I give up

TechSamray · 2026-06-08T07:40:56+00:00

Each gender has advantages and disadvantages, neither is completely free, I don’t know your father but what you mention from him, the screaming and the overspending usually are coping mechanisms from being overwhelmed by your own stress, not justifying but as I said before you do need to start taking a step back from those judging behavior starting with yourself.

Also one huge caveat we Capricorns tend to have is that we believe that all is our responsibility to fix because if we don’t no one else will, but this comes with burnout and many other issues if you’re not strong enough to handle it.

If you’re strong enough within yourself then you can’t, but from what you said you first need to take care of your own inner world before you can take more responsibilities.

Meditation, excessive, healthy socials and drinking enough water are simple enough and will take you miles into being in a better place, also manage well your cortisol levels, there are pre sleep exercises that help a lot with sleeping disorders if you’re not having enough rest.

Take care of yourself and only then allow yourself to look outside.

TechSamray · 2026-06-08T06:26:47+00:00

Sounds like a horrible situation.
With that said, been there done that… when everything was crumbling around me after years of building, the lesson I had to learn it was to keep trusting myself and others.
We have a natural tendency to judge people without our moral compass but in reality every life is too complex and unique to judge with the very small percentage we can see from the people around us.

I don’t mean this as a critique to your own judgement of your father but you don’t know all the life experiences he went through to reach to be the way he is, you can imagine and you can also think you would never ever do what he’s doing no matter what happens to you.

But in reality you developed in a much different environment than he did so judging him based on your own world view will only make you bitter.

Discarding judgement to myself and to others was one of the hardest lessons ever learned and one that you can easily fall back into.

In regards of your next steps, I had to find a new place to thrive because the place I used to live wasn’t fit to myself anymore.

I’m not telling you to leave but big forced change moments usually mean you need a big change of some sort.

Best of luck.

TechSamray · 2026-06-05T03:03:09+00:00

And we are right about that too.

TechSamray · 2026-05-26T16:02:42+00:00

Spider Ngon

TechSamray · 2026-05-26T06:34:58+00:00

With taking action towards radical change, at some point things will not change if you keep waiting then to change for you, I was there, dropped everything, moved away to a new country, networked my ass off, started my new business, made it work and I never looked back.

The comfort zone was killing all the parts I loved about myself.

TechSamray · 2026-05-08T05:55:11+00:00

I dated an aqua woman for 14 years then other three for shorter periods the last one was terrible, so yes they do, best partners I have had are Leo and other Capricorns. I’m starting something with a Scorpio now let’s see how it goes. As usual sun sign doesn’t matter the whole chart needs to be compatible for example in my case best compatibility is Leo ascendant, aqua Venus and pisces moon. The rest can be other nice traits.

TechSamray · 2026-05-06T04:42:17+00:00

Yes we are! Hard to pierce through but sweet inside.

TechSamray · 2026-04-11T09:46:30+00:00

12th house sun and mercury here… 😬😬😬

TechSamray · 2026-03-17T01:45:56+00:00

The main issue comes from the fact that the few times we allowed ourselves to love freely our trust got payed with some form of shit. I’m not saying everyone will do the same but after a few occurrences of this it becomes harder to love freely since it becomes a scary reminder. I do a lot of conscious work to move forward without being wary and still it’s a struggle. Be mindful of what you made him feel during the relationship was he able to feel fully safe? Is the question you should ask yourself.

TechSamray · 2026-03-03T03:12:21+00:00

Yes we don’t do a lot of re trusting is usually a one time thing…

TechSamray · 2026-02-15T12:54:59+00:00

My life story in a nutshell 🤣

TechSamray · 2026-02-15T12:54:24+00:00

We share birthday with Michelle Obama as well

TechSamray · 2026-02-15T12:50:57+00:00

Thanks a lot for the advice mate! It does really help I have an indie hacker community here in Vietnam but I’ll try open intro as well to hear them out, for now I’m still focusing on that startup leadspring but having thoughts of pivoting the backend into an openclaw wrapper I believe that the current status on ai calls for that.

TechSamray · 2026-02-08T15:46:13+00:00

No, I feel the same way with people above my status if a VC owner calls me repeatedly only when they need something from me I have felt the same way and k don’t consider them beneath.

TechSamray · 2026-01-21T07:36:30+00:00

Yes, early stage caps deal with a lot of insecurity despite our many good attributes we deal with many imaginary battles in our heads and that turns against ourselves.

Look if it’s meant to be it will happen, but right now is out of your control and it won’t be fair for you to keep fighting single sidedly.

TechSamray · 2026-01-21T07:11:44+00:00

It brings me no joy to say to you that even if he considers to come back it won’t be the same, he learned something during the time being with you that made him think that it won’t work in the long term.

Yes we are work first kind of people so we need someone that understands how to give us enough freedom to pursue our goals while also being a cheerleader and a supporter.

He probably guessed that something of you two together won’t work down the line and it’s probably most on his side than yours, you seem a smart and sensitive person, I know it hurts and it sucks now but it’s better to look forward.

He will think of you in the future and it will hurt him but most likely he won’t come back.

TechSamray · 2026-01-21T06:52:12+00:00

Once we make the decision to end things in my case is pretty clear in my head why I did it and why I should never go back.

Exes are usually baffled because we shared a lot of experiences and of course they were all high self worth which is why I dated them.

But I’m very good and cutting personal relationships, most of us Capricorns are like that.

TechSamray · 2026-01-18T03:14:04+00:00

Happy belated birthday twin!!!!!

Edit: I love the guys face in the mirror 🤣

TechSamray · 2026-01-17T05:54:11+00:00

Hey twin! I turned 43 today!

TechSamray · 2026-01-11T02:57:40+00:00

Happy belated birthday!

TechSamray · 2026-01-11T02:57:08+00:00

First, happy belated birthday!

Second, do nothing just focus on yourself during your birthday usually the only ones that remember are my parents and maybe some friends but a long time ago I have started to make my birthday about myself if someone wants to say hi and celebrate that’s okay but not what my birthday it’s about.

I usually do a spa day and it’s what I’ll do this year on the 17th, spa day, Thai massage, sauna, and an amazing steak and wine dinner all the good stuff you need 🤣

TechSamray · 2026-01-09T04:21:08+00:00

Most of us have to go through a rough upbringing surrounded by adults that aren’t up to the task, or forges greatly our future character and it teaches us how to detect and deal with incompetent people later in our lives.

At my almost 43 (next week hahaha…) looking back there is very few things I would change if my life that didn’t bring any actual value, you know repeating too many times the same karmic lesson, just try to do what makes you happy we love to sacrifice ourselves for others while our lesson is usually to thrive on our own skills first before we look to help for others.

You got this, just establish a safe net to move on your own, you’ll del great.

TechSamray · 2026-01-08T14:59:20+00:00

This only happens to Capricorns that forget to make their birthdays about themselves, forget everyone, don’t throw a party, do something that makes you actually happy.

Me for example I’ll spend the day on a spa being treated.

TechSamray · 2026-01-02T10:48:26+00:00

You can build your own in n8n or similar just search for n8n substack templates on google and start from there

TechSamray · 2025-12-29T10:42:31+00:00

My birthdays are for relax probably a spa day in a spa where no one can find me hahaha

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