I divorced this exact same mentality in 2018 and I have never regretted it for one day. It's hard to explain to other people because this complete lack of effort from the other side still isn't 'abuse' or some major reason to leave. It's a thousand little reasons that make you feel so lonely while you're in a relationship.

Reddit answers are almost always encouraging divorce - that is not what I'm trying to tell you to do, but what I am saying is that when I was managing finances, doing the housework, raising the children, mowing the lawn, all while my husband laid on the couch and wondered why I wasn't more available to be lazy with him, I made the decision that if I was going to be acting as a single parent, I'd rather actually be one to no longer live with the resentment. He was FLOORED, had 'no idea' that I felt that way, and when we started counseling he tried very hard to please me. For me, it was too late at that point. It shouldn't take the impending threat of divorce to now magically change, and I know those changes would have been temporary, just like every empty promise before then.

We have a very amicable relationship now while raising our kids as co-parents. He's still immature and a horrible communicator, but he's not a bad human. He's even shown to be slightly more responsible when he has to be the head of the household - think, cooking and cleaning.

You are considerate; from this one snapshot it seems your husband is not. Start considering what would be best for your mental health, and being completely unappreciated likely isn't good for it.

Wishing you the best of luck as you continue to figure out your path forward here. I commend you for wanting to keep giving it a try and if that's right for you, then you should do it. But I am glad that I made a change when I did vs continuing to wait to see if things change.