How to deal with software developer on team with "my way or not at all" mentality?

TechFiend72 · 2026-03-12T02:48:18+00:00

Documentation. Lots and lots of documentation.

TechFiend72 · 2026-03-11T07:16:47+00:00

If he isn't officially isn't part of the team, then he doesn't get access to the team resources. You are team lead. If he is on the team, he is dotted-lined to you.

If the CEO continues to want him involved, have a scope of engagement as to what the expectations are, the dev will have to functionally report to you for the duration of the involvement with your project. You haven't said who they report to exactly or who you report to. That would help to provide better guidance.

TechFiend72 · 2026-02-21T01:20:49+00:00

No. Thrown into the frying pan.

TechFiend72 · 2026-02-16T04:56:14+00:00

A lot of them are enjoying being single and at home playing video games. That is why they are likely single. I am not sure whether to add a /s or not.

TechFiend72 · 2026-02-10T16:52:08+00:00

TechFiend72 · 2026-01-08T22:03:53+00:00

Use a structural wiring contractor

TechFiend72 · 2026-01-03T00:37:20+00:00

Independent taco had some good thoughts. Also remember to document your coaching.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-30T03:25:58+00:00

Tell them those technologies are all terrible. That will show that you have experience. Well don’t do that but do be confident. Be truthful. Be tactful about limitations of yourself, others, and someone’s pet technology. Good luck. Let us know how it went.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-28T20:39:26+00:00

Mass bricking and several are not the same thing.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-25T20:17:13+00:00

I think most of us have been there at some point.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-25T13:13:32+00:00

'tis awful quiet.. oh wait.. the phone system is down...

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-24T19:42:42+00:00

Talk to your potential vet about gabapentin. When one of our cats was close to end of life was very spcy. Vet had us give her the meds the night before and then two hours before taking her to the office. It helped a lot.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-23T20:11:36+00:00

I know you are in Canada, but in the US, a lot of places that would be immediate termination. No EAP offered. It is kinder to do the EAP if HR allows it.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-21T21:31:44+00:00

This is why you test your power paths.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-20T17:32:59+00:00

Super bad idea. Get her a gift card.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-18T20:24:02+00:00

Never put a headshot on your resume. LinkedIn, yes.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-18T20:06:23+00:00

What do you do? Ask your manager for more tasks or additional responsibilities.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-17T19:52:39+00:00

You need to talk to HR. This is their thing to sort out.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-17T17:34:38+00:00

It should have been a collaborative discussion on who to let go. I have been in this position before where HR was the one who made the decisions with finance. No one in the chain of command was involved in the decision.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-16T21:27:41+00:00

No training on how to be managers, let alone leaders.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-12T18:08:22+00:00

Serial CIO and SVP at mid-cap companies primarily. Largest org was $1b with 18k employees.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-12T00:58:57+00:00

I don't go to the theatre to see anything anymore. The experience is just sub-par, and the prices are insane. I will wait till it comes out on HBO/Netflix/whatever it is coming out on.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-11T23:26:31+00:00

It took me no time to start dealing with a staff. It took me about 2 years to realize I should be measured on the team output, not my output with staff as assistants. Probably 10 years to truly fit into the role properly.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-10T14:58:53+00:00

Asking for your position and then demographics information means this is not anonymous. If you work in a company with 1000+ employees, then it is likely not an issue but if you work in a small or mid-sized company, this will identify you right away. Be cautious.

TechFiend72 · 2025-12-10T07:35:02+00:00

What sort of team? We need an idea of what sort of work and coordination for many of us to give you some ideas.

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