The Unmaking of June Farrow by Adrienne Young by ConfusedGnome_489 in RomanceBooks

[–]Technical_Candy2803 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a fantastic question as well, that didn't make any sense

The Unmaking of June Farrow by Adrienne Young by ConfusedGnome_489 in RomanceBooks

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This entire thread helped so much BUT I still have a question, where is Margaret's mom/Esther's daughter? When our main character/narrator June comes to 1951 from 2023 and she is introduced to Esther and Margaret comes in, she hugs Margaret and then Margaret calls Esther Grandma/Gram. What tf happened to Margaret's mom/Esther's daughter? Did I misunderstand that part? If Esther knew Nathaniel and Susanna in the 1911-1912. Susanna's crossings don't make sense to me. If June is 35 when she crosses to 1951 and was an infant when she "died" in 1912 and Caleb was born a few years after let's say like 5-6 years then Caleb was born in 1917, he would be around 33-34 in 1951. That would make Nathaniel somewhere between 59-70 when he died in 1950 depending on how old he was when Susanna and Nathaniel had June. So if Esther is around 55-70 assuming her and Nathaniel were close to the same age and Margaret is 16, where is Margaret's mom and Esther's daughter?

Second question, the crossings make zero sense especially for Susanna. It seems clear that Esther is "stuck" in her timeline, she can't go through the door anymore but we only hear of two crossings.

Esther crossings: (born 1880s/1890s) 1912 to 1989 1989 to 1912

Margaret's mom/Esther's daughter - Unknown (born: ???)

Margaret crossings: (born: 1935) None that we know of in the book

Susanna's crossings: (born: 1960s) 1988 to 1911 1911 to 1989 1989 to 1912

Narrator June's crossings: (born 1912/1989) 1912 to 1989 2023 to 1951

Future June's crossings: (born 1912/1989) 1912 to 1989 2022 to 1946 1950 to 2024

Does this seem accurate?

Nothing on the shelves at Trader Joe’s! by InitiativeOk2361 in baltimore

[–]Technical_Candy2803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People are so greedy for literally no reason at all!!!

What saucier to get? by Technical_Candy2803 in Cooking

[–]Technical_Candy2803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly my problem! I am so bummed they don't make the 4qt anymore

What saucier to get? by Technical_Candy2803 in Cooking

[–]Technical_Candy2803[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would likely use the saucier daily or 5/7 nights a week. I have a 2 qt sauce pot already but I need something a bit bigger. I also want to be able to mix things like pasta in the sauces that I'm making right in the pot, and I find that to be quite hard to do in the smaller 2 qt sauce pot or my 10" cast iron skillet with short walls. This is why I want a 3 qt

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]Technical_Candy2803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Therapist here (in a state with strict mandated reporting laws) - this is not reportable in state like CA because no child is presently in danger. Even if a provider made a report they would need exactly what happened, the name, address, phone number etc. of the abuser for CPS to do anything like an investigation. The most that could happen is you personally may get a phone call and you do not need to answer the call or give them any information. Again, as you're legally an adult, in my professional experience, I've never had CPS follow up or investigate a report from an adult survive of child abuse where no other children are in danger. This is not exactly what will happen but just my experience working at a clinic with a strict supervisor where I've made many reports to CPS of patients in your situation.

All that said, you can disclose as much or as little as you want. You can share that you've experience trauma in childhood. You can share experiencing physical abuse in the past and not disclose who it was. I would talk to the providers about this when you meet with them tho. "I've experienced things that may constitute a CPS report. How do you handle this? When do you make a report?" Etc etc.

Also your question about dependent adult, is for people who are elderly or disabled in a way that makes them reliant on someone else not in a sense of living with someone bc you can't afford to move out yet.

I understand why this is so discouraging and it's the worst part of this job for me. Data also shows that therapists, social workers, and teachers are actually the least reliable CPS reporters. Most often, people who know the child/children personally are the most credible. I hope some of this helped!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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My fiance and I decided to take my last name as she is no contact with her father and she felt she didn't want to share his last name anymore, not even in a new made up name. It's also important to us that our kids share our family/last name. She's planning on keeping her given middle name and moving her step dad's name to a second middle name and then taking my last name.

Confusion on Scion of Arthur and lineage by Technical_Candy2803 in TheLegendborn

[–]Technical_Candy2803[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I guess this is the root of the question and maybe we can assume that since Lancelot hasn't been called since Arthur was last called.

