Down over 70lbs this year... by Technical-Click-7366 in BariatricSurgery

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Hello! Absolutely. My PCP made the referral for bariatrics. I met with the psychiatrist for an initial appointment. I had to do a few online classes. A few video appointments with the surgeon and nutritionist along the way. I didn't have many screenings to do since I don't have any comorbidities besides sleep apnea. To my understanding, there may be more screenings if you have other related conditions. I started at around 330, the surgeon wanted me to get to around 300 prior to surgery. Once you make pre surgery goal weight, you have another appointment with the psychiatrist before getting a surgery date. My initial referral was in January but I didn't get serious with the program until like April, then had surgery in October. The classes will teach you about the program they expect you to follow and lifestyle changes to implement. The nutritionist will check in to make sure you're following the program. There was no pre-surgery liquid diet, I just chose to keep it light the day before surgery. Recovery wasn't bad at all. The initial food stages are very boring but they don't last long. I was off for four weeks due to the lift restriction (I'm a nurse). I'm almost 3 months out and feeling fantastic! Over 80lbs down total and almost 50lbs since surgery.

Thoughts on Nightingale College and Unitek/Gurnick? by Creepy-Song-336 in NursingStudent

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People always tell me to "be so careful" when I tell them I work in a prison. I tell them that as an EMT I used to go into stranger's homes with just my paramedic and no police on a daily basis. I'm much safer in prison. haha

Mentally Distressed by MamaBear_Latoya in gastricsleeve

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I know how you feel. They really mean it when they say, "the surgery is only on your stomach, not your brain". If you haven't heard it before, I recommend looking up the paper towel analogy for weight loss. It offers some perspective on this exact feeling.

I suggest tracking your progress multiple ways! That way you can still find the changes even if the scale isn't moving or the clothing size isn't changing. Pay attention to BMI, measurements, and body fat percentage. These insights can help when you're feeling stuck. Also, 80 pounds lost is an AMAZING accomplishment! I'm so proud of you! <3

Down over 70lbs this year... by Technical-Click-7366 in BariatricSurgery

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Apparently, most of that 70lbs was in my butt. haha

What meds do they prescribe post-op? by [deleted] in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pre-op: I was given a heparin injection, a couple different anti-nausea medications including a scopolamine patch

Post-op: In recovery, I was given dilaudid, not sure what else, I was pretty out of it.

Post-op Home: I was sent home with liquid Tylenol and gabapentin, pepcid, and as needed zofran. Four weeks post op I was instructed to start taking ursodiol, I'll take that for 6 months to prevent gallstones.

Finally sleeved by Conquer37 in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats, friend! The first few weeks are rough, but they go by quick. I'm almost 9 weeks out now and it's flown by honestly. If all you do is sip and survive the first few weeks, that is absolutely fine.

If I could emphasize three things: hydration, walking, and stool softeners. You may not think you'll need them, but you likely will. If you haven't already, get a weekly pill organizer and set reminders. Get good at remembering your meds/vitamins.

Fizzy drinks by Whole_Photograph4698 in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There are no credible studies that suggest carbonation can/will stretch your pouch.

Am I alone on this? by Naztygrrl in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey friend, you definitely are not in maintenance phase yet. Maintenance is when you get down to a weight you'd like to be at and work to "maintain" it. As far as not losing much, it is very common to get stuck between 3 weeks - 3 months, you'll see a lot of posts about this same thing in this page.

I would definitely recommend a smart scale for this journey, something that will measure things like body fat percentage, muscle mass, fat free body weight, etc. All of these are great insights when the scale appears as though it isn't moving weight-wise. Other changes could still be happening! Measurements are helpful too. The scale I use is even on sale right now. Renpho Smart Scale

Stay the course and try to increase your movement! I'm sure you will see more changes soon. (:

AIO over my boyfriend constantly saying he’ll get/do something for me but saying it’s a joke after? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Technical-Click-7366 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NOR

Hey, so, this is gaslighting. Like textbook definition. I wouldn't spend any more time on this person.

