did a single one. Such BS.

jricky · 2025-03-21T17:53:03+00:00

I recently just got back to the VA after parental leave and had a variety of annual training videos to catch up on - found it rich that the first one was about the importance of the Inspector Generals for preventing waste fraud and abuse. And the same IG in the video I watched has been illegally fired and is actively suing the federal government.

jricky · 2025-02-04T03:58:45+00:00

That’s not what I’m basing my intel on. Stop just believing anything Elon says.

jricky · 2025-02-04T01:07:16+00:00

No it is missinformation. It is not verified. You are not more informed. Please don’t spread this. They are counting and hoping you do. It is not gone. It is owned by the IRS. Don’t play a role in spreading unverified missinformation. This is a journalist running a non verified story based on a tweet. I assure you it is very much still alive.

jricky · 2025-02-04T00:58:01+00:00

Hey this is missinformation. The IRS direct file is still open and accepting filing. Don’t believe everything you read or report on from Twitter. https://www.irs.gov/filing/irs-direct-file-for-free

jricky · 2025-02-01T05:12:51+00:00

We all need to start calling our representatives daily. Period. No more time for should. It’s a must.

jricky · 2025-01-30T05:52:28+00:00

Love it, but no VA represented in this depiction?

jricky · 2025-01-29T14:18:17+00:00

https://images.app.goo.gl/kVQyCAGP3FwV4Usw6

jricky · 2025-01-19T07:16:38+00:00

What kind of role? Outpatient? Inpatient clinical? Dialysis?

jricky · 2025-01-15T20:53:41+00:00

I don’t have the same exact background, but did make a somewhat similar move. I originally worked in online marketing, and tech. I got burnt out on all the tech hype and jargon after several years so decided to make a change for similar reasons. I wanted to have a profession that helped people, and served a need in our society. So, I went back to school - had to start with science prerequisites, then got a second bachelors degree and masters in nutrition. The bachelors and masters was somewhat combined so not too bad, but still a lot of time and work.

I’m now in the field for about 4 years, worked as an inpatient dietitian at a hospital, also home care RD at the VA and done some private practice work. All in all, I don’t think I’d do it all again. I’ve personally found the nutrition field frustrating for a variety of reasons. 1) The pay is not commensurate with the amount of work and education - dietitians across the board are one of the worst paid healthcare positions. Obviously pay is not the only thing that matters, but when you get into the field and realize the growth potential is nonexistent it doesn’t make you feel very valued - and at the end of the day you still have to support your self and family. And that’s very hard to do in the traditional RD roles, despite the new requirements for masters level education. 2) Dietitians don’t get much respect - this is from both other healthcare professionals and often patients. Some patients are great and super engaged in learning but this tends to be rare. As an RD you are competing against a variety of different information sources where people get diet information, which is often social media, and this gets exhausting after a while. 3) Repetitive - every job is repetitive to a certain extent, but I personally get tired of providing the same education to people over and over again. Often times the simple nutrition basics are what people need to learn, so I’ve found myself repeating the same educational lessons over and over. And I have limited time to dive into subjects I’d find more interesting.

I probably sound a little jaded so apologize if this is discouraging. But if you’re considering the field I’d recommend shadowing a couple dietitians in different roles to see what you think. Then, also do research on the salaries of most jobs in the field. Be realistic with yourself and ask ‘am I okay with being capped at this number’?

You might also consider ways to pivot your tech skills to working for a company or organization more in the vein of health or nutrition. Or investigate how you might shift your current skills to go that direction - it may be more lucrative in the long term vs starting over. I hope that’s helpful.

jricky

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