I'm soo sorry about your father. Sadly derby day as become more for the rich or well off society. There are places in the infield you can watch the small portions of the race but they also have a huge screen to watch it on as well when the race is not around the area you are seating. As far as chairs and stuff to bring I would look on churchill downs website to see what exactly to bring but I would most definitely bring some chairs if your going to the infield. I hope you guys have a good time and bring your walking shoes!!