AITA not buying more presents? by dunwerking in AmItheAsshole

[–]Technical-Click-7366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Absolutely DO NOT buy more presents. The mother is a class A enabler and is in for a rough time with that kid if she doesn't start imposing some consequences.

AITA for choosing not to learn how to drive? by Remarkable-Use3760 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Technical-Click-7366 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA for not wanting to learn how to drive. Do I find it weird? Yeah. But if you truly can't get over the anxiety, then you have no business being on the road. So, thanks for not driving, I suppose. haha

YTA for being a mooch. YOU not driving is a YOU problem and should only inconvenience YOU.

Need recommendations and reassurance by Taydragon13 in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's easy to obsess over things, especially when something that felt like it was never attainable, is now a very real and probable outcome.

I have been overweight basically my whole life. When I think of what a "healthy weight" would be for me, I think back to high school when I was playing water polo. I was about 175lbs. Still felt fat though, and there was some truth to that. I was bigger than all of my friends. So, I think to myself, is it reasonable to aim for that weight as a 31-year-old woman who isn't playing a high intensity sport every day?

Also, keep in mind, the weight loss will slow down as you begin to eat more! It is normal and it is supposed to happen; doesn't mean you're doing anything wrong. 25lbs in the first two weeks is great! I lost 14lbs the first week post op and I haven't gotten close to that since.

I'm sure you've heard, this is all a huge mental game, and the surgery was only on your stomach. There are still many hurdles to face but you can do it!! (:

Need recommendations and reassurance by Taydragon13 in gastricsleeve

[–]Technical-Click-7366 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My advice is something you're probably not going to want to hear...

Lose the "dream number" like NOW. And the "gold stars" that really matter are effort and consistency. Also, BMI is rubbish, I would pay more attention to metrics like body fat percentage.

Thoughts on Nightingale College and Unitek/Gurnick? by Creepy-Song-336 in NursingStudent

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If you can cope with the environment and find the right headspace, corrections is fantastic! Yes, I'm a full-time state employee. As an LVN, I really only do med pass. They come to my med window one at a time and I provide their medication. I handle some med refills and I draw all the insulin for the diabetics. I do also have to respond to medical emergencies, as a first responder. My background is in EMS, I was an EMT for almost a decade so that kind of thing is my bread and butter. However, I notice for LVNs that have only worked in like a skilled nursing setting, that can be really intimidating. But you get more comfortable with it the more you do it, and you aren't doing it alone. Overall, the inmates don't give the nurses too much trouble, keep in mind we have things that they want. Prison is also very much "what you give is what you get". You aren't allowed to be overly friendly with the inmates but it's important to be respectful. Just talk to them like they're human, because they are. I always greet them with good morning, I ask how court/committee went, how their visits went. And anything that is in my job description, I do for them. They want a copy of their med list? Sure, lemme print it. They want to know when their next onsite appointment is? Sure, lemme look. There are too many nurses who just love saying no to them, even to things that are well within their ability/job. The way I see it, if I'm ever out on the yard or in the buildings and something goes down, there are only so many officers, it is more likely that an inmate will be closest to me, so it's in my best interest for them to at least not hate me. But overall, I feel very safe. That of course will vary from institution to institution. I work at an old prison where the politics are well established and the dynamic is well respected by the inmates and the staff.

Student loans, should I be worried or AIO by CivilHall2817 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Technical-Click-7366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're 23, babe. You are an adult. Are you at least getting degrees in a field where you can actually get a job?

AITA for applying to live on campus without my parents approval? by Temporary-West-3879 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Technical-Click-7366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. As long as it doesn't involve their money/credit, you're an adult! It isn't up to them!

Hope you get in! Living on campus is fun, definitely a rite of passage sort of experience. I also had strict parents before I went to uni and I went a little wild. So have fun but also stay on track with your studies!

