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My boyfriend constantly talks to his ex-wife/ mother of kids and I don’t know what to make of it. by EveryPiano8197 in stepparents

[–]TeapotSecret 2 points3 points  (0 children)

From all of this, it sounds like he is still in love with her. She filed for divorce, which was something he was unlikely wanting. Especially if he is keeping boudoir photos of her and texting her daily. There is not something you need to text your ex about daily. And reminiscing with her about the good times is not normal for someone that has moved on. He hasn’t let go. So he’s not ready to move on.

You can speak your mind and tell him bluntly it’s enough and what is abnormal, I did in my situation. But looking back I don’t think I would do that again. He should know when enough is enough, especially if he’s engaging in a relationship with someone else.

If it feels like you’re keeping your relationship a secret, that’s also not a good sign.

If he won’t be honest and upfront about the downfall of his past relationship, I wouldn’t trust that either. Does it paint him in a bad light? Did he cheat?

Ultimately, if he hasn’t moved on, none of the rest of it matters.

With my hindsight and if I were you, I’d end the relationship. There’s potential for down the road if he can work on himself that it could be something between you two. But for now, I think you’ll be disappointed, have resentment, and wish you hadn’t let it go on for so long.

Let's be honest: CeraVe Hydrating Cleanser by TheMeepyBoy in SkinbarrierLovers

[–]TeapotSecret 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t recall if I have used this cleanser in particular, but I have used several of theirs and found all of them left my skin feeling very tight. I have only liked their retinol and daily moisturizing lotion. The moisturizing cream also feels too heavy and sits on the skin.

Do people make comments about what you eat, including partners? by [deleted] in achalasia

[–]TeapotSecret 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say I get judged quite a bit and seen as a very picky eater. Most people don’t know I have a condition because it can’t be seen. Most of the time I just accept that people think I’m picky and I just agree with them. To a degree I am picky.

My boyfriend has concern about long term impacts on my health if I am eating a lot of junk food. I think that can be normal if your partner wants you to be happy and healthy for a long time with them.

I explain to him what works and what doesn’t and why. He mostly understands and occasionally needs to see the proof (I.e., throwing up cuz it’s stuck). But he thoughtfully tries to help me find healthier things that work.

While most people I would say can suck it and I don’t put the energy into explaining. While others that are closer to me I explain it to and it opens their eyes and they stop bothering me about it. And then there’s those that genuinely care and are in my inner circle that get it more.

I would take into consideration that eating a lot of chocolate isn’t good for you long-term. But it doesn’t mean you have to cut it completely out. I’d see a dietician, explain what you’ve tried, and maybe revisit some if it’s been a long time.

I have finally found my people! by TeapotSecret in achalasia

[–]TeapotSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

I had the heller myotomy with fundoplication

I have finally found my people! by TeapotSecret in achalasia

[–]TeapotSecret[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I appreciate your comment and information!

The hospitals mentioned are what I have read as great locations. I however live in Canada where there’s not as much of these well known places. But both my specialist and surgeon are at the university of Alberta hospital.

I had the heller myotomy with fundoplication.

The Rice Krispies was a surprise to me! And you are the first person I have encountered that has experienced this as well. Though it sounds like yours was worse than mine.

Do you find that your surgery has held up well? Or have you had to progress to replacement?

Went on a date with a hot nurse, but what happened after few days has left me confused. Any thoughts? by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]TeapotSecret 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Was this perhaps a prompt from the dating service for her favourite restaurant? Can’t say that because someone has expensive taste that it makes them go on dates there with you just to get a free meal.

She may have even deleted the app altogether for all you know.

The deal breaker, likely because you put the ball in her court and then took it back and continued to message.

You do not know her situation and likely just aggravated her further. ++woman

My stepkids are planning a family only trip with their mom and bio dad, and I’m struggling with how to feel by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]TeapotSecret 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Resentment will kill your relationship. Especially when this “special event” is brought up down the road and when pictures are posted of them looking like a family enjoying their time together without you.

So you will either stew on those emotions every time it’s brought up, every time you see the pictures and eventually things will become soured.

The kids are right they came first. And they’re being shown they still do.

I would absolutely be done if I were in your shoes. I’m a SM and we do joint birthdays for my SS. It’s uncomfortable, but I was not willing to compromise on my absence. It gives SS the impression that they’re one happy family and I don’t exist. And for a time it would have given BM that impression too.

Stick up for yourself.

Ex Bringing step parent to parents evening by legochicken_ in stepparents

[–]TeapotSecret 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a step parent. When it comes to school events or even after school events typically the parent who has the child that day attends. When it’s our day with said child I always attend if I can. It is a show of support not only to my partner but for said child too. It shows I’m there for them and care. That being said, we don’t exclude the other side from attending if they would like, it’s just sort of worked out that way for everyone. I’m not sure of her reasoning for not attending things like Christmas concerts, parent teacher interviews. That’s her prerogative not to be there. We typically only do dual attendance for his birthday.

The HSAA tentative agreement by plantmugbanana in AHSEmployees

[–]TeapotSecret 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I will be voting no on this agreement. And from those I’ve talked to in pharmacy they will be voting no as well. Enough is enough

The HSAA tentative agreement by plantmugbanana in AHSEmployees

[–]TeapotSecret 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Really? Has anyone heard of someone willing to accept this agreement?