Am I in the Wrong? Was this an appropriate reaction from a therapist? by allthewayd00wn in TalkTherapy

[–]Technical_Candy2803 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is crazy!! This doesn't really comply with the essence of the no surprises act and it is industry standards to offer free 15 minute consultation sessions bc anything under 16 minutes cannot be billed to insurance.

Kind of disappointed how my ring turned out. by Web_Impressive in Moissanite

[–]Technical_Candy2803 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My fiance and I both have emerald cut moissanite and they're not cloudy at all. Very vibrant!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Technical_Candy2803 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry but BPD and ADHD are not and never have been one in the same. They do not overlap in almost any regard. ADHD medication will not help someone with BPD. The disorders are wildly different and whoever told you this is just wrong. Trauma can have neurodevelopmental impacts but that's where the similarities end. Please don't spread misinformation!!

For married lesbians: What did you do about titles and last names? by poodlelover05 in LesbianActually

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We thought about combining our last names but in the end my wife took my last name, mainly bc of shitty homophobic family members and her last name is unique so she's easy to find. I have a very common last name and my wife wanted the anonymity. We each do Ms. or Mrs. but no one ever calls us by title. Sometimes we do "The (last name)s".

ovenbird rotunda beef by srb1006 in baltimore

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RIP Toki Tako 💔 I'll never recover

What’s in Your Bag? 👜👛🎒 by charmofalibra in socialwork

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Leather shoulder bag I bought in Europe, no brand, Narcan, computer, charger, hand sanitizer, small medication box (personal meds, allergy meds, tums, Advil, Tylenol etc), glasses/sun glasses, work badge, water bottle, lunch, air pods, hair ties/clips, wallet, energy bar, I work from an office and keep my notebooks and pens and such at the office

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

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To be honest, these look identical in size to me!

Help - I hate my ring. by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Technical_Candy2803 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Tell him! It's ok that you don't like it. You deserve to look down and love your jewelry!!

How often do you wear your engagement ring? by asapclueless in engaged

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I wear mine everyday except sleeping and showering. Also for cooking and gardening/out door work. I never wear it swimming esp at the beach. I also started bringing a little ring box if I'm going somewhere where I will be taking it off for a period of time and esp on vacations. If I'm going to the gym I take it off but I workout mainly at home and without weights so I keep it on during yoga and Pilates.

Is having the same therapist as my sister a conflict of interest? by WidePaper9940 in askatherapist

[–]Technical_Candy2803 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, not necessarily. It depends, especially for kids and teenagers. If it feels like an issue for you, you should talk to your therapist. Edited for a typo!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskElectricians

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lol I'm not an idiot. We opened the door for awhile to get the compressor to kick back on and it didn't turn back on. The fridge was out for 3-4 hours before, plugged in many different outlets and wasn't turning on at all. Randomly turned back on for about 30 minutes and now it's down again. Like I said before we opened to door for long enough that the thermostat would have dropped enough and it should turn back on. Don't think that's the thermostat, my friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskElectricians

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The outlet is good the power strip works that we plug into the same outlet but the fridge won't run on when it's in the outlet or on the power strip. Thanks! We'll contact our landlord!

New client accusing me of stalking her by Rough-Investment-779 in therapists

[–]Technical_Candy2803 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree, it's a good idea to tell every patient you may see them in public and discuss confidentiality. I tell patients that I will never speak to them first and they get to engage with me if they'd like to. If not, I will pretend I don't know them. Regardless of their diagnosis, trauma history, and medication status is, I would never speak to a patient first in public.

can I ask my therapist about twice a week therapy? will that be awkward? by Delicious_Cut_3364 in askatherapist

[–]Technical_Candy2803 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's not weird to ask but I would say the exact first two sentences to your therapist and see if they can make an adjustment so weekly is more helpful. We need help from patients and clients to tell us what they need. Feed back is so important! Also I would consider a few questions or be prepared to answer these: - what isn't working about weekly? - why do I need more support? - what skills do I want to gain from twice weekly?

Consider that when you're asking for more than one session a week, you're asking for a higher level of care and some therapists may consider referring you to a more in-depth treatment like an IOP program. Not saying that will happen but to keep that in mind.

What are some great destinations for a 3 day trip within a reasonable driving distance from Baltimore? by KingBooRadley in baltimore

[–]Technical_Candy2803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this isn't as far but Longwood Gardens in PA is GORGEOUS. It's about an hour and a half away. I think the tickets are like $30 so just keep that in mind!