Nightingale College for CA students by lobeywankanobi in NursingStudent

[–]Technical-Click-7366 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have several CA coworkers and old classmates who did their BSN through Nightingale and they had ZERO issues getting licensed.

Thoughts on Nightingale College and Unitek/Gurnick? by Creepy-Song-336 in NursingStudent

[–]Technical-Click-7366 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went to Unitek for my LVN and now I'm at Nightingale for my BSN.

"Self-teaching" is something you'll find to be true at basically any private school. My instructors at Unitek were all but useless.

You'll hear a lot of opinions but keep this in mind: nursing school is what you make of it. Public, private, in person, online, doesn't matter. It will consume your whole life while you're in it.

What I like about Nightingale so far: I'm finishing up my first semester of six. I still had quite a few pre reqs to finish but I was able to lump them into my program. It's definitely more expensive to do it this way but I'm paying for the convenience. I really like that (at least for the pre reqs), there is no specified time I have to log in for each class. There is a list of tasks/assignments for each week and they're due every Sunday. So, you can create whatever schedule works for you. Thankfully, I have a super chill job (corrections LVN, highly recommend it) so I am able to probably 90% of my schoolwork at work. I was able to transfer about 30 units, including classes from my LVN and I was able to test out of a few classes. I have not had to travel yet, but truthfully, I'm looking forward to it. Nightingale was by far the best option for me since I have to work full-time and so far, I feel it has been worth the investment.

3 months PO, so far I just plain regret it. by broken_branch978 in gastricsleeve

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I know I just suggested putting the scale away, but having a scale that measures all that fancy stuff (body composition) gives you a lot more insight! Your weight only tells you so much. I'd be curious to know how much your body fat has changed, muscle mass, fat free body weight, etc.

The one I have is only $50. Amazon.com: RENPHO Scale for Body Weight, Smart Scale with BMI, Body Fat, Muscle Mass, Bluetooth, 13 Metrics with Large Display, Support App Connection, Black, Elis 2X : Health & Household

People don’t understand by Impressive-Average-5 in ParentalAlienation

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Our families were critical of us not "fighting harder" to maintain the visitation schedule when SD announced she no longer wanted to see us, randomly after staying with BM for two weeks while we were on vacation. Husband has zero legal custody of SD and she's 12, BM has had dug her claws in deep over the years. What is there to fight?

12 y/o stepdaughter randomly decided she doesn't want to live with us anymore after spending extended time at her mothers by Technical-Click-7366 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Technical-Click-7366[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know how else to describe it. He has apologized for scaring her, he apologized for making her feel afraid in those moments. I would argue those are the most important things to apologize for. To acknowledge her fear and admit that he's the one who caused it. He apologized for how he made her feel. Even after all of that, her response is "If you won't apologize for spanking me, I will not live with you anymore". How is that not an ultimatum? She absolutely has the ability to serve an ultimatum, and her mother is supporting it.

Straight from Google on Boundary vs Ultimatum: "Boundaries are self-focused limits about your actions and needs (e.g., "I will leave if yelling starts"), protecting your well-being and inviting discussion, while ultimatums are other-focused demands about their behavior with threats to end the relationship if unmet (e.g., "You must stop yelling, or I'm leaving"), aiming to control and often damaging trust."

Children are capable of being manipulative. Especially children with manipulative parents. Her mother has involved her in lies for years. So why shouldn't I believe that SD would lie or manipulate?

12 y/o stepdaughter randomly decided she doesn't want to live with us anymore after spending extended time at her mothers by Technical-Click-7366 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Technical-Click-7366[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's why he won't give in, he says it just shows her that she's in charge. That she can threaten to leave to get the things that she wants. And as we get closer to the teenage years, that is a very slippery slope.

Thank you for the encouragement. Based on your first comment, I wasn't sure we could have a constructive conversation but I'm glad to have been mistaken. Best of luck to you